Flora Report post Posted November 14, 2008 There are things that have occurred behind the scenes on this forum that most members don?t know about, and of course it should remain that way. However, it means that things are said sometimes that have more significance to some than they appear to have at face value. When this occurs it is impossible sometimes to remain objective. I speak for myself here, not for others, because I know there are those who have the ability to remain objective at all times? unfortunately I do not. For this reason, I no longer want to moderate this forum and have already resigned. The latest incident has attracted input from members who had nothing to do with the originating dialogue. One of which I can see clearly why they made their input and has personal origins so while it was disappointing, it was not surprising (and I'm sure nobody wants me to open that can of worms). The others probably took at face value a dialogue which they didn't understand and saw me as the aggressor. I can live with that, but I really don't want to continue to be on the receiving end of it. This forum doesn't really figure in my life enough for it to justify the aggravation. It is hard to go like this and not give the whole picture but I am clinging onto my integrity, preventing myself from spilling the beans to vindicate myself at the expense of the privacy of others, most of whom do not deserve that consideration. The small number of people who are my friends here know exactly who they are and we will stay in touch in r/l. Flora Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted November 14, 2008 Hi flozza I'm gonna refrain from responding right now because, frankly, at this point, I am too ###### angry about this to remain 'objective'. I am really, really sorry to see you making this decision, but fully appreciate the reasons why you felt the need to make it. I am sure the majority of members will agree that the sound advice and input you have offered as a member and a mod has been hugely beneficial to all. I hope that in the former guise you will feel able to continue to do so at some point. I'll leave it there for now - lest I say some things other people choose to judge as things I should have reason to regret <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oxgirl Report post Posted November 14, 2008 I haven't a clue what the heck is going on but I hope you don't go, Flora. Happy birthday as well. <'> ~ Mel ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted November 14, 2008 Flora I can not thank you enough for all the support and encouragement you have given me in fighting the LEA and finally getting my son a place in the school he deserves. Your advice has been so valuable and I don't think I would have achieved this without you. The exeriences you shared with me helped me no idea and I now think its will be a huge loss to others who may come along in a simular position and will not benefit from your wealth of expereince and knowledge in this field. Wishing you much happiness in the future, I will be in touch. Clare x x x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted November 14, 2008 Flozzie, I,ve been a member here for a good few years now and in that time you and others have become valued friends.I,m not much of a prolific poster here any more as stuff happens that you just can,t forgive or forget.Take care sweetheart I,ll give you a ring, love suzex Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bikemad Report post Posted November 14, 2008 Sorry to hear bout this... <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Stardust Report post Posted November 14, 2008 I don't know what to say... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NickyB Report post Posted November 14, 2008 Oh, Flo, I'm so sad to hear how you feel All I can say is you've given me some fab advice, and I hope you'll stick around Nicky <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flora Report post Posted November 15, 2008 Thank you to all who posted/pm'd messages of support. Just to clarify a few things. First off this wasn't an 'I'm leaving' thread and it wasn't a 'stroppy decision' that I chose to step down. I stepped down because when an internet forum starts to influence how you feel when you're not on the internet then you need to remove yourself from the cause; this happened to me several weeks ago but I stuck around, promising myself that if it happened again I would take action, which is exactly what happened yesterday. I'm glad I had the opportunity to moderate, but I'm hugely relieved now not to be doing it Do not underestimate the mods on this forum... at times it's like sitting in on a war council, with all the diplomacy and tactical decisions that go with it (many of which go against your natural human instincts ) I'm not leaving the forum but my only real input here now when I find the time to come online is supporting people who are going through tribunal and keeping in touch with friends (some of which overlap ) Flora Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tjw Report post Posted November 15, 2008 Thank you to all who posted/pm'd messages of support. Just to clarify a few things. First off this wasn't an 'I'm leaving' thread and it wasn't a 'stroppy decision' that I chose to step down. I stepped down because when an internet forum starts to influence how you feel when you're not on the internet then you need to remove yourself from the cause; this happened to me several weeks ago but I stuck around, promising myself that if it happened again I would take action, which is exactly what happened yesterday. I'm glad I had the opportunity to moderate, but I'm hugely relieved now not to be doing it Do not underestimate the mods on this forum... at times it's like sitting in on a war council, with all the diplomacy and tactical decisions that go with it (many of which go against your natural human instincts ) I'm not leaving the forum but my only real input here now when I find the time to come online is supporting people who are going through tribunal and keeping in touch with friends (some of which overlap ) Flora hi flora glad you are sticking around for advise, you do give good advise. take care theresa xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted November 15, 2008 Glad you're sticking around Floz - we need your experience, encouragement and inspiration here. Been good working with you. <'> K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted November 15, 2008 Thank you to all who posted/pm'd messages of support. Just to clarify a few things. First off this wasn't an 'I'm leaving' thread and it wasn't a 'stroppy decision' that I chose to step down. I stepped down because when an internet forum starts to influence how you feel when you're not on the internet then you need to remove yourself from the cause; this happened to me several weeks ago but I stuck around, promising myself that if it happened again I would take action, which is exactly what happened yesterday. I'm glad I had the opportunity to moderate, but I'm hugely relieved now not to be doing it Do not underestimate the mods on this forum... at times it's like sitting in on a war council, with all the diplomacy and tactical decisions that go with it (many of which go against your natural human instincts ) I'm not leaving the forum but my only real input here now when I find the time to come online is supporting people who are going through tribunal and keeping in touch with friends (some of which overlap ) Flora Oh no........not another exmod deciding to stay around.....to do the bits that they like..........should not be allowed...much too much trouble these people are.Just take a look at the last two who decided to do that.... <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted November 15, 2008 Glad you're sticking around Floz - we need your experience... <'> K x Look, i know it's her birthday but there's no need for 'old' jokes Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mossgrove Report post Posted November 17, 2008 (edited) Flora I am sorry that you have decided to go, but I fully understand your reasons for doing so and I have often considered doing the same myself. You have made an immense contribution in your time as a Mod and I would like to thank you for that. I have been on this forum for slighly over 5 years (I was the 5th Member to join) , the last 2 years or so as a moderator. I thought it might be helpful to clear up some misunderstandings about running/moderating this forum: This forum carries no adverts, no member has EVER been asked to contribute any money to running it and as far as I know that will never change. Despite this some members here repeatedly imply that the Mods and Admins are part of a conspiracy to try and prevent Autistic People and their families from discussing issues that mattter to them. They might wish to reflect that running and financing this forum (in the case of the Admins) and Moderating it (in the case of the mods) is a mighty strange way of achieving this objective. Moderators are members too. We all started as members here and we have the same stresses, strains and time pressures in our lives that you do, but we have chosen to spend some of that time helping this forum to function. Plese bear than in mind before you judge us and don't set the bar too high in terms of what you expect from us. Sadly the mods and admins have had to deal with circumstances where things have been done with the express intention of causing trouble on the forum. This causes a lot more stress behind the scenes that is ever seen publically. We do not ask to be treated as saints. We are no more and less than fellow forum members who have volunteered some of our time to help. While we do our best we will occasionaly be slower to respond that you would like, or we may sometimes deal with things in a way that you disagree with. Thats life, we are human after all and we all have our own perspectives. If people like Baddad and Flora and KarenA (to name the most recent departees) had not stepped forward when they did, this forum would have either ceased to exist or descended into anarchy. We are now at a point where we have very few active mods so please be patient with those you have left! Simon Edited November 17, 2008 by mossgrove Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted November 17, 2008 Well said Simon, ..........totally agree with everything Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted November 17, 2008 <'> <'> <'> Thanks Simon for saying that so well. Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flora Report post Posted November 17, 2008 Thanks Simon... nicely put. Flora Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGeek Report post Posted November 17, 2008 Cripes, glad that we have the mods around when the porn spammers arrive Anyway they are only human (moderators that is). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted November 17, 2008 You see we are good for something after all - even if it's just pressing buttons. Phew - I need a lie down after that! K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kinky j Report post Posted November 17, 2008 Very true, SG. Good job mods Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flora Report post Posted November 17, 2008 Cripes, glad that we have the mods around when the porn spammers arrive Anyway they are only human (moderators that is). porn spammers? Sounds like a type of fast food Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
