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This experience my son already had. He told me that sometimes they kick him and then complain to the teacher that he did it to them and at the same time pretending in front of the teachers that they are nice to my son so the teacher would believe them not my son. Danaxxx

Hi, my son was crying this evening because of that. The two boys have been bulling him since the beginning of year 6 and I have had to fight with the school for them to recognise that. Those boys have kicked him, called him names, one of them even threw his hat in the toilet and threatened him on several ocations. What bothers me is that they don't believe my son unless they see it with their own eyes but even that is not enough to recognise the fact that he HAS been bullied. I wrote the letters addressed to the head teacher, school sen governor and pp officer before and the headteacher promissed to deal with that (and she did at the time) and I thought they undrstand. Now they put my son at the same table with his bullies probably with the idea he to learn to get along with them. I wander if we live on the same planet. I understand that sometimes us parents might expect too much from the mainstream school but this is pretty straight forward IMO. BTW, his class has 15 children and two TA and still his own TA helps other children as well, sometimes more than him. Any advice appreciated. Thanks. Danaxxx

Well done Sam and you Justine as well I haven't sent my son yet on a similar task. I am stll afraid he might forget what he is supposed to do by the time he reaches a place. He tends to get lost in his own world in the middle of a task. I suppose I will have to have more trust in him. because he is already 11 now! Danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum and wish you luck with your fight to get help at school for our son. Danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum. Danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum. My son (11) with ASD has his own agendas too. I negotiate with him and that works with us. Danaxxx

That's great. I know how you feel. I had a very similar experience. I lost touch with my old friend and then wrote to her aunt not knowing wheather she still lived there. When my friend wrote back I was really glad. It is nice to have friends who still care about you even if years have passed and their lives have changed a lot. I am happy for you, Tally. Danaxxx

Well done! Best wishes. Danaxxx

Well done Sally. I am glad that you have found the way how to teach your son effectively. I don't think that it will confuse him in any way. In contrary, it will help him recognize the same words he comes across at school. There was a time when I thought my son has Dyslexia. I used Doltch words (you could download them for free on the internet) and Lady Bird books and cards which are more expensive but really good. First he would memorise the high frequency words and then he would gradually use them in the very nicely ilustrated simple books, reinforcing them. It has worked with my son although he still finds writing difficult but it is due to his Dyspraxia. I just wonder, if your son thinks in pictures rather than words? Maybe that is why the method you are using is more sutiable for him. One more thing. I have observed in the video link about that remarkable school that Edd Balls didn't even want to talk about Dr Brown's method. It takes ages until new and succesful methods are accepted. What a shame. Danaxxx

Hello and welcome to the forum. Danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum. Danaxxx

Hi, I've got an e-mail from Benefits and Work charity. Here is the link: Visit My Website Danaxxx

I am not sure about the whole thing about academies. I think it will depend on the headteachers. There is a danger indeed that the academies will more care about their image and use their new fredom to exclude disruptive pupils more often but I found that even now the schools do the same thing and everything depends on their head teachers. My son (who has the statement) got a place in the Academy which has Enhance Recourse Center, has 20 children with ASD, a special room they can go during the breaks where they can relax (and hide from bullies). He will have 5 TAs (each day a different one) and they are trained in ASD. The Academy has a lot of personel and the head teacher said that he prefares to spend money on the staff rather than things. They got the money to build the new building alltogether in 2012 and SEN department will have a separate garden for their children if they want to go to during the breaks. The SENCO promissed that my son will be taken 5 minutes earlier from the lessons (to avoid the bells and the crouds during the lesson change, he is sensitive to noise). Everything sounds very nice but I wonder if all this will really be like that in practise. I was also told that instead of excluding children they rather send them to the separate room where they have to work harder. However, I heard from the parent whose child has AS that he is still often excluded from this Academy. I wonder why nobody reacted to this in the Green paper stage when it was possible to do something more about it? How did this bill about Academies came to the second reading already without any protests at all? Danaxxx

I've done it finally! :dance It is really easy peasy (not a rocket science as I thought). I think my possible mistakes were indeed either I didn't leave the gap or I clicked 'paste' and 'paste' again instead of 'copy' and 'paste'. Thank you Baddad. Danaxxx

Thanks BD. I have tried this but nothing happened. I pasted the www.jkp.com address and it appeared in my e-mail under the name Nova Roma but couldn't get a link. I tried sending it to myself first to see if it works. What have I done wrong? Danaxxx

Thanks Baddad. I've managed to do it. But how do I bring the link from the web when I send the e-mail to my friends? There is no 'insert link'+sign on 'compose e-mail'. Danaxxx

Thanks Baddad and Tally for your help. Danaxxx

I've deleted the link. Danaxxx

Hi, I am sorry for this daft question but I am not a very technical person and always wanted to know how it is done. I've tried once to bring one of the web links to one of my posts before but haven't succeded. How do you do it? Any advice appreciated. Danaxxx

I found the program very good. They are all so talented. I had a priveledge to meet Derek some 15 years ago when he was still a child. I was very amazed by his extraodinary musical talent. Even then he played piano really well, with a fantastic ability to improvise. I was so impressed that I asked his teacher (you saw him on TV) to let me observe his piano lesson, which he kindly accepted. Derek is also blind and I was told that he learned by listening to the recordings. Derek asked me to play something for him, than he improvised straight away on the melody (it was Bach) I played. He was really good. And he was only 10 or 11 at a time. He also plays cello and is a very fine composer as well! I am not sure if they mentioned that. Danaxxx

:thumbs: Welcome! Danaxxx

Hi Danni and welcome to the forum. Danaxxx

Well done both of you! I think that was a very good idea to pay him for taking care of your own garden. That way he got an inspiration and encouragement to try to find a real job for himself. Thank you for sharing this news with us. It gives me hope for my son too. Danaxxx

I will keep my fingers cross for them. The great news that you don't have to go to tribunal. Danaxxx

Thank you for your replies. Sally, I think that some of your ideas are very good and it is very possible that my son wants to be the same like his classmates, to be part of them. Sadly, he does not know how to relate to them, he annoys them at the moment by inappropriate behaviour, including the copyng their silly behaviours. They don't like him and use every opportunity to show to the teachers how bad he is, even when it is not the case. I am trying to explain to him that he has to stop annoying them if he wants to build some friendships but for him it is not easy because he does not know how else to relate to them. So it is a vicious circle. The school did organize the Circle of Friends for him in the past and they are promissing to do it again with voluntiers but I don't know when it is going to happen. Anyway, this didn't help much in the past. He literally doesn't have any friends now but is desperate to have some at the same time. He has a private SALT, specialised in communication and socialising and also working with children with ASD. She comes once a month (we cannot afford more, it is paid from his DLA) but at the moment this doesn't seem that help much.(I also work with him according to her instructions). Jaded, I will speak with the school but I have a feeling that because it is his last term at this school that they are not that keen to help him now. Also they want him to score good in SATS, which I understand. Danaxxx