moomum Report post Posted November 11, 2008 Hiya I am the mum of T who has not been diagnosed but who has severe anxiety that presents as bouts of uncontrollable rage and violence towards others. When in a rage T would tick almost all the boxes on the spectrum. When out of a rage he needs clear rules and structured days. He is at school until noon when I go in to support him through lunch and then we go home. Until his statement comes through he cannot be in school without an adult. He has one to one specialist support during the morning. I'm a single mum and I have him full time. He is lovely, very imaginative, very bright, full of energy and games and ideas of things to do. Lisa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lbj Report post Posted November 11, 2008 He is lovely, very imaginative, very bright, full of energy and games and ideas of things to do. T does sound lovely but maybe rather hard work for you? I'm widowed myself and I have a 3 yr old boy with ASD and a lanother ittle boy who turns six today who is NT but who is often anxious. Luckily neither of them have genuine behavioural issues although the elder was a terrible handful as a baby and toddler. I hope you soon get the appropriate support for T in school - that should leave you with more energy for games and ideas when he comes home! janine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moomum Report post Posted November 11, 2008 T does sound lovely but maybe rather hard work for you? I'm widowed myself and I have a 3 yr old boy with ASD and a lanother ittle boy who turns six today who is NT but who is often anxious. Luckily neither of them have genuine behavioural issues although the elder was a terrible handful as a baby and toddler. I hope you soon get the appropriate support for T in school - that should leave you with more energy for games and ideas when he comes home! janine ha ha, I am exhausted, mentally, emotionally and physically! but nothing lasts forever, things change and I hang on the the improvements to keep me going, I have just resigned myself to putting T first, I had him, I chose to have him, he is my responsibility. I get a lot of support (though not tangible, physical support) from friends and family, who unfortunatly live miles away but they are on the end of the phone when I need. It is actually easier being single than being in an awful relationship, I just deal with it and there is no one else around critisising me! I have no idea how people cope with more than one child, 'normal' or not! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lbj Report post Posted November 11, 2008 Know what you mean about unsupportive partner! This is my second family and first time round I had to ditch some deadweight (iykwim!). Two kids occupy each other to some extent - well that's what I tell myself anyway janine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted November 11, 2008 I Lisa, Im a mum to one too, but dont ever under estimate that sentence, having one child with special needs its very challenging, often people ask me how many children I have and I say, one, they then say, oh just the one, having one, two, three children, has its challenges, though I did stop at J. I find it very intense having to be with him 1-1 all the time, he has significant social interaction difficulties, he doesnt even like it if I talk to other adults or children and gets instantly jellus, with other children there is a lot of difficulties, so sometimes it is better for us to do stuff 1-1. My son starts a specialist residential school for ADHD/ASD plus and its going to be one empty house when he isnt here, but he is 11yrs old now and he needs more support than I can or local services can offer him, so for our situation its the best option, I do know were your coming, Ive raised J from been a dot and with very little support, its exhausting and its the hardest job Ive ever done, and having one is just as hard believe me. Welcome to the forum. JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bikemad Report post Posted November 11, 2008 Fancy seeing you over here lol...yup the same bikemad lol...this place is fantastic. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moomum Report post Posted November 11, 2008 Fancy seeing you over here lol...yup the same bikemad lol...this place is fantastic. Just brilliant! Nice to 'see' you too Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NickyB Report post Posted November 11, 2008 Hi, Lisa and welcome I'm mum to two boys, one 10 year old NT and a 5 year old with high-functioning autism. I'm very lucky as I have a fab hubby who's very supportive. I can't imagine doing this by myself, so you have my total respect As you say, though, it was our choice to have them, and personally I wouldn't want it any other way Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
