Annea Report post Posted March 7, 2008 Hi everyone, I so felt like just throwing the towel in today, as I had two seperate whammies... Firstly we have put in for stat assesment for my youngest dd (10YR) who has lots of small but significant problems <especially when added together) anyway the school have been less than helpful and even wrote on our DLA form that she had no problems AT ALL I emailed the head and gave her a list of questions that I wanted answering and she rang me up, I told her I still wanted the answers in writing.... basically she told me loads of stuff, told me that she knew DD had problems but the DLA form was too direct and so she just put the answers she felt most applicable, she agreed on the phone that she could have put a lot more down on the form. She then went on to tell me that my daughter was only on SA+ because I had insisted on itand she maintained my daughter has no problems! She told me that she felt the OT was wrong for saying problems picked up in her asessment of dd would impact on her school life, she told me she would tell her she was wrong! She was so adament to the LEA that my dd had no probs, that the inc officer asked if I minded her sending off for the myriad of reports from physio, OT, Paed etc because she said she had never had such an opposing response from the school. Anyway... today I got the email of her answers and to cut it short, every single positive she had said ont he phone had beeen turned into a negative and she refused to comment on what she had said about the OT etc. I am furious with her for her lies! Anyway, on top of this, I finally got hold of my solicitor who is supposed to be putting our reasons for appeal together fro my eldest daughters SEN appeal. we only have 3 weeks left and as I am away next week and with Easter, I was getting a bit twitchy, I then find out that under the legal help system her firm can no longer do anything but get medical experts on board. So she has not been putting the reason fo appeal together like I thought, I then spoke to my IPSEA rep who told me he was unable to help either <it's a complicated story> Soooo... I was so upset..... I had this horrid waking dream of going into the tribunal alone trying to fight the lEA single handedly.... it wasn't nice at all..... SInce then IPSEA have told me one way or another they will help me, but I am so stressed,,,,, as well as these two fights I am also preparing to go to appeal for my youngest daughters \DLA and on top of this found out that the illness I have < an incrable auto immune disease> has deteriorated!!! Does anyone else sometimes feel like running away and burying their head in the sand? I just feel I am totally at the end of the line and haven't got much more to put in the pot..... Anyway..... I am sorry to offload here, but this place is one place I know where you all truly understand where I am coming from..... Thanks Anne x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flora Report post Posted March 7, 2008 Flippin heck Anne that's one hell of a lot to deal with, hardly surprising you feel like running away <'> I wouldn't know where to start with tackling all of that. Obviously the first thing to do would be to make a list of the deadlines you have for the various appeals and tackle them by priority. I think unless you decide to put one of them aside for now you're going to have to work through it all methodically. Easier said I know! I couldn't do it in a million years; it's been hard enough dealing with the one appeal these past months, even with all the help I had to take it to tribunal... I know for a fact I couldn't have coped if there'd been other battles I was fighting at the same time. I have plenty of spare hugs <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Really hope that IPSEA come up with some support for you to help you find your way through it. Flora X Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted March 7, 2008 <'> Annea <'> sorry things are so hard right now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted March 7, 2008 Hi here is some massive loovy doovy hugs, <'> <'> <'> <'> and some prayers for some energy and some good luck coming your way. I really cant believe the solisitor has placed you in such a tight situation, thats shameful on their own concious, I would look into a different firm if you have the time, but I do hope ipsea will help you, have you contacted the NAS Educational line, also the NAS have a welfare line too, totally dedicated to DLA, dont take too much notice of the headteacher either, I have learnt that some schools dont want to admit that their children are having difficulties incase it then means they have to meet those needs, and in J tribunal years ago made me promise that I request a statement, because throw his IEPs it was clear he needed 1-1 and specialist help that he never ever got, except 20mins extra a week and that was on SA+ so what the point of a SA+ I always advice parents now that if there child has been on a SA+for more than 6 months and the IEPs are repatative and no progress then apply for a statement. And go all the way throw the process of a tribunal. I am so sorry to read that your own health has deteriorated too, and that you will now be even more busy trying to get your own needs met, are you having any support with this as well, health services, DLA, support groups ect.... I really do hope that you get some good news and it does come eventually I have had a real of a time over the last few months and there was times I wanted to run away but eventually I did it but took J with me, we just had a break instead, went to scotland and had a few days away so sometimes running away gives you a different perspective. The help services I have tried and got support from is NAS Educational helpline IPSEA NETWORK 81 CONTACT A FAMILY ACE ED It will get easier again soon, its a really hard time right now, but hopefully when things are really dipped down the only way is up, keep strong, and you can do this. JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stressedmumto2 Report post Posted March 8, 2008 Annea, it doesn't rain but pours I haven't got any advice but to say stay strong, my 1st sol I had was awful too and I will never forgive her for being at the tribunal with me and not even fighting for the school I wanted, she was useless. It's great IPSEA are going to help, have they said they will appear at tribunal with you as that's the most important thing that you have someone there with you who know's how the tribunals work. I can give you the name of a solicitor if you want but i'm not sure they will be able to help as it's such a tight dead-line, pm me if you want the name. I can't believe the sol has done this, can you put in a complaint as I think this is just awful. Don't know what else to suggest, I had a friend prepare all of my case statement for me which was fantastic, just make sure you have all reports to hand, have you got all info from school you want her to attend aswell? Sorry i'm not uch help but want to send you some hugs <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted March 8, 2008 Oi Vay! Hug's cost nutting! Have loads! <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Yours sincerely F. A. Gin esq. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loobylou2 Report post Posted March 8, 2008 no advice but plenty of hugs! <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Stay strong! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annea Report post Posted March 8, 2008 Thank you everyone!!!! I think I just got so overwhelmed yesterday and spent loads of time in tears.... Am gonna take time out today and just relax.... IPSEA are going to represent at tribunal, it was just because of circumstances he couldn't do all the paper work which was fine as the solicitor was going to do it.... apparently the legal help system constantly move the goal posts as to what they will and won't pay for.... my solicitor has had to take on a LOT of extra non legal aid work to balance the books for the free stuff they doand make a loss on.... I just wish she had told me sooner.... Any way.. thanks again all of you.... I know how hard it is for us all to keep fighting.... Anne x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
di30 Report post Posted March 8, 2008 Annea, plenty of <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> coming your way my sweetie. You have been through it haven't you hun ? It's not surprising feeling the way you do. We are all here for you sweetie ok, anytime hun. Keep your chin up darl, you will get there. Luv Di. xxxxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted March 8, 2008 Annea, know only too well that overwhelming feeling and you seem to have so much more going on. Hope you managed to take some time out this weekend and feel a little more re charged. Take care Hun ~ <'> <'> <'> <'> Clare x x x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
