Kathryn Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Help! I have no idea about this kind of thing. It's a long time since I went to a wedding and a work colleague is getting married in a couple of weeks. They've said vouchers from a certain department store will be OK, but don't know what amount is right. Another colleague and I might combine and give him a joint gift. We've know him quite well for a number of years and work closely with him - there are only 3 of us altogether. Any idea what value the vouchers should be? K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tally Report post Posted June 13, 2008 (edited) When I got married, everyone off my department clubbed together and bought me �40 of gift vouchers. I had been working there only 6 months at the time, and I suspect one or two people may have given larger amounts, while others contributed only �1 or something. Most of our close friends and the Ex's work colleagues gave between �20-�50 each. Between �50-�100 between the two of you would seem reasonable, depending how much you can spare, how much you like him and whether he invites you to the wedding! Does your colleague have any idea how much he wants to spend? Remember that you also need to buy an outfit to wear. Edited June 13, 2008 by Tally Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mossgrove Report post Posted June 13, 2008 There are so may imponderables depending on how close you are, whether you are ging to the wedding etc. Best to try and speak to someone else who is going.(safelty in numbers!) I would guess at something like �10-20 if you are not invited to the wedding and �30 or so if you are. The brides mum might be a goosd place to start if you can get the number, they may be the RSVP on the invite? Simon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Yes we are going - not to the actual service, but to the evening reception. �200 - gulp that's way more than I can afford even spilt in half, (and the groom pays my salary so he knows exactly what I earn. ) �50 might be more reasonable. I'll speak to my other colleague and see what she thinks. Outfits - there's another thing - what does one wear to an evening reception nowadays? I think I might be able to get away with a skirt I've got: I don't want to buy something I might not wear again. K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
barefoot wend Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Kathryn Crikey! Everyone's obviously far more generous than me - just call me 'Scrooge'. The max I'd go to would be �50! Far more likely �30 - �40. Bang goes my invite to any ASD Forum weddings! Barefoot Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tally Report post Posted June 13, 2008 My finger slipped I meant �100, between the two of you. And that would be top end, like if you were very close friends, which it sounded like you might be. Someone wore a white dress to my wedding reception, and my brother-in-law wore a gorilla costume. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Well from another Scrooge, I wouldnt be giving more than about �20 per head. Or you could buy them a charity goat - they couldnt complain cos it would look mean spirited Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oxgirl Report post Posted June 13, 2008 (edited) Blimey, I must be really mean! For a work colleague I'd be willing to put in �15 max, and that's if I liked them!! If I didn't like them they'd get between �5 and �10!! ~ Mel ~ Edited June 13, 2008 by oxgirl Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted June 13, 2008 (edited) I think you should pay what you can afford without feeling awkward which will be different for everyone, IYSWIM. At the moment, if I was buying vouchers I could afford �15 - �20 for a work colleague, �30 if it was a family member. HTH Boho Edited June 13, 2008 by bid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted June 13, 2008 I'd spend up to �20 for friend, the most i've spent is �100, but that was for my brother - and i quite like him . But, i hate buying vouchers! I know it's a good idea - so they don't end up with 20 toasters, but it's so cold to me. Where's the evening do being held K? That might help in choosing what to wear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cmuir Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Hi I think how much you can afford is the main thing ie don't go without in order to buy a wedding gift. In addition, guess it depends upon how well you know the person (and how much you like them!). Guess good indicator would be to ask if you socialise with them outwith working hours. If it's a colleague that I know fairly well, I'd go for �15-20 and if it was someone that I know really well, I'd got for �20-30. Close friends and family - I'd spend more. Caroline. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted June 13, 2008 I think the goat idea is fab DH bought me a bog, yes it did say bog, in Africa one year Otherwise if you are buying them vouchers I'd probably put in �20 each. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted June 13, 2008 It's good to hear what you all think. I'm thinking about �30 now, but I want to hear what my other colleague wants to do. The two of us are his only work colleagues - it's not like we're in a department of 20 people where you can get away with putting in a fiver! We do know him fairly well - have worked with him on and off for the past 4 years, but his fiancee I've only met twice. The reception is being held in a school hall - not too glamorous a venue. Is black still a no no at weddings? I have a very nice black dress. K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted June 13, 2008 I never realised black was a no-no at weddings I think a black dress would be fab Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Don't worry Bagpuss, it's something I remember my mum telling me back in the dark ages and it may not have been a British thing. It depends on the weather really - the black dress is long sleeved and a bit heavy if the temperature is in the 70's. Whatever I do - I will definitely have to have new shoes. K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted June 13, 2008 .........and earrings.........and necklace............and bracelet...........and handbag to match new shoes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
