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Dunno but Cyprus sounds good to me

A great big definate YES. DD has to win every argument. If she can't win verbally then she'll get physical. She will always have the last word not matter what

Don't know what to say to you to help, sorry, so sending loads of hugs <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

Hi All In our house homework seems to be the biggest swear word ever. I've given up. If Z isn't in the mood for it then we risk being stabbed with the pen or pencil, so I told school if it's done consider it a bonus but I'm nt putting the rest of us at risk of anything just for a bit of homework Sending you hugs <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

GOOD LUCK

Hi I have similar with DD's school but you know your DD best. Go with your gut instinct and keep on pushing. If the school is like ours, they don't seem to know any of the kids in the class and are completely oblivious as to what goes on in class. It seems that the ones that can, do and the ones that can't are just ignored DD 12 dx ASD,ADHD,Dyspaxia and complex learning difficulties

Hi Found this really informative. I may try to do a similar thing with Z as she says when the teacher at school is talking it feels like her head is full of cotton wool. All stuffy and full

Hi Anniebean Welcome and your not alone Don't blame yourself for any of this, it's not your fault and you've done nothing wrong. It's just another part of who L is Keep your chin up

Soooooo pleased for you I's lovely to read a positive about school

Aaaww you poor thing Don't feel bad though, were probarbly all guilty of that one. I know I am

Yes no prolem When I did one for Z's statement it covered 3 pages(A4) Waffled about everything even how we go to the same place on holiday cos of Z as this makes life easier

Hi Well we hmanaged to hold our tongues at parents evening. Kept my hands in my pockets and my tongue between my teeth Was a little better than expected as the staff have now been told to treat Z with lots of TLC. Most of the staff seemed a little to false though as Z was with us and they spent their time talking everso nicely to her rather than us She went to school this morning but I had a call by 8:45 saying that she didn't want to stay but they'll do all they can to keep her there. Here's hoping(she's still there yet!)

Sorry no advise here either but same problem I don't know how she does it, I collapse from shear exhaustion and she still keeps going Awake til stupid o'clock and up with the larks (also stupid o'clock)

Thanx Karen But it's just nice to be able to talk on here and know that people understand what your going through Got parents evening later today and dh isn't vey happy. Hope he holds it together Should be a bundle of fun(not!)

Hi I've got similar with Z. Her dx is ASD(Aspergers Syndrome). I think there's such a fine line between the 2 that it depends on whether they're on a good or bad day when assessed as to which way the dx goes Sorry not much help but you're not alone

Well Z isn't in school again today but following yesterday we didn't think she would be. Her head of year has been round to try and get her into school but even the promises of no lessons and being able to hang out in the library didn't work this time. Apparently the teaching staff haven't been informed of the problems Z is having at the moment. Her head of year and SENCO have thought it best to say nothing Maybe they will inform the teaching staff now that this has happened. I'm hoping so Feels like ever decreasing circles. Something will have to change soon

Thanx Karen I'll keep you informed as to what happens although Z may not go to school tomorrow, I'm waiting for her refusing to go again. She was in school today and was actually attending lessons, when she was in geography her teacher told her to get her book out and it wasn't in her bag, it was in the library, which is where she gets told to keep her stuff. The teacher went mental at her, shouted and ordered her to go and get it. She was really upset by this and came home in such a state, which is really sad cos she was trying

Thanx Karen But one of the problems I've got is with the SENCO. She knows best apparently and makes you feel as though 'you're just her mother, what would you know' Hope that makes sense Because Z is having real problems with Maths(working at primary Yr 2-3 levels),she's Yr7 I asked her for a Discalculia assessment so that we would know what we're dealing with or not, as the case may be, she said that if oly if I wanted to give Z another label. I ranted a bit at that saying that I'd prefer she had no labels but we need to know. She decided that she wasn't going todo it and described Z as having a severe learning disability especially in that area. We've only ever been told she has complex learing difficulties I don't think she'd agree to an early review unless it suited her and fit into her timetable She isn't very welcoming if you ask for things, she has to suggest them first Sorry for harping on so much

Hi Karen ISA is Information Sharing and Assessment, the multi agency thing and TAC is Team Around the Child which is for children suppoerted by more than one agency. TAC meetings bring all involved into one meeting so they can compare and discuss the best ways to support a child without conflicting each others methods of support

Hi all Had a bit of a ding-dong with the SENCO yesterday, she seems to be making a lot of decisions without discussing them with us. She has decided that we no longer need TAC and the dae for the closure of ISA proces was Feb 2008. Apparently satisfactory outcomes were achieved The 1st onewas 'Enjoy and Achieve' which basically means young people achieve stretching national educational standards at secondary school, not bad for someone who discribed as having a severe learning disability 2nd 'Make a positive contribution' which includes things like successfully deal with significant life changes and challenges, engage in positive behaviour in and out of school And 3rd Achieve Economic Well Being-This means young people engage in further education, employment or training on leaving school and are ready for employment Not bad for a 12 year old who refuses to go to school. HELP!!!!

I have my dad close by, but he works out of the country a lot but if there is a family thing going he insists we go and let them all see who Z really is, after all they're family and they should understand It's not usually to bad

Nobody should have the right to talk about your son without discussing it with you first but it does happen When I heard Z being talked about on the school yard by a couple of other mums I joined in the conversation, I told then yes she is a complete nut-case at times but she does have her reasons for behaving in this way, Does your child have similar problems as she seems to be very similar. Its quite surprising how the "other mums"(the ones that just give you the look) soon go quiet It can be soooo nice to see their faces when confronted with such a question Don't think this will help much in your situation though, sorry

Can you please tell us some of the 101 things on your list, we might be able to try a few

Yes very alone at times. but you get through it somehow, just don't know how perhaps it's the chaos just takes your mind off it for a while Keep on smiling Oh and coffee and chocolate helps

Hi Terri Hope we can be of some help