Paula

id forgotten all about this un till a few seconds ago. When my son was aged 5 and haveing a diffiuclt time at mainstream.........he only attended for a year...........he was constantly telling me about a freind called denis norton.....weird name i know.......my son would tell me that this boy helped him ect...........i thought nothing of it untill i found out that there wasnt a boy called this in my sons school let alone class.Then it got weirder i wpoke to his great grandma and said my son had some sort of imaginary freind and told her the name........she went white and said that one of her nephews who was then in his late 70s used to talk about an imaginary frind when he was a young boy and he called him the exact same name..................like i say theres weird forces at work. Im not religious or anything.............but whos to say he isnt talking to jesus or maybe a gaurdian angel........if its doing no harm and maybe helping out a bit at school let it be.Once my son moved to a special school and was more realxed and happy we never heard of denis norton againe...i guess his job was done.

Ive managed to arrange a visit to see the special needs provision at the college he would attend next wednesday,ill be able to see the students working in a real time enviroment chat to them and have a coffee and a chat with the special needs supporter and voice all my worries in a calmer manner.if i still feal its not for my son then at leats ill have looked into it prperly instead of closeing it down.My son said theres no harm in looking so im takeing my lead from in.The lady was realy nice and i apologised for my outburst at the review meating where i was utterly negative and wouldnt listen but thats just my way eventually i se sence and am willing to listen.

Brilliant stuff realy pleased hes enjoying it.my son goes to a duke of edingburgh thing every monday doing alsorts of practical activites and hes loveing that too............

My son now 16 has been twice on this typ of holday with the school he attends and loved it.granted he attends a special school and so there was lots of support.I was still worried though because he would be away from home and have to dress,bath ect on his own.But it was fine and he came home after a few days full of renewed confidence. last year he went to France for 4 days with his school........againe i worried myself sick but he was fine. I realise its different if there going within a mainstream setting but if youre son want to go and support is going to be there then you know he just might surprise you ,My son was glad to be shut of me fussing round ........his words............. He did activites such has canoeing,climbing,quad biking,and high ropes..........all realy well supervised.

Thankyou for all youre advice its given me a bit of food for thought. There is an open eveing in march at the local college,but i think ill get in touch before then and arrange to go down and see what provision there is for special education.My son is expected to get a grade F in maths and possibley a slightly higher grade in woodwork he isnt been entered into any other gcses........he has a reading age of 9 and it has been this for a long time now so i think hes reached his maximum potential on reading.........he can get by. There are a few organisations in and around where i live that help adults with learning difficulties gaine employment but theres the catch youve to be an adult so these things dont kick in till you reach 18. June doesnt seam that far away suddenly. Ill keep you posted and thanks for shareing.

We took our 16 year old aspie son to see it and it was brillaint........he loved it....so di we. We went on a wednesday so you can get two for 1 on orange wednesdays with a tex saves you money.....didt see it in 3d though............will be defo getting it on dvd to watch over and over againe.

Kinda of subject but on subject. When my grandma died who i loved very very much and had a realy close relationship with i had a dream about her a few weeks after shed died.In it we were talking and it was so real during the dream i could touch and smell her as if she was theire and although i forgot what we were talking about when i woke up i fealt shed told me important things......just before the dream ended she hugged me and then turnd away and said you will never dream abuot me againe but i will see you when you get here.I never ever dreamt about her againe in the five years that have since past even when i go to bed and think id like to dream about my gran i never do.Now some would say it was just a dream but i think she visisted me and we did chat and when she left she meant id only see her agine when i died.Some may call it mumbo jumbo but i beleive this. If youre son isnt upset by the dreams then wheres the harm..........i agree with the other poster tell him if the devil pushes then jesus will catch him.Im not a religious person but i do beleive that theres weird forces at work sometimes and we shouldnt mock what we cant understand. i sound a bit odd ball now ..........

My son is now 16 and will be leaving school in June.Absolutley worried sick both myself though trying not to show it and my son.We have had the final review........nightmare.Long story but they brought in tow people from the local college who had never met my son before to bang on about the college and my son going there.My son has said he doesnt want to go and ive pointed out that ive heard bad things about the college and am uneasy to say the least about it. The thing is My son has been in his special school since he was 5 years of age,there are only 80 kids in the school rangeing from 5 to 16 theres just no way he could go from that enviroment to a massive college mainstream enviroment full of teenagers and be able to cope.My son has tod me he doesnt even want to leave his school and ive explained hes going to have to.hes worried and getting stressed and so am i. Ive told the school to drop talking over college its causeing problems at home that my son has said he just want to get leaving school out the way first then find a pt job with the help of his worker and the connexsions people. I thought this time was a long way of and would never arrive now it has im worried sick about the future..whats going to happen,all the big changes........... They cant force him into college can they if he says no..........if i say no............ Idealy we want to let him leave his school ,take a month out to gather his thoughts then work at getting him sorted in our own way at our own pace...........

He could still be fealing ill even after 2 weeks. me and my husband got a cold just before christmas and even though we went to the gps and was told we didnt need anti biotics or anything we have only just this weeks started to fee better.My husband was so unwell he had almost 3 weeks of work........part of theat time was the xmas holidays then he went back to work and after 2 days had to go on sick due to fealing terrible.I found that although my cold symptoms had gone i was left feelin utterly drained and couldnt do anything without fealing id run a marathan.Virus can take ages to get out of youre system.he may not be fakeing it.

My son is 16 and he plays the latest call of duty modern warfare 2 game on line on his xbox and ive no problem with it. Id like to point out that when you first load the game there is actually a facility where you can sensor certaine scenes and language it comes up do you want to play the full adult version or the tamer version............words to that effect anyway. I feel the game has been hyped up a bit too far and isnt half aas vilent as the makers try to make out......enhances sales figures ...........its no worse than the other call of duty games........ Its just a war game and boys of all ages through the ages enjoy playing these types of games............it doesnt make them violent or want to reinact any of it .......lets face it there too busy hooked up to the xbox to be bothered wandering out onto the streets causeing agro. Grand theft auto is far far worse because that game is violence for no reason and vilence against women and kids and all sorts............Call of duty is a stargergy war game based on playing in teams,difuseing bombs,rescuing folks,and yep you shoot the bad guys......but lads have always taken up a toy gun and if not a gun then a stick and shouted bang bang......... My opinion i know but id let him have it and just choose to sencor the game when it asks if you want to.

My son went back to school monday and hasnt been back since due to the snow.............its done nothing but snow in west yorkshire and its absolutley freezing the roads are hell............no gritters anywhere.Touch wood he should be back friday,the problem has been the school bus refused to come into the estate to pick up the kids and take them so the teachers had no one to teech so they gave up.......... im fed up of it all.

My son has had swine flu and he was extreamly ill with it ive never seen anyone as ill in my life......he was boiling hot,couldnt eat,couldnt drink,was drowsey it was a nightmare...........another child at his school also had swine flu and ended up being hospotalized.........swine flu isnt nice at all.If you get the cance to have youre child vacinated against it then id have it done...........my son is a great big strapping six foot 1 healthy lad who has aspergers syndrome only with nothing else wrong with him and yet it almost wiped him out.........if youre child has other health issues then i dread to think what swine flue could do to them.............Just my opinion but id have it done.

Christmas in our house is just like any other day now the kids are older.Our daughter is 2 weeks of being 18 she spent xmas eve working,xmas day all but an hour at her boyfreinds,boxing day working and the sunday and the monday today will be the first time ive seen her she spent the whole xmas period up at her boyfreinds.............Our aspie son isnt realy into xmas and neither one of them wanted wrapped gifts they just wanted cash to do and buy what they wanted..... Christmas is for little kids and i look back and realy miss the times when they were excited that santa had come and the liveing room was full of wrapped presents and the house noisy with there laughter and yet at the time you dont realise how fast those times are going to pass and be gone............. If youre kids are little appreaciate it because before you know where you are there all grown up and dont give a monkeys about christmas or family or anything all there bothered over is how they can get to see there bloke ............

Or drs just say medicate them up on risperodone....which is what they said id to do..........easier i guess than trying to get to the root of it all.......weve had no tantrums our outbursts at all since i told him he wouldnt have to go to college and we could sort out an extended work placement ,after haveing an outburst almost every day for weeks.........

Or drs just say medicate them up on risperodone....which is what they said id to do..........easier i guess than trying to get to the root of it all.......weve had no tantrums our outbursts at all since i told him he wouldnt have to go to college and we could sort out an extended work placement ,after haveing an outburst almost every day for weeks.........

Sorry treckster of course people need to do what they think is right for me and my son the persuite of a diagnosis was too stressfull,i also didnt want as my son got older and more aware to think i was attemting to "fix" him that i wasnt happy with who and what he was because i am..........yes i have my moments when i think why our son but there very rare and i didnt want to every six months parade him in front of drs saying whats "wrong" because i dodnt beleive theres anything wrong with him hes just different and different isnt wrong..............I hope that makes sence.

Been in touch with the headmaster at my sons school and explained what my son is worried about...........brilliant brilliant man brilliant school.........he says theyll drop talking about college with my son and in january............my sons review date........we can discuss an extended work placement...........ie they will if my son agrees telephone asda and sort it out so he can go there one day a week untill he leaves school that way there more likely to offer him a job part time when he does leave school theyve done stuff like this before for the kids..............I feel so so much happier myself.......my son did two weeks work placement there a short while ago and loved it.........

Spoke to my son last night and yep thats at the root of the problem he says he doesnt want to leave his school has he knows it like the back of his hand and he doesnt want to go to college...........he says he wants a part time job.I explained that just because the school is banging on about college ect he doesnt have to go he can choose exactley what he wants to do..........his little face lit up at this yuo could see the releif..............i told him that yest things were going to change..........he said i dont like change.............i said change is going to happen but it doesnt have to happen all at once well take it all at youre pace theres no rush i just want him to be happy and not worry.........all he needs to do is get to the end of the school year ie June and then leave school and well sort things then after a period of rest and time.........i gave him a breif hug.......he hates physical contact..........and explained i loved him and didnt care what he did has long has he was happy............... Theres always a reason for his behaviour i just feel sad that i didnt realise what was going on.............he didnt need drugs he just needed reasurance..............

Smiley Thanks for youre insight its very much apreciated.

You know what im thinking im thinking that hes worried over leaving his special school next year............he doesnt want to go to the local college.......mainstream...........and i dont want him to go either as ive heard rotton reports of special needs kids needs not being met and a young girl from my sons school who started there this setember has had to be removed due to bullying and being beaten up.There are organizations such as remploy in my area who were dead helpfull ect but they dont kick in until they are adults ie 18.Im going to tell the school forget college stop banging on about it to him will you and ask my son if hed like to leave school in september and have a period of regaining his thoughts waite a while and then well sort it later...........theres no rush and it has to be right.Why take the only thing on offer at 16 when theres a world of help once they reach 18.My son has expressed he wants to be at home when he leaves school maybe if he realises this will happen for a short while it may take away his stress.............im going to see.

That sounds like typical teenage young girls behaviour tally add to that they were drunk ............it sounds like a tame evening if you ask me.............normally girls in this age bracket are arguing over boys/men,bitching about each other and backstabbing the person who goes to the toilet........ My daughter who will be 18 in january first job was in a all femal enviroment in a shoe shop she hated it she now works in a mixed enviroment with more men than women and says she never wants to work with all women againe............i always hated when i was working long long time ago in a all woman enviroment.

Ive just had a conversation with my son and said to him if you could take a tablet and maybe feel calmer and be able to perhaps concentrate more and not have angry moments and outbursts would you like to take it..........a lot of children with apsergers find it can help. He said he didnt want medication and he was fine.............you can force them to take it.............the only thing that i agreed with that the so phscologists said was that he had to agree to take the tablets himself...............Ive torn up the prescription.

i spent years of frustration trying to get my son diagnosed................In the end i gave up because as someone wisley told me the diagnosis changes nothing the problems are still the same............it was the best thing i did i just walked away from the whole cahms ,specialists,peadatricians everything system and the releif was great............My recent experiance of getting back in touch with these peole has only reinforced the fact i did the right thing.In my opinion youre on youre own with aspergers and its best to get on with it the best way you can.............

I went to see the so called experts..........never againe.............3 drs sat in a room all stareing at me..................i fealt like i was on trial as they questioned and cross examined everything i said...........oh they tried the usual of whats home life like any problems.............i said ive been with me husband 23 years and i aint on the ###### every night and ive always been a stay home mum so dont be implying anything............. Then i was fumeing as one dr said...........why havent you brought up the fact youre son has problems before...........he didnt know what to say when i pointed out id actually spent 3 years seeing him the dr sat there trying to get a diagnosis and had told him all this info about my son donkeys years ago and he told me it was all in me head and that my son didnt have any problems so i gave up and went away and got on with all. Up shot is it made me realise why i have gone it alone all these years and done a bloomeing good job.They dished out some medication.........answer to everything...............and said what i kinda already knew that my son is hormonal and this is just how they get at this age sometimes.Im supposed to go back in 6 weeks........not a cat in hells chance...... Ive been on the net and risperodone...........i think it is........isnt even supposed to be given acording to certaine websites to children.....its for bi polar mnic episodes and or shizophrenia...........some sort of anti physcotic...........my son isnt physcotic hes a confused young man finding it hard to cope with becomeing an adult and chages..............He needs understanding not to be drugged up. Ive been on these type of drugs myself due to my Bi Polar and there rotton they take away all that is you ,they remove all the emotions even the good ones and leave you fealing like an empty vessel and a shodow of who you are...........i cant do it. Thanks for all youre imput.

My son ..........16 in january.........has never had a diagnosis of aspergers syndrome........long story banging head against a brick wall no one could agree on owt gave up.............hes classed as moderate learning difficulties with features of possible aspergers...........he attended a mainstream school at 5 years old for aproximatley 1 year and was given 15 hores support a week............not nearly enough.Even with sup[port and even though the kids were only young wed all sorts of problems with bulying,kids being scared of him,parents utterly lacking any compasion or understanding and being hostile towards his needs............ I ended up pulling him out of the school through desperation.............id had enough........oh the teachers were hes got to come back ect ect............i said no he doesnt ........kids by law have to be educated but they dont have to be educated in school..that shut them up.I then procded to phone ever special school in the local directory of my own back and explained the situation ie his needs ect and asked if he was the kind of kid they admitted............to cut a long story short he was offered a place at a special school and we never looked back.My son though had a statement for special education. Thing is and ive learnt from bitter experiance no one takes any notice of you unless you become a paine and lay it on the line...............,aybe withdrawing him from the school and "kicking" of a bit will hurry along the statementing procedure ect.Years of experiance has taught me that its the parents who shout the loudest who dont go away who are always on the phone demanding answers and action that get results.Otherwise they ignore you. My latest battle is gettting reconition that my son is haveing a rough time dealing with adolences......no one listened untill it reached breaking point with himself harming and running away suddenly im top of the list and help will become available.