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Hi Although as hard as it sounds, with regards to something like this i treat my dx DS the same as i would my nt DD. I don't want my dd to see thats how to get new things. They have to earn new things ie they both havr to make their own beds every morning to get a treat on Saturdays. This works well, they know what is expected of them, and without them realising it, it teaches them that unfortunately you have to work to get the things you would like. I know my children our still fairly young, but hopefully it is a good foundation for later on in life. Luckily the only thing he has broke is his favourite teddy, this was just wear and tear as this teddy goes everywhere with him. We told him he had to go to the teddy hospital where dr daddy would mend him. He accepted this. Good luck with the bus saga. <'>

lol....they can be embarassingly funny! We were at our local shop the other day....freezing cold, tipping it down woth rain...u get the scene.....well in walks this female.....short skirt, knee length bts. DS took one look at her and said ' Mummy doesn't she look awful' It was if he had just read my mind out loud Although inside i was laughing, i politely told him that yes she did but we mustn't say things like that as it could hurt peoples feelings. Anyway whilst in the queue he saw her again and said mummy theres that lady that looks awful I just wanted the ground to open and swallow me up!

Hi, just wondered if any of your little darlings have come out with something they shouldn't?? My fiance, DS's father, was telling him off tonight.....he only called him a t**t How bad is that......his father looked directly at me as if its my fault....arggghhhh

Very good Baddad....that made me chuckle! Can't remember who started this post now Anyway badonkadonk has described the problematic duvet task very well indeed!! The job i hate the most is........Cleaning the toilet I have 2 and soon 2 move where i will have 3....gluten for punishment or what!!!!!! The job i love the most....ironing.....i know you're all thinking 'Bonkers' right......Wrong i love it because my darling Fiance does the job! God i love him, now i know why we are marrying this year

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Congratulations....you must be sooooooooooooo pleased! He is gorgeous. <'>

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Congratulations....you must both be pleased! My NT DD got a place in a school not in catchment area so really chuffed this end too!!

Hi Fletts, <'> <'> Alone you are not........This is a very good place, if only to read and not comment. I think seeing you are not alone really helps you get back on track and face things differently. Take care

Thanks for your reply fletts. I just want to stand up and fight......Employers, big or small should not be aloud to treat anybody like that! What you have said has made a lot of sense, thank you for taking the time. <'>

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Think i will give up SEX.....beats the headache excuse!!

DS is from titanic.....i loved the dishy bad guy in it, but thought Cal sounded to old for a baby.....so my Dad suggested Callum.....that's what he is and now he is, anybody dare calls him Cal..... As for DD it was lucky dip. I chose a name i liked, so did her Dad and we put in 1 we jointly liked as we could not decide.....out came daddies choice with a grin as wide as anything! and yes she is a daddies little girl I however am named after alcohol....Tia Maria....swear it was my mum's pain relief!!!! and then you get the daft ones in the family......i have teen cousins who are twins......wait for it....... BILL and BEN

Thanks for all your comments. I didn't start taking it personally until he started telling his sister.....shes only 4. I am due to go on a girl w/end away and purposely not tell him.....childish i know, but am at the end of my teather with him! I never thought of treating it as i would swearing......so will give that a try. Thanks once again tmf

I can't believe this thread is still going.....OMG!!!! anyway.... please

Hi, I have a small problem with my ds. He is going through a stage where he says he can't wait to be an adult so he can do what ever he wants. I have tried to reason with him and explain that even adults have rules to abide by, instaed of mummy + daddy making them it is the police. Anyway after a recent bout of behaviour he lost his PS2. He now keeps saying that he wishes i was dead so he could go on his ps2 all the time. he keeps telling his sister and myself that i will be dead by christmas He doesn't understand y this is upsetting.....i have tried and tried to no avail. Does any1 have any advice on how i can deal with this with him. Any would be a help as i would like to nip this in the bud ASAP. thank you tmf

Hi, I have not been on for sometime, long story....very long!! Anyway i have turned my life around and now that i have i feel able to deal with the demons that led me there in the first place. Just wondered if anybody had any good advice/experiences that they could share.....any help would be great. I will try to cut a very long story short.....i have a son with AS, at the time of dx i was a manager at a well known supermarket. When he ds was dx it hit me for 6, to begin with no-one in the family accepted dx so i took it all on board without really thinking truely about the dx. Anyway about 5-6 mths after dx family finally started coming round, although it was a relief to finally have support, reality hit me in a big way. I couldn't cope both work and home and slowly day by day i found it hard to survive. Thats the background in a nutshell....now the problem...... I was called in the office to state my performance was not up 2 standard required.....it wasn't good enough, you know the usual telling of. (i have been with the company 10 yrs and never been pulled in the office for anything like that b4 and an outstanding absence record). Instead of looking past the end of her nose and actually realise i was lost in my own little world and trying to find out y, she just kept going on about these figures and them figures. I tried to explain i agreed it wasnt my normal work standards and that past performance speaks volumes. Still not getting through that actually i needed some1 just to ask 'Y'!!!!! i attempted to tell her about son dx and got told i shouldn't bring family problems into the workplace.....i went on to explain it is not something you can just push to the back of your mind.....to which was replied with' can't u give him a pill or something' By now i was sobbing my heart out they adjourned for 5 mins so i could 'get myself together'. When i went back in, rather than reflecting on what i had told them and trying to come to an amicable solution they just said i had 4 wks to get my work back up to standard. Naturally i was then of work with depression for months because i thought my world around me was caving in and no 1 was listening. 10 sodding years of 110% loyality i have given them, and the one and only time i have needed support from them they shrug me of and try and push me out.......it worked i no longer work there as i felt i could not return. Sorry if i have ranted on, i tried to make this as short but as factual as i possible could. Anyway what i am asking is, do i have any rights. Is there an employment law that if i were to take this further i would have a case?? Is it discrimination to a working mother with a child with needs....i really don't know. I just wanted some advice b4 i looked further into it and having to pay for nothing. Tina

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Did any1 watch last night?? Scott and Matt are doing my head in already!!!

Hi Hev Don't even get me started on families.......arggghhhh Hope your dad is better soon! By the way stand your ground......i was like that, say right i am not doing it for them again, then would end up doing it. I finally learnt to say no, the first time was the was worst, it does get easier in time. Best wishes Tmf xx

Hi, My in-laws have lab. My son and the dog are wonderful togther....think he likes being able to get some1 2 do what he wants! Labs are so placid and excellant with the kids that i would now like 1......just convincing the other half! For now though i havebrought him one of those robopets for Christmas. You can basically train it to be good and to do tricks ect. I think he will thorughly enjoy this, if he copes well hopefully i can talk the other half round to get a real 1! tmf