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I'm having a horrible day, a few days ago our dog (aged 11) went from a really healthy active dog to one that looked like he was doped up, he was disorientated, refused water and has got worse as the days have gone on.At first we thought he may have a virus and gave him a few days to see if he would get better but yesterday hubby rushed him down to the vets and the vet thought he may have a tumour in his chest that was stopping his heart working correctly.He asked us to bring him in today, for x rays to make sure in case it was fluid on the lungs which could be drained..........It wasn't, it was a tumour and it had affected his heart and lungs and so he has been put to sleep.This is the dog that has slept where-ever my son is, from the side of his cot to under his midsleeper bed, I am dreading telling him, i tried to break it to him yesterday how ill the dog was and he cried (with me!) but this morning he seemed to be being really brave about it.The other thing is my son is due to have 2 teeth out tomorrow and so it couldn't have come at a worse time.

This has just soooooooooo cheered me up. I was in tears because it looks like my dog may have to be put down tomorrow and was sobbing my heart out and this actually made me laugh and brought me out of it a bit. I am going to add this to my favorites. <'>

Hiya Hev, <'> <'> <'> I know that you are feeling terrible at the moment. This is going to be a big change and I think you are very brave because you are doing what is best for Steve, even though it is upsetting for you.You are doing great girl and I admire you a lot. Although it isn't the same, i just wanted to tell you about how i was feeling this year with my son.He left primary school this last summer and was due to go to the juniors school, I was worried sick about it, would he be able to cope as they expect so much more? Would he have friends there, as they split up the classes? Would he be able to cope with the bigger school? I didn't realise how much I was worrying about this change but in the summer I had a really bad time (depression, anxiety etc) and at one point the "crisis team for mental health" had to come and see me because the doctor thought I was on breaking point. HOWEVER, My son loves his new school (so much more than his old one) he has made some lovely new friends that are his best friends and who really like him.He is so much more confident and this new school was just what he needed to grow (in confidence, ability, interests , friendships etc). What I learn't through this is that I was running all the worst possible scenarios through my mind, when really the experience has been really good and positive for my son and I couldn't give him this confidence, he has had to "grow " into it and meet some challenges and find his own way through it. I could have saved myself a whole lot of torment if I had just waited to see. I hope you feel better as you come to terms with all these feelings. You love your son very much and that is obvious to us all. Please don't beat yourself up for doing your best. <'> <'>

Really glad it went well. <'> <'>

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LIke I say, I got a bit addicted

Paper.

Thanks everyone, The manager is coming to see the carpet on Monday or Tuesday, I'll let you know how i get on !!

Dennis.

Opera

Oh, well you don't need that!! <'> Hope you are okay. <'>

Maybe you could write it out in the way that the social stories do !!! E.g....... If I make an arrangement to meet someone, I must make sure I'm there, If not, that person might think I'm not coming or worry where I am. I must always communicate what I am doing otherwise other people may be affected !!!!!!!

I'm hoping to get a new carpet out of it! I was only thinking the other day that It could do with being a lighter colour

<'> HI Anita, You mentioned in a posting dec28th about taking your mum to get your diagnosis with you, could you get her to come over?

How are you feeling? I wish I could just come over to your place, sit with you and make sure you are okay. You're not anywhere near Staffordshire are you? <'> <'>

Hi mel <'> <'> No you are not being judgemental, If an arrangement is made then it should be kept to (that's for anyone not just our kids) BUT even more so when the uncertainty of what is happening has such a huge effect. I hope your son feels better soon, that his headache clears up. Also if you decide to go into school (which I would) I hope they can just "get it", perhaps if something was printed out they might take more notice !!!!

Anita, isn't there anyone there for you? No neighbours you trust? I know you feel scared and in shock but you should take a moment to think about ringing the police, even if it is only "anonomously" to find out what to do.Also is there a crisis center number in the yellow pages, they will have trained counsellors that you can talk to. <'> <'> <'> <'>

No worries Karen, I was just thinking that it wasn't very nice for you to be told that. <'> <'>

<'> <'> Whatever you decide to do, we are here. <'> <'>

Hi All, I decided to have an online order delivered today from tesco (save me the job of shopping) ,well the guy came, gave me all the bags, I happily put the shopping away in the kitchen , put the toiletries and cleaners at the bottom of the stairs, then had some dinner, posted on here a bit, straightened my hair.Then I thought I'll just take those things upstairs......I picked up the bag to take the bleach out and ......it had leaked through the bag onto my carpet and has bleached the carpet in quite a few spots. The carpet is dark blue, it sticks out like a sore thumb and I'm now waiting for the store manager to ring me to find out what to do.

WWWWWWWWWWWAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhooooooooooooooooo I scored.....62!!!!! I think once you have played it a few times you get to know where the words are spelled. I'm like that with ds "bop it" game......addicted !!!!

Karen, I am suprised that you have been told that your's son's anxiety may be due to your problems with anxiety. I have constantly been upset that my son's problems may be down to my anxiety and have been repeatedly told by different proffessionals that it is not my fault, that autism is not caused by nuturing and that his behaviour would show in a different way if it was my fault. Hope you're okay because if they told me that it might be down to me i would be even more anxious!!!!

miners

I agree with you Mossgrove, I was talking to my friend (one of the mums at school) about this test and mentioned some of the questions and how I answered and she couldn't understand how I felt awkward around people and would rather stand on my own etc.(if i don't know them too well) I just thought everyone felt the same, but she said that she would rather stand with someone even if she didn't know them well than stand on her own. I have always enjoyed "educational" things and knowledge (learning about things i find very interesting) I realised the other day that my son had a tin of marbles and i was about to say "why don't we sort them into different piles, all the red ones in one pile etc" But i stopped myself and left him to it, BUT i was itching to sort them!!!!! As I have said, I am treated for an anxiety disorder but I am now wondering whether the anxiety is just part of something else....e.g Aspergers???? It would certainly answer some questions for me.If my son had never been diagnosed as being on the spectrum, I wouldn't have known anything about asd/aspergers etc, but now the more i know about it, watching my son do the things i did as a child, the more i wonder????