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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Radio Four this Thursday

    It's going to be on at 12:30. Unfortunately I will miss it.
  2. Nervous reactions

    Thanks everyone, I did print this thread off and show it to him - I think he was surprised that other people are as jumpy as I can be. As for the caffiene thing, I don't drink coffee at all. I love tea and mainly drink it in the mornings. I don't drink any sugary/fizzy drinks at all and don't drink any stimulants in the evenings. If I do have tea in the afternoons, I don't drink it later than about 4pm. I've had a few restless nights recently but on the whole I sleep well and have done ever since my doctor switched me from Prozac to Cipralex.
  3. Do any of your children pick?

    Kids? I'm 42 and I have the most terrible scratching and scab picking habit. I'm covered in scar tissue as a result. Sometimes I don't even realise I'm doing it but one thing is certain - I do it more when I'm highly stressed. I hate the way my hands look yet as soon as a scab starts to go hard, just can't resist pulling it off, which of course leaves the wound larger and messier than it was before. I currently have four patches on one leg, one on a foot three on my hand, five on my arm, one on my back and one on my scalp. I hate myself for it.
  4. Nervous reactions

    I have Aspergers, my partner is NT. He's getting used to me being nervous in strange and crowded places although he finds it funny when I sometimes walk around with my arms crossed defensively in front of me and jokingly calls me a Freak. Last weekend we went to an airshow. At first I was particularly bad because it was crowded, noisy and chaotic. I asked if we could have a drink and we sat away from the crowd which gave me chance to take it all in and calm down. Once I felt calm enough to walk normally we went back into the crowd, and once the flying began I was fine - because we'd gone there for the sole purpose of my photographing the planes - my favourite hobby at the moment. But sometimes at home, my partner accidentally startles me and makes me jump. The intensity of my reaction is sometimes so great that he looks really hurt and thinks that I don't like him. It happened this morning - I wasn't sure which room he was in and I went into the kitchen to get my meds. He stuck his head round the door without me hearing him coming and he spoke - I jumped out of my skin! He looked so upset. And a night or two ago, I almost screamed in fear when he came to bed. What can I do to stop being so jumpy around the house? It is after all, my home and the one place that I should be able to relax. Any suggestions? I seem to be getting worse at the moment, but then we do have a lot of stress going on with access to his children, the CSA on our case, my busiest time of year at work and my partner coping with chemotherapy. It's a lot and I think we're doing really well to cope with it all, but it's so sad when he scares me.
  5. ASD Friendships Research Study

    Is there anyway people can help without going to London? Can't you make the questionnaires available online or by post? London and other big cities are scary places for many people with ASDs.
  6. Terms of endearment

    Does anyone else have problems using terms of endearment? Even as a child, I baulked at the prospect of writing something like "lots of love" or "love from" in a birthday card, and alwas plumped for a straight-forward and heartless "From". As an adult, works like "darling" or "love" just don't come out of my mouth - I'm even self-concious about addressing people directly by name and tend not to gain the attention of the correct person in the room first by calling their name. I am in a permanent and stable relationship, but the best he gets when I'm talking affectionately is "mush" or "mister". The only time I'm able to use a traditional term of endearment is with heavy sarcasm when we're sharing a joke. And yet it's not the words themselves as I can pour out "I love you"s and "Darlings" to my dog, but it all seems so false for people, even when there is genuine affection. If I want to tell my partner that I love him, I'm more likely to do it through the dog - to be in earshot of my partner while I talk to the dog, saying something like: "Do you think daddy knows that I love him?" Does anyone else do this or understand it?
  7. Chat Room

    Any idea what hours it can be moderated?
  8. zeolite

    I didn't know that zeolite could be used as a human remedy, but it is used in fish ponds to break down ammonia if the nitrogen cycle is imbalanced. I guess the theroy is the same - it breaks down the nasty chemicals that can harm or kill.
  9. Any Budding Authors Out There?

    My head's been a bit all over the place since my last post on this thread, but somehow last night and this morning I began to 'visualise' the story of my typical day, and so may well begin writing tonight. I'd also be happy to help with cover artwork if that's of any interest as I'm a bit nifty with Photoshop.
  10. Access or custody rights and AS

    Oh, good point. How stupid of me not to think of that. Thanks 'mum', that's very encouraging.
  11. Calling photographers

    I have recently rekindled my interest in photography and have had a great time sharing photos and meeting (virtually) people with similar interests on flickr.com. I recently started a new group, specifically for people with an ASD to display their pictures and express themselves through their photographs - either natural or 'Photoshopped'. So far no one has discovered the group, so if there is anyone using this forum who has an ASD diagnosis and an interest in photography, please take a look at Flickr and consider joining the AAA group. AAA group Flickr has brought me a lot of enjoyment over the last few months and it's like having a social life without the bother of meeting people!
  12. Has anyone ever had problems gaining contact with their (or their partner's) children as a direct result of either yourself or your partner having Aspergers? I am currently persuing a Contact Order and am worried that the adversary may try to use an AS diagnosis as 'ammunition' against contact with the children. Can anyone tell me if this is either likely or legally viable? Thanks.
  13. Any Budding Authors Out There?

    Sounds like an interesting idea. Have PMd with an offer of help.
  14. Engine Error

    I get it occasionally. Usually just closing the browser window and opening a new one clears it. It's a program glitch, but pretty minor compared to the protection it offers.
  15. smoking

    Almost a year for me. It can be done.