rainbow queen

thank you everyone for the replys my other son the 4 year old has been on iq [fish oils] for just over 2 years now-and i think it has made a lot of difference to him my 3 year old refuses to take the liquid ive tryed many times and he spits it out then i go mad cause its quite expensive but i will perserve with it i understand what everyones saying i think i will talk to my gp and see how he adjusts to nursery-i will point out the things you said.

as a few of you know its my 4 year old who i belive has as[not dx as yet] but has various probs and global developmental delay but im wondering should i take my other son to gp as im wondering if he could have adhd noones ever really checked if he is ok-only at the 2 year check that just dose the basics as he will not sit still runs around jumps and squirms over all chairs sings and twitters on all day long the thing that struck me is i took him for 2 hours to look round nursery where he starts in jan and he was all over the place and could not sit in the chair etc.... it was very noticable do i wait till he starts nursery and see what they say?? i did tell the autistic speech therapist my concern-but she didnt really say what i should do[this was at other appointment for my 4 year old] or should i start of by going my gp as other son is already been and still in the ongoing process with hospital consultant and cdc,ect....

what about the durum wheat?? some people cant have it, like pasta and that

WOW what a lady a true inspiration to us all

i know what u mean lynn i nearly didnt bother cause i had to but some new clothes to go out in as i live in jeans and jumpers most days and find it all extra hard work just trying to get ready and actually make it through the door i much prefer cosy night in in front of computer

hope you had a good night viper im going out tonight,i attempted it few weeks back and felt weird as before that i hadnt been out for few years too ive become like a recluse but treated my self to a new outfit and will try again tonight if only for a change of scene and break from the as saga

i took my son to see father christmas last year at a fair in school hall- well ill never do it again he refused to go near him and didnt want to get pressy off him,held all the que up and started screaming he screamed all the way home-it was most awfull and from now on will not attempt it again its shame he still thinks xmas means that time he went to the school fair he cant imagine he comes down chimney he excepts the tree up though ,but he doesnt get involved in the way other children do,like taking pleasure decorating it or stuff hed rather go on pc

my nephew was recently dx at age 25 this is a prime example of if you dont push for dx yourself and raise enough concern people will not bother[and 25 years ago as was not as heard of as much] i really dont know how my sister and husband managed that is why i will not back down about my son-because im not going let that happen to him

dont talk to me about tax credits really bad to get through to and i swear they dont listen to what your saying ive had lots of miver with them myself over other things and dla i even went into the inland revenue office and they were quite thick as well-they rant on its not our dept we dont know about the tax credits well then tell me please who exactly dose???- it beggars belief

my son is same he harrass/hurt/miver and bother my 3 year old into a fight/row/screaming match dont matter how many times i explain he will still keep on it makes me really bad tempered because you can not do anything else that needs doing all because of this going on ive got a stool in the hallway now[saw it on tv] call it naughty chair and i bought an egg timer so who when he starts it up i make him sit on it for 5 mins[sure he complains but i persist] when timer goes off he has to say sorry to his brother may sound a bit harsh but i had to do something it was driving me up the wall it works-if you keep at it because my son hates not being in the involved place so he really dislikes being in the hall way where he cant see everything

just had leter today he was on high rate till sept this year and i stupidly filled in the 2nd green form myself[ dont know why i did that as id got a lady to help me first time round-and knew you had to put the right stuff down-i must of been having a thick moment ] cause then they dropped him down to low so 11 weeks back i contested it and today found out its going to middle-which im happy with.hopefully i can get the care part now. its says on form applying when 5 for help getting about?? is this right somewhere else heard it was 3?? i only ever had the care part but [as u all know ] he is very very hard work just getting him from house to car or car to school,or any transition,and very worse in public- how do u go about applying for that part?

thank you i am still quite new here,so i wouldnt of seen the other posts thanks for that

i didnt know which to tick, my son is 4 and still going through all assessments/waiting for camhs ect... it all started about when he was nearly 2,so been going on since then, although looking back there was noticable things as he was a baby too but as he was my first i did not know any different

my son has had these for at least 2 years now,hes 4 at least i hope this is what it is? ive told his pediatrician and this is what he says it is. he goes to sleep then 2 hours later starts screaming /crying/moaning/and thrashing about the bed, he dont seem to be aware im there even with his eyes open.wont let me calm him down,wont tell me whats wrong. ive got so used to it,i know deal with it by trying to make him come to,by either getting him out of the bed,taking him in bathroom and rubbing damp sponge on him[know this sounds weird] its as if he snaps out of it then put him back bed and he goes quite. without fail it happens everynight has anyone else got any advice on this?

my sons 4 and will not wipe his bum aswell i actually thought he was trying it on and being lazy so i told him i would no longer do it -trying out a bit of "supernanny" tatics but it only resulted in him saying"right so your not going to wipe my bum""i wont go loo and poo then" and he holds it in so have gone back to it again-wiping what is the answer to this-cant see this ending???

very very mild speaking from a general veiw as my son hasnt yet been dx very very mild is not the case i know cause i live with it day in day out and the very very mild has completly took over my life and all those around my son----i beg to differ that its mild

my son quite often shouts out "look at this funny man" just as the man is walking right past me my son thinks lots of people are strange-men with long hair confuse him greatly but i was totally ashamed when he did it at the checkout in sainsburys as the lady was quite clearly disabled herself-im not sure how but she looked very like a small girl-and you could clearly see it didnt match up my son shouts it out laughing"look at the little girl mum" it has happened alot more recently and its getting where i dont know where to put my face or what to say in the situation

you could try a post office account- i have one which my benefits is paied into .i think i only filled in a form for it-you get statements every 3 months and card to draw out the cash. its not switch or anything[the card] its just for drawing your money out. p.s you can use it in any post office branch as well

sorry to say but CANOPUS after reading your post i feel slightly insulted i was not brought up on a council estate my mum and dad always worked id worked since i was 16 i was working as a dental nurse until i met the father of my sons after having abusive relationship and long history of mental health probs-i had nervous breakdown i also contracted bacterial menigitis -which changed my life forever after birth of my first son-i had to leave the abusive relationship unlike the so called mums who get council houses just like that i was never offered one i lived in private rented until this year [4 years on the council list] i got a council property i had to live on benefits because a/ my sons dad did not support me b/ i couldnt work as i had to look after children c/my health is not in a position to deal with a job d/and my 2 boys have the same dad alot of this blame should go to the men and the fathers not just agaisnt the single mums in this country please dont tar us all with the same brush

hi i just watched granada reports which said about them barbies heads/pegsus and how u cant get them so must be pretty widespread wish u luck

good thread suze i have also looked at myself due to my sons difficulties hope u folks dont mind-us dregging up our pasts but i too had probs when i was about 6/7 -think was triggered by my grandads death[was close to] and me seeing him in the coffin and going to the funeral i stopped eating and thought i was going to be sick all time-weight dropped off me and my parents had to put me in hospital-not as much was known back then about eating disorders or mental health probs as it is today. was in hospital for months and force fed by horrible strict matrons-having freezing baths in old type baths -rubbing soap in my eyes sure it scarred me for life as i couldnt see my parents i thought id been put away anyway to cut long storey short they did all these tests but found nowt wrong -i relise now it was a mental health prob . i never had many decent friends either,was bullied at high school-felt i didnt fit in never kissed a boy till i was 18-think by then id developed inferioty complex ive always made cr*p judgements through out my life-resulting in getting in bad situations never been able to keep conversation going and in the recent past years become quite obsessed with dealing with things my sons dad also was a perfectionist/very parinoid/-to be truthfull i looked up that opposatinal defient disorder and it fits his dad-always defied the laws and rules -had prob with people telling him what to do- which suprise suprise my son is just like that. ive always felt unloved and always been on the depressive side, and 2 years back i was dx with rapid cycling mood disorder[manic] and ocd and been told ill have it for life with hind sight i know this is awfull to say i dont think i should of had children-but at that time non of this had really come to light. i feel extreme guilt sometimes that its my fault my sons how he is-and my fault for picking his dad ect...... though i do love my boys to bit. but your right suze as u get older you do start analizing things more i do try to remain as positive i can and try not to dwell on things i cant fix

hi hev- im very much the same in fact 2 years back it became so bad i had to see a lovely lady shrink,referred by my drs. i know medication isnt for everyone but id become so bad i needed some,i still see her and it helps me alot to talk this stuff through. ive also had cognitive behavioral therapy- where u try to change your pattern of negative thoughts-it did help -but its hard to do. i just couldnt relax or switch of,things became obbsesive and i was really bad tempered over the smallest things i learned transendental meditation when i was younger and used to do it alot-its about letting the cr*p go what clutters your head up-but have to admit i really dont have time for it now i have the boys ect..... but its ment to be the best form of stress release going

hi just adding to your list i have had depression all my life but it has escalated due to life events that ive had: 19 contracted bacterial meningitis-and nearly died 23 started relationship-turned out to be abusive stayed 5 years birth of my 2 sons finding out son was disabled split from father there grandad dying of cancer no support from my childrens father or there family adjusting to being single mum im under the hospital shrink-which is very helpfull ive been dx as having rapid cycling mood disorder[like bipolar-manic depression] and ocd. great stuff lol take mood stabilsers and anti -d im 30 in jan and have given up on men[ha] im just trying my best to make sure my sons are ok SO ALL U GUYS THAT R DEPRESSED TOTALLY KNOW HOW U ALL FEEL !

i agree-becoming a single parent made me strong and then coping with my sons disabilitys has made me even stronger. rewind 5 years back and i would never object to what people in authority would say to me-but now it is not the case-i dont give in-i push and miver till i get my point across. it has spread into all areas of my life-and i feel its made be better person i see my sons problems as a learning experiance for me-which contains vital life lessons to learn from

hi - i still waiting for appointment-but lady said she would chase it up for me and explained they got to look at everything then if they do think its more autistic than or with the other things ill be reffered back to her only i know what they going do at camhs-go into family background and that-and theres shall i say some one at cdc who happens to belive that could be reasons behind this-ie; my sons dont see father as he was abusive to me we split and was alot of miver with court and so forth--they [or should i say someone] has been quick to say some things can be down to this. at the time i thought maybe so but now im not standing for that as an excuse cause my nephew has only recently got a dx[hes 25] of as,tourettes and ocd, and his mum and dad have been married for years -hes had stable up bringing-so they cant explain that away as th at. hope you catch what im trying to say