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You can get weighted shoulder wraps as well - same idea as the blanket but smaller and shaped to go over the shoulders... and much, much cheaper.

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C is in lurve On Monday night C, very seriously, asked me how to get a girl to fancy him.... . He was very earnest about it, so I tried to give some practical yet tactful advice - along the lines of: being nice to her, not ignoring her, maybe complimenting her on something. I asked if he had a particular girl in mind... and he told me in confidence. It's a girl in his class who likes to look after him, she's a lovely wee thing. Anyhow... he's been asking her to come in with him during breaks and lunch (he's allowed to choose a friend/buddy) and he's going to ask her to be his friend at the twinkles birthday party next week (it's a pool party, so C is going for the swimming bit but is going home with party food and dad afterwards to avoid the "unstructured" part, and we told him he could ask a friend to come along). It's all very sweet, as he's only 9. But he's taking it so seriously and has been reading a book in school that has a chapter about what girls like - so he's been brushing his hair (this has never happened before) and washing his hands and things that young boys are usually averse to . He has talked about her non-stop since Monday. I'm just concerned that he's beginning to do the obsessive thing again (we've been here before with friends and he's scared them off). Obviously, I don't want to stand in the way of "young love" or any kind of friendship, but we're still picking up the pieces of the emotional "fall-out" from his last friendship. Any ideas on how I can tactfully suggest to him to try and be "cool" about it, and not hound the poor girl?

That's what has deterred me so far as well, Cariad. But I thought I should give it a go... I'm not expecting miracles, but if it helps him feel more secure and keeps him in bed a bit more, I'll be happy. I've ordered one, it'll be a while before it's ready, but I'll let you know how things are when C's given it a test drive. He's very excited about it.

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Ooooooooo, I like this one. Don't need to scream at the mo, but will return when I feel one coming on.

Bid, you're not a crappy mother... because you care. You can't be expected to remember back to two years ago, two years is a long time in the life and times of bringing up kids. Articles like to poo-poo the whole idea of a lot of things... don't let some stupid article written by someone who probably wouldn't know an allergy if he/she found one in their soup get to you. C and E have allergies (both of whom have required hospitalisation as a result), as do I, as has my mum... and there wasn't anti-bac when she was growing up (nor me, come to think of it). And I think your DX would count as a very good reason not to use public transport. Phone the NHS trust and ask. <'>

Oh Bid... <'> <'> <'> . What a hideous day you've had. I know how much it can get you down, I'm usually like that after R's appointments (which they insist on giving us in the middle of winter when it's really windy, so that R pukes on the ferry and we always arrive stinking of sick ). Can you not claim back your travelling using one of the NHS forms you can pick up at the hospital? They allow for taxies if there is a good reason not to use public transport (such as ASD). It may be worth looking into before DS2's appointment next month. Chin up, hun <'>

I've sent you a PM.

C had WISC as part of his dx process, performed by the EP. As well as general IQ, it gives a profile of the childs strengths and weaknesses over the cognitive range. The EP should type up a report afterwards explaining all the results and what they mean... it makes for very interesting reading.

Thanks peeps <'> . I am seriously stiff today, not as young as I used to be, and I have a very bruised bum . I have seen a huge difference in C lately - very mature, quiet, and sensible. Must be the calm phase after early school and before puberty. Long may it last.

Oh that is so nice, it made me smile! It's heart-warming when strangers just accept our quirky wee people exactly as they are, isn't it? Welcome to the forum and I love the name, by the way. DD adores Chitty-Chitty Bang Bang.

Thanks peeps. I've started filling in bits of the form, but I'm going to take my time over it - it is truely horrible, and C can be so variable... I feel as if I'm not representing his difficulties if I answer the questions with regard to the "good days", but feel fraudulent if I refer to only the "bad days", and trying to think about it as an average is soooo difficult. Think I might be PMing you, Nic, at some point - thanks for the offer .

<'> I've been there too. Mine have a similar age gap to yours - just a year between C and the twinkles, and while they are all extremely close, the boys fights almost incessantly at times. R is very soft and gentle, while C is prone to violent outbursts - the two just don't go together. I'm lucky in that most of the time, C is an extrovert. But if he's had a bad week at school, then we end up having a "jammy-weekend" (one where he stays in his pyjamas all weekend). DD is ok with it, but R and I end up going stir-crazy with cabin fever. If DH is home from the rig, then R and I can escape, but otherwise we're stuck in. Sorry, don't know what to suggest, as I know when C is like that, nothing gets him to go out. But I know how it feels.

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Haven't been, but from what I've heard Euro Disney is better at catering for kids with special needs than the Orlando one (which is where we're going this year). One of my kids from school went with his family before Xmas, and I know they had a guest assistance pass... which,judging from the piccies he brought in to show me, also enabled him to meet all the characters. I'll ask his mum when I see her next. Also, a holiday company run by Richard Branson, begins with a V, are doing the park tickets for Orlando cheaper than anywhere else, so it may be worth having a look online at their Euro prices.

That is soooo sweet of him . Bless! Take a piccy of the flowers, so you can remember them....

I fell down the stairs tonight - slid at the top and skidded down to the turn. I made a huge racket going down... the twinkles carried on with whatever they were doing, but C, bless him, came running out to the hall and helped me up. He was so worried and kept stroking my sore bits (mainly my bum ), and telling me I was going to be ok. He wanted to put me to bed, and said he'd sort the twinkles and the dogs out so not to worry. I just love that boy Anyway, I reassured him that I was fine and hobbled down the rest of the stairs to make the fairy cakes I'd promised earlier. While they were in the oven I thought I should find out if they would have known what to do if I'd banged my head and lost consciousness, especially with DH working away so often. E's reply was "Oh that's easy - I'd cry".... fantastic! R just looked at me blankly, but C said he would "save his emotions until later" and would dial 999 and ask for an ambulance to come to our address, then he would phone gran so there would be someone to look after him and the twinkles, then he would make sure I was warm and nobody moved me. Thank goodness for the ever practical Aspie. Love him....

Good luck to your brave boy ... and to your GF, ScienceGeek.

I hope the member of staff got the sack!! Sorry, but I do. The manager seemed to be pretty understanding though - but too little too late. Well done Angel on sticking up for your girl despite the onlookers <'>

Cheers, Baggy. Have just downloaded the form - it looks evil! Think it may well involve a lot of repetition.

Well done on surviving the week SG . The "Friday-feeling" is no longer as intense for me since I went part-time, but I'm happy to surrender it in exchange for joining the human race again. We're going swimming tomorrow - it's fun-hour at the local pool on Saturdays, and now that the twinkles are 8, they can go in without me. So I can sit at the side with my book and keep an eye on them. Which is just as well, because that cold I mentioned in your "Sick" thread earlier in the week has turned into a real nasty. Lemsips all round.

Thanks Baggy, I flit between - "C is entitled to it so claim it, use it buy things for him, or put it away for his future" and "there are other people who need the money more than us".... always the indecisive one . What does a blue badge do for you?

Never, ever... and we try frequently, even our own home-grown apples which are not grafted or interfered with in any way refuse to co-operate on this one. I think you're better off buying apple tree seeds. But even then it would take forever. Why don't you buy a baby apple tree? We bought some babies (apples, cherries and pears) a few years ago, and the apple trees are now giving us a pretty good harvest. The kids love watching them grow and swell throughout the summer... until the dogs notice the nice shiny red "balls" and pull them off (the trees are only about 4 feet tall yet).

I have been reading lots of posts lately about DLA. I have often been advised to claim it for C, but for my own reasons it didn't really feel right. What I'm wondering is - if you receive DLA what benefits other than money do you receive? What I'm meaning is - in theme parks, etc I know if you provide your DLA documentation as proof of disability you can get a fast pass. Stuff like that.