lizzie

Hi Patrick, thanks for your reply, it really is a help to know that Im not on my own with this situation and Ive had some wicked advice from parents on this forum, the way you describe your son I can relate to, K is so very much like him in a lot of ways, I totally agree with you when you say that the childs happiness is as important as being forced into a situation that just causes misery and stress( ie school) The way I see things is, if a child is as stressed out and desperately unhappy as your boy sounds and mine is, then how can they be expected to learn anything anyway? If I was as miserable in my job as my son is at school, I would leave and get another job, why shouldnt our kids have another option? I have just about made up my mind what Im going to do(home ed) I feel quite alot happier about it since joining this forum and realising that loads of people home ed, and do a much better job of it than school. Thanks again for the advice it really has made a difference, wishing you every success and happiness with your situation. Lizzie.

I took mine to see Ice age during the hols, K doesnt drink anything fizzy so I got him a bottle of water ?2.75!!!!! I was absolutely gob smacked!! ###### daylight robbery!

I am relatively new to the forum, so I dont know any of the members very well, but I read Hevs post and my heart went out to her, I hope she will be ok and feel a bit stronger soon, I will be thinking about her. xxx

Thank you so much Oracle, and everyone else, who has offered support, up until now I felt so totally isolated, I have no family(parents both gone)+ very few friends(they seem to avoid us!) until I joined this forum I was coping alone, thanks again to everyone for being there!

Thankyou everyone who replied with advice for me, Ive had some really good info and suggestions from people, I sure wish I had know about this place before now, I have just been given more help in the last hour from the forum, as I have had in the last 7 months from school etc!!! Thanks again!

Hi, my 11yr old with AS has been having a really bad time at comp school since last sept, everything has got steadily worse over this time and for the last 2 weeks he has flatly refused to go, he says he is never going back, he hates the school the teachers the other kids and the regime of school its self, I am right on the verge of taking him out of school and teaching him at home, I know this is a massive step and I was wondering if anyone had any advice or know of anyone else that has done this with thier kids??

It sounds like you are describing my son!!! K is a big boy and when things arent exactly how he expects them to be he has outbursts( temper tantrums) and goes through the house like the tazmanian devil!! He treats me with contempt and has little or no respect for me, I sometimes feel like I have failed as a parent,it makes me very sad

Ive had similar experiences with my 11yr olds school, he keeps getting in trouble for not concentrating!! He does concentrate, usually for about 30 seconds!!!

Hi everyone, I am having really bad problems at the moment with my 11 yr old, he has had a terrible time since he started 'big' school, he hasnt settled at all, he has no friends and the senco dept hadnt let individual teachers know he has AS, so he hasnt been getting the help he should have and his school work has suffered really badly. It has got so bad now that he has flatly refused to go to school at all, I dont feel that I can make him go, he is so unhappy at school and spends breaks and lunchtimes in the toilets! Im seriously considering home-education for him and I wondered if anyone could give me any advice also how much support is there for parents that opt for home-ed,Im really worried about K's education, but if he is this miserable at school how on earth can he learn anything? HELP!!! Im scared of making the wrong decision!

Thanks for the welcome, its a relief to know that there are people I can talk to, who understand what we are going through, I look forward to getting to know you too, I wish I had done this a long time ago!!

Thankyou I feel better already!

Thanks Annie. sorry for apologising oops.... Ive done it again!!!

Hi all, Im new to this forum so please bear with me, I have an 11 yr old son with Aspergers and we are finding life very difficult at the moment, K was diagnosed AS in 2004 when he was in primary school, the school was great with him, having had many kids with asd in the school, K was very happy being at school, we had a brilliant network of support there and he loved it, he was very popular and had many friends, I knew 'big' school would be hard for him, but I didnt realise it would be like this! Since Sept last year not only has his school work suffered but he has been bullied and ostracised by other kids, who although are the same age as him seem so much more grown up than he is, he has had loads of time off school because he refuses to go, he has no friends and it came to light recently that he spends most break times and lunch times in the toilets, I was devastated at this and have allowed him to stay off school all week to give him a break from the stress, while I try to sort things out with the senco and the paed, I dont feel that I am getting any support, K's dad has nothing at all to do with us(his loss) and my Dad died suddenly, closely followed by my Mum even more suddenly K was affected very badly by this, he was with my Mum painting her a picture up until 20 mins before she died, my parents had always been my rock, since they passed away our lives have been so hard. There is a lot more to our situation than this but I dont want to appear to be feeling sorry for myself, Im not, I just need to talk about K's problems with other people who understand what we are going through, Im sorry to go on and on, this was meant to be an introduction with a brief outline of our situation, it turned into something else, I suppose Im just desperate to talk. sorry