Diane

GRRRRRRRRRRRR! i have workmen fitting a floor today and they unplugged my wifi as i pressed add reply. I will try again! Hi Karen My DS does not have a statement as he does not have 'learning difficulties' he is high functioning. A very intelligent child who just has a learning need as far as social communication is concerned. Not enough to warrant a statement in these parts. Yet he is bad enough to be seen for two and a half years by CAMHS, attend a PRU and have an outreach teacher. Soon to be having an assessment for medication. As far as the LEA are concerned he is not a problem that needs supporting! I have just phoned the area education office and guess what the person dealing with my DS's case is not available infact they do not know if she works today or if at all. Why am I not surprised. yes i feel as as if i am :wallbash:

Well what can i say the LEA are penny pinching again. As some of you know my DS struggled badly with mainstream despite being supportedby CMHAS and an outreach teacher. He started attending a speciliased PRU in October of last year and his outreach teacher went with him. She not only supported our DS but also us as a family. Earlier this week the LEA in there wisdom changed our DS's funding pot and axed his support overnight. He was funded by his mainstream school and is now funded direct from county as fr as I am aware. I have had no letter to explain any of this to me. I had to find out for myself. His outreach teacher is not happy and is trying to get the funding back so she can give the much needed support. What the LEA did do was send me a letter congratualting on the fact that my son would be starting at the school he already attends in September. I am going to phone them today. This is a letter for Year nine parents. Idiots!! So now the fight is on the get it reinstated. I will need all the luck in the world. I know they will drag their feet. I think those who sit in their little boxes and make these dicisions have no idea the impat on what they decide has. If they were made to come out to the real world and see the havoc their decisions have on peoples lives i'd like to think the outcome would be very different.

My daughter was on fluoxetine for a while. She also had sessions at CAMHS as she lst the plot abit having to live with our DS who is AS. It made the difference for her and abled her to go to counselling . If it had not been for the fluoxetine she would I believe co me to har,m. she had mild side effects for two weeks but was then ok.

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You make me laugh! Myself

I just found you link and followed it so now have the directions. Thanks

I do not know i can make it but i did get an invite in the post as I am on the mailing list of Autism Suffolk. Rougham Airfield where is it. I live on the Suffolk, Essex border

Thank you all. It makes a difference just knowing that I am being thought about.

Hi Frizz, Yep I know this one from personal experience. The answer for us was to reduce our DS anxiety. As always easier said than done as they have to accept they have a problem first. I needed lots of help from CAMHS with this and also an outreach teacher after two years my DS is a different child and learning. Good luck.

Welcome to the forum i am sure you will find lots of support and answer here to help you on your way.

My son hated art until he was introduced to it through his obsession with guitars. He is now working on creating guitar with his own artistic flair. It turns out he has quite a talent. learning the vocab has nolonger been a problem. If you can find out what interests them and use this as a visual to link the words in that you need them to know you will suceed. I know what i mean but not sure if I have put it across to you very well. If you need to ask me what I mean thats fine.

I have read up about this and yes it can be the norm for someone with AS to have another person as their obsession. This is not just about the opposite sex but with anyone who comes into your life. I do not have any advice as this is something i am still researching. My own interest is that my DS has an obsession with his psychologist and has attachment issues. When I have learnt more about this and it could take a while I will let you know.

If I find an answer I will let you know.Karen. when you have the answer can you let me know it as well. Yes I expect it is funding and which por it comes out of and you will need to tick all the boxes in one of the pots. Don't know what i can say that will help except I understand your frustration!!!

My DS has passed this test but is not able to generalise so when in conversation with others or situations he thinks they know what he knows and thinks. It may be that he is high functioning and ina controlled environment is able to give the correct response but once in situation where he is anxious he loses this ability.

I guess for most people it is an everyday occurance and they need really big huge major events to give them the same feeling we have about our kids going out. simple pleasures

I'd give anything for my lad to have a friend, if he'd had one friend at school I never would have taken him out. ~ Mel ~ Hi Mel I know that feeling well. My DS did not have a friend until year 10 (even though my DS was only there once a blue moon)and then one lovely lad decided not to give up on my DS. I love this boy he is wonderful and understanding and has a maturity beyond his years.Even though my DS left mainstream 3 months into year 10 this lad has made a huge effort to keep in touch. So even though my DS does not return his calls and refuses to meet with him it has some how survived in an odd sort of way. My wish for you and your lad is that one day a friend will appear. You won't be expecting it as I certainly was not. <'> ><

Hi Emma, There must be something in the water. My DS who never leaves the house only for school came out with us at the weekend. We took him into town when it was quiet and we bought him a new headset he needed and then the next day he came out to lunch with us and to the cinema. Amazing. Whatever he is on just now i would like to bottle it. what amazes me is he was fine with everything. I think poor hubby and I were the anxious ones. Still cannot believe it. So here's to you and me

Hi giggles Welcome onboard. Everyone here is friendly and helpful.

hmmmmmmm. Interesting. I would like to know too

Where to begin I do not know. I have had some distressing news re my DS not life threatening just distressing. When i feel able I might post about it somewhere else. Life really is RUBBISH sometimes! :wallbash: My eyes are sore and I have given myself a headache. :angry:

Hi Skye, Home schooling is something i considered briefly for my DS but I decided against it as I was concerned about the lack of social interaction my son would have. It has been the journey from hell but he is now in a PRU that deals with children specifically on the spectrum, but it is only for years 10 and 11. I know I made the right decision for my DS son as school is his only social scene and the only time he leaves the house. If it were not for school he really would have no life outside of home as he is a recluse. Home schooling is a very personal choice and I know that it works well for some and there are a people on this sight who home school successfully. I think it is one of those horrid situations where only you can make the decision that is right for you. Not much help I know. Good luck with which ever option you go with either choice has its ups and downs.

Good luck with your new job starting 1st June.

Ha ha! blood spatter. when my DS was four (too long ago now) he went to a friend of mine to be looked after for an hour or so. I received a phone call to say he had fallen i their garrage and cut his head. when I got there, there was an awful lot of blood on the garage floor and he needed stitches.As you can imagine that in its self is another story. There was so much blood on the garage floor they had it painted red with special floor paint, and it was a double garage. expensive!!!! all these years later yo cannnot even see the scar. well done NHS!!

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In our first flat we painted 24 different paint samples on our bedroom wall, decided we did not like any of them so wallpapered. lol