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hi everyone, you have all changed my mind and I will have a nice but quiet word with the teacher. Teachers and some other parents probably do think it is a trivial thing to get worked up about but to me and my son it is certainly not trivial. I am so new to all of this (autism and dealing with school) that I think I am going to have to learn pretty quickly. This was also the teacher who put in his IEP that we should make Owen choose what he wants to eat for tea and expect him to eat it ! HA HA very funny I thought, I've been trying for 5 years to get him to eat more , anyway the EP came to school the next day and told her to take it off the IEP!

Thanks for replies, after I had calmed down I decided not to say anything to the teacher this time.If she mentions it I will just explain how hard he finds it to suddenly have to do something different at such short notice. He was okay today as the classroom has two doors and we went in the door were she wasn't standing- I noticed quite a few other parents doing this also so I am not the only one.

Just have to get this off my chest, went to school as normal today,when the bell went I took my son to his classroom as normal where I always go in with him(as most of the parents do) and was stopped at the door by his teacher saying that he had to go in on his own today, so as you can imagine total mayhem then proceeded and my little son was dragged away from me.I was so stunned by it all that I just let him be taken off me,Ifeel like an awful mother.The teacher then asked me was he alright today and I just said it was because he didn't want to go in on his own.Iwas so cross ,why didn't they tell me yesterday they were going to be doing this and then I could have told him last night that he would have to go in on his own.I thught his teacher understood about his autism but obviously not! I am so upset about all of this especially as last night he did a little show for me about his christmas play, he sung the songs beautifully . Do you think I should say something to his teacher or just let it be - any replies appreciated thanks

Hi, I must be really lucky because the doctor who diagnosed Owen was absolutely brillient,his school teacher is fantastic and so understanding and then the EP was just great.I will not fall out with my sister ,she mutters things under her breath and think I cannot hear but her words do upset me and I go home and cry and after a while I feel better. Her and her husbands lives are so different from mine that I can excuse her of some of the comments said and she cannot have children of her own so perhaps that is another reason.My dad refuses to accept that my son has autism and refuses to read any of the leaflets I have given him but my Mum is really good and tries so hard to understand and be supportive anyway must go I think 3 year old has switched Owen's playstion off -rather a lot of crying going on, thanks everyone

Thank you all for your replies,I only joined on here a few weeks ago but have been looking on here as a guest for over a year.I have found this forum really helpful and to understand that i am not the only one having problems or a bad day!

Hello I an recently new on here. I have a five year old son who was diagnosed in July as having autism. Yesterday he was seen at school by an educational psychologist.I didn't really know what to expect but she was lovely.She explained a lot of the things about autism that we did not always understand.My son has a big food issue and I was so embarresed when i had to tell her that he still has jars of baby food mixed with mashed potatoes and carrots for his tea but she was lovely and asked why Ifelt embarresed and said she was really pleased with what he eats as she has known some children to eat only two things so the fact that he ate about 10 foods was really good.She told us not to listen to all the other parents who think they know better and to do what we think is right for us.She said we were a strong couple and that our son was lucky to have us as parents(but she might not have thought that when my son wouldn't get dressed this morning and i threatend to take him to school naked) Any way just wanted to tell everyone how fantastic it was to be told these things especiaaly since the last two weeks have been a bit of a struggle and have been feeling a bit low over some things that my sister has said about how i bring up my son.She has not actually got any children of her own but she seems to think she could do a lot better but i bet she couldn't . Anyway i have walked with a spring in my step today and I FEEL GREAT.

my son needs reminding to drink, luckily he will drink at school with the other children.I have nagged him all day about having a drink but he has refused, he had one drink yesterday and still has not had a drink today !

hi, my son was diagnosed as on the autistic spectrum in july,he is 5. My son loves cuddles and hugs and he always has done, he has vey good eye contact with people that he knows well but also has eye contact with strangers now and that is getting better all the time.His speech is very good.My son also runs up and down the room spinning his hands and has started to make this awful whirring noise aswell.Hope this helps

hi, would just like to add that my 5 and a half year old son has got autism, he is in mainstream school and the teachers say he is extremely well behaved, he has never ever been naughty- not in pre school ,nursery, or reception . He does everything that they ask him to do but when he comes home it is often a different story, people do not believe me when i say he completely different at home and i have given up trying to convince people differently.

my son was born 4 weeks early and could not suck on my breast or on a bottle.He was tube fed for a week and then started to suck, i did try to breast feed him but couldnot relax as they expected me to feed him in the special care unit which had five other babies in and anybody could come and visit their babies at any time so i gave up .My son has major problems with food, he still only eats pureed food and still has some baby jars that i can mix mashed potato and carrots in, he can eat dry food such as biscuits and crisps but only eats about ten different things, school packed lunches are a nightmare as he will not eat bread or fruit .My son is now five and a half and i think it is due to his autism , when he was a baby he never put anything in his mouth or chewed books like my 2nd son did

my 5 year old son has autism, he only eats 10 different foods and i find it really hard to pack a lunch box. All he has is a packet of crisps which have to be chicken or smokey bacon and a kitkat, the kitkat always comes back home uneaten.If the school bans this sort of food in lunch boxes i will not have anything else to put in it and would have to send him to school with just a drink.