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Please keep this thread on track after the last one. The latest thing with my sons school is they have seated the bully who is meant to be kept away from ds on the same table as him n he is scared to go to school as he is opposite the kid who makes his life hell...this combined with everything else ive decided to pull him from the school and went to see a school with ds on Friday n this school has a child with the same probs with eating as ds n also has kids with adhd and aspergers n they have a refreshing approach n accept every child is different and cant be put into a mould. The school as a whole seems better run n has a far better way of dealing with bullying. He has a bunch of appointments over the next few weeks so we have defered the start date to March 23rd. My lad feels quite positive bout it n ultimatly made the final decision on the school as if he wasnt comfortable there or happy then id have home educated. The school he is moving too know ive tried them on the reference of another parent n that if it dont work then il be home edding ds n they are fine with it.

My son has had similer happen but doesnt bother telling the teachers half the time cos they wont beleive him so he sees no point in telling them. <'>

The O/T and also the other school ive contacted and the lea person have all agreed the school are being far too pedantic and also have one rule for one n one rule for another as theres a lad with adhd who can eat what he wants when he wants has an hour for lunch not half hour n can eat it were he wants....all my lad needs is to not eat stuff that makes him throw up.

Yup im with you...im sick of it being passed of as boys being boys...just a way to get out of the extra paper work or actually having to do something to sort it.

Well so far O/T have run n let rip at them for not taking into account ds's eating disorder and in fact told them their actions could make him worse....not that the school listened!!!!! The LEA now know and are looking into it and ive drafted a letter to my local mp, also spoken to another school nearby who have a child already with the same stuff as ds so ringing them again tomorow to make an appointment to see the school etc n also got the home ed part of the lea ringin me tomorow with info. O get this...the school say theres no bullying but found ot today one of the 4 kids who have moved due to being bullied well her kid was bullied by the kid who picks on ds...one time the lad held the girl under a drain n soaked her n when the mam asked what was done to him the school said nothing n she asked why is he allowed to bully n the school said o thats not bullying!!!! Then another time said kid plus others were chasing the girls n pulling up their skirts n trying to touch the girls you know what n this girl turned round n punched one of them n she got punished!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF!!!!! The mam went mental n said what are you teaching them...its ok to be crude n touch privates but not to stick up for yourself....but this is the school who say theirs no bullying n that the lad involved is good as gold. Once ive got ds sorted n moved etc im seriously thinking of going to the papers n outing the school for what they really are.

O gawd. <'> I know my lad is on 5mg of melatonin but he has 3 weeks on n one week off.

Grgh nearly lost it with the head just now on the phone. She agreed the baked crisp things were ok but another teacher told me son he could only have them today n had to bring something else tomorrow so rung her n said who in gods name is in charge n she said get this they would rather he brought a yogurt/cereal bar or fruit so that he isn't different cos otherwise kids l pick on him n then it is more work for them n time they have to spend sorting it.....thats their ###### job!!!!!!!! They told me to wake him earlier n give him the baked crisps for breakfast.....he wont eat breakfast!!!!! Going to get O/T to ring them tomorow cos they just wont listen to me. On the phone I said 'I dont care bout him fitting in with what you want im not making him ill just so he fits in'.

<'> <'> I know ive been there before n just felt like giving up the fight.....dont know what to advise but couldn't read n run. <'>

My lads school are an eco school n push for healthy everything...all well n good but my lad has severe sensory issues with food n wont touch most of the stuff they want him to eat...he even came home once ill cos he hadnt eaten at school cos he didnt like the food. Anyways sent this letter today..... F.A.O. Mrs M(&%�" C.C Mrs J(&^%$�. Jordan has brought it to my attention that he has been told his healthy eating snacks he brings for snack are not suitable. As you are aware from his occupational therapy report he has problems with eating among other things and as I?ve mentioned recently to Mrs. M)&%*$ it has been getting worse as he has not been eating his packed lunch etc?.he has problems eating and has a VERY limited diet at the best of times and if you get him to try something he cant stomach the taste/texture etc of he will literally gag and throw it up?.if I were to stick to the strict healthy eating rules the school has he would barely eat at all and in fact the day he recently came home with stomach ache was due to the fact he had barely eaten that day as the food had made him feel sick?so as a result of this I give him food I know he will eat so as he has at least some food in him during school?the snacks are healthy snacks and the packed lunch is as healthy as I can get him to eat without him bringing it back up in the dinner hall. If there is a problem with this please let me know and I will come and collect Jordan from school and contact the local education authority and ask them the best way round it so as he is able to return to school and eat while there. Many thanks E*^$ R(&%�". School rung me n said o will he eat fruit...nope...will he eat cereal bars...nope....will he eat a soft fruit bar like go ahead...nope...will he eat salad...nope you get the idea. She asked what he will eat n I said easy look in his lunchbox!!! I said im not being funny but dont you think ive tried everything possible in the 9 years ive been bringing him up.....and if you have a problem O/T have said they will ring you n put you straight on the matter. Grgh!!!!! Edited to remove a name.

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O gawd sounds like my lad last week when it was his week off melatonin...n what is it with cheats my lad is the same lol. Hope he dropped off eventually.

Thanks for the replies....good to know it isnt just him lol. Im forever finding trousers n pants round the house in obscure places were he has stripped off.

Wish there was a way to quote more than one reply in my reply as theres so much here that is my son to a t it is mad but also comforting to know im not alone in dealing with it!!!!

It is getting a bit awkward now..ds is always hot even when it is cold...put him to bed in pj;'s n by time he drops off all the bottoms are off n duvet off so all 'bits' on show but in morning he wakes n wanders round naked.....thing is he is getting older n will soon need to be learning bout a time n place n privacy kinda thing plus sometimes my 13 yr old step daughter sleeps over. He also always has his hand down his pants 'playing' cos it 'feels nice' but he literally can be anywhere so makes it awkward...have tried saying for him to keep it to his own room etc but half the time he dont even know he doing it like now when we were doing homework(or battle!!!)had to constantly tell him to stop doing it. N now he is in his room he stripped off to a tshirt again. Is this normal? He is always hot n always says he would prefer to be naked all the time.

Aaawwww well done J.

Blimey are you sure your not writting about my son!!!!????

My son does it yeah....he tucks his teddies in at night to keep them warm, covers toys eyes when he gets changed so they cant see etc etc.

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Im still getting it, couldnt get on here at all yesterday.

That makes me mad when they pass the buck and blame the parents..they tried it with me n told me I had no bond with my son....I went mad n went into an hours long no stop to breath run down of exactly how bonded I am with my son n how much I do with him n for him etc etc.....they soon shut up n realized I wasnt budging n knew something was wrong with ds.

Im so pleased for you.

Another one here...one day he is ok n looks angelic but then the next day he the devils spawn and horrendous.....he seems to alter according to whats happening that day. Last time we went to camhs he trashed the place but the time before sat there like a little lamb engrossed on his ds.

Glad it is not just me.

Thanks for that info