steviegirl

On wednesday Hev, myself and Steve are going to new proposed residential school for Steven. Seeing as we love him very much any advice on what to look out for. Although Steve has a big agressive air about him he is still on 13 and very vunerable himself we want to be careful, what are the best questions to ask. Thanks :

When will they stop blaming parents for everything. As if publicity had no part in it. I never overate as a child cos there were not adverts, no chemicals and no t.v. Now they MAY fine parents for their children overeating. Hev and myself do try and curb Steves eating but he suffers with stress and aspergers and finds a lot of comfort with food. Also sometimes Hev gets so fed-up she cannot concentrate on everything, although she dont bring certain foods in the house. What more can you do? I feel sorry for parents today as my children were not confronted with all these pretty adverts and sweets and crisps everywhere. Also and I don't know, I think there is so much preservatis and things in food it causes a lot of bad behaviour. Kids were bad behaved in my time but not to the extent as they are now, so something is going on and no-one really admits it. If they are really cincerned about kids, take the stuff off the shelves to help parents. No they won't do that will they? If it's not there they wouldn't get attracted to it, and parents would not have the hastle of saying NO.

I think Steven has found Nicks achillies heel and naturally Nick reacts which is what Steven wants him to do. It is hard not to react especially getting called a paedaphile which is horrible. However they have been together for a good few years and I just wish it had not got to this point. Steven does try to get a reaction from me but I just think it is utterly ridiculous words and he only gets as far as the beginning of a sentence cos I can't be bothered, but I don't live with it 24/7 as Nick always tells me so I do feel sorry for him. He just can't cope and I can understand that. When the stepdad is running about like a maniac as well it really rips off. Steven is like he is on a stage and the more we confront him the more delighted he is. I can see that. I just lay on the bed and watch big brother cos my stress levels are not too good either. Hev okay at moment and I promised Steven he can come and play with the boys over here tommorrow night, football and he gets exhausted and falls flat on the bed. Even he can only go so far. I don't let him start acting up on Fridays cos it is eviction night and that is my main priority. Tommorrow is another day!!!

Just had phone call from her partner Nick. Steve started when social worker visiting, calling Nick terrible names and Little sister screaming. Nick said he cannot take anymore. Social worker never seemed to be able to help, suggested getting more help from CAHMS. Nick said they have been absolutely useless and we don't know where Hev has gone and the social worker is bringing Steven here. I will be ringing someone tommorrow to ask them how they expect my husband 73 on chemo and myself to do the job that a residential school should be doing. Hev just rang very upset don't know what to do, I have told her to have a rest. Steven here, I notice social worker never met us, so I will ring social workers tommorrow. Heather was beginning to feel better. The authourities are all b.......ds, I don't know what they are doing at all. Police even told Nick does he think Steven should be sectioned. He is 13 for god's sake. Yes that would save them all a lot of trouble!!!

(quote removed by moderator) Seasparrow, just a gentle reminder that since I have been on this site I have learned that some topics that we start with are better placed in offtopic. I think that is right. I mean some topics do melt into each other, but if we all start talking about Big Brother god know where it will end. I will always talk about it as an offtopic as I have my views. Hoping that you don't mind my suggesting this. I will then tell you what I think of big brother this yeas as an offtopic. Yes I am a sad one, but it is a means of a frantic escape to a nutty world where I can sit and wonder. WHY???

Maybe he needs his chest examining. His grandad has always had problems wih his lungs since he was young. Steven might have a slight chest infection. It is probably ticks but I notice when he clears his throat something always comes up. Tell the doctor just to be on safe side to eliminate anything wrong. Luv yaxxx

I forgot that the thank you was to BADDAD!!

I really don't mind and thanks for putting the picture there it was very nice of you and you did it with a good heart and also you are exstremely clever and I mean that.

Smeone has put a horrible looking "be very afraid" beside my name. Hev told me someone had put a savvy there but I was afraid when I saw it!!

glad you both enjoyed yourselves. Got right into big brother then realised Steved had shaved every hair off his head. I thought he was being quiet!! Katie was running round with brush and shovel just like her dad!! We had a good night though and Hev wasn't even tipsy-what a raver.

just a quickie. What do people consider is the best things for kids to eat and drink? there are so many they can't.

:r I get sick of some of my family who think I worry about Steve too much.. They told me their life stories when things went wrong and they all plonked the kids on me. I have looked after every one of my grandchildren but of course they do not need me so much so they can sit back and critise and say he is just spoilt and they could soon cure it. I notice they soon get fed up after a few hours and they also say Hev should not tell me anything. Also I have been asked if I could have a 19 year old live with me but because he is NT it will be okay as far as they are concerned. I don't mind at all cos I love him as well. Also when they want to go clubbing all night frequently I mind the little girl but thats okay cos shes NT as well. So thats okay isin't it !!! Of course I don't mind at all but I want them to understand that their sister and her boy need some help and a bit of understanding. Anyway Hev has helped them all out and they forget that conveniently. I might have an explosive row with the lot of them soon instead of walking on eggshells all the time. The lot of them should have received their child pyscology certificates by now they are so clever. Maybe they are training at the nightclubs or holiday destinations, they don't seem to have learned much though. Let em all get on with it!!!

According to my grandson son there is a big criminal organisation on this estate and he is the centre of it. He is usually walking around with a small boy and a boy who made a cheesecake and his photo in the local paper. Also one of the gang has turned over a new leaf apparently but Steven is usually knackered and playing football and saying "Ye boy" at the end of every sentence. I think that he thinks if his voice is loud enough we will believe him. Also I have to stroke his forehead as he is so worried about the bets he had on the internet. Really he is a great big annoying baby. We were all saying that stopping aspartame was a miracle as he was marvellous at last weekend, course he was he was betting like mad and trying to get the money back and he knew he had gone to far. He has an addiction to money, because Hev has always done everything for him and we have all spoilt him rotten and now it is payback time for us. Where we have gone wrong is thinking that if a child has problems such as Aspergers and now epilepsy we can somehow help him by giving into his every request because we fill sorry for him. Now we realise that everyone has to have a disciplined life so they know whats right or wrong. Our fault in this instance.