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We also got a Wii last christmas and to begin with it caused nothing but trouble. We have a wall mounted tv so DH wasn,t keen on the little ones palying with it in case they pulled the wires and broke the TV so DS1 was only allowed to play at certain times and this was usually when Dh wanted to watch tv so loads of arguments initially. He stopped palying with it until very recently when he also has got into Mario and the twins now paly with him. They alll love it. It still causes hassle as DS1 trys to control how the other 2 paly but i have to just stop them palying quickly if it gets out of hand.

Yeeees after spending 90 minutes on line and with the phone continually on redial i have finally got tickets to see Take That next year in Manchester. I am so excited this will be my 4th time of seeing them, can,t wait. I know i am sad but they are just the best band ever.

My first name is Joy and my surname bedford. so i just kind of added them together but a shortened version of surname. Kind of regret it now as my niece thinks it is a bit porn starish and teases me but it is a lot tamer than my sisters bluetooth name (don,t ask far too rude).

Well done Ben hope he has a good day tomorrow. Have one for me.

Thats fantastic news. So nice to hear something positive. Think positive it will help.

School havn,t suggested anything they are just happy to watch and see how things pan out, they said the same when they expressed concerns regarding Piers. They are just of the view that they are only little and just settling into school, they are also one of the youngest being born in June. Of course this could be true. However I am not sure what is happening at school, when my older boy went there it was a different headmaster he retired when M was in year 4 and was relaced with a young head and it is first headmaster post. The old head recognised m had a problem straight away and he was diagnosed and statemented within 3 months, however their is a child in Piers and Lydia,s class with global develpoment delay and he is repeating reception this year. He is not statemented despite his mum really pushing for this and she says the head takes so long to fill in relevant forms get in touch with the LEA etc and is generally not happy with him and another mum i know with an ASD child in year 5 is also not confident in his abilitys either. I had no problems in the last 2 years of Ms education there but his statement was up and running and i became good at negotiating with the LEA if they wanted to reduce his support. Will just wait and see for now, have Piers speach therapy appointment booked which i self referred for and at the moment I am just spendind time with them all letting them know they are loved and making them feel secure. We are also going down the star chart route, toileting for Lydia, getting dressed for Piers. So watch this space. DH is concerned but happy to blaime any behaviours they have on Marcus they are just copying him or are stressed because we live in such a stressful house, of course this could also be true so will queitly watch for a short time but I too am the kind if person who wants to know so we can put in place appropriate strategies. However i am concerned that if i push for assessment Dh will blame me for his children having problems and this may just push him over the edge as he is depressed at the moment and feels life is just awful, however he refuses to go to the GP and just mopes around beign negative all the time. So great fun in our house and they wonder why i am stressed.

I personally would buy many sets as if your house is anything like mine the sock monster will eat them anyway. We never have a matching pair of socks in our house. Both my boys are funny about socks, Marcus doesn,t like the feel of them and Piers has 2 toes which cross over each other so they genuinely are uncomfortable as are shoes so i know what a nightmare it is.

Karen I too read this with tears in my eyes don,t they realise what they can do a to family. We had problems with an insensitive teacher in reception and then she ended up teaching him again in year 2. She wouldnt allow me in the class although i used to sneak in and say i had to hand things over to his LSA but she didn,t like it. In reception marcus soiled himself all the time and schoool refused to clean him up and used to call us out of work, i didn,t drive so it took me 40 minutes to get there, one day Dh went and she had him stood in front of the class with his trousers around his ankles and all the children and herself holding their noses. Dh actually cried but was too angry to speak to her. the next day i went to the head threatening to take them to tribunal if something didn,t get sorted miraculously overnight it was written into his statement that his LSA,s would clean him discreetly. however when he left year 6 i found a behaviour diary in his school bag from this time. It had comments like "pooed himself again smell terrible lingering on childrens coats" and another one "Marcus very vocal today shouting innapropriate words and disrupting class, in my opinion shouldnt be in mainstream education". I was so upset i showed my friend the book who said i should have reported it to the LEA. I didn,t as said teacher has thankfully retired but i will never forgive her for her handling of this issue. As i have previously said some teachers are fantastic and others just downright nasty, horrible people and unfortuantley it is a lottery as to which you get. Good luck with the home education and hope you get your happy bot back soon.

Following my thread could DS2 have ADHD school have highlighted some concerns regarding my daughter as well. It was parents evening last night and the teacher is pleased with Piers progress and said he just needs time to settle down. However she said she was concerned as Lydia hardly ever talks in class. She did say that in the last few days she has become a little more chatty with the other children but only when she doesn,t think another adult is listening or watching. If she catches an adult watching she stops what she is doing and looks down at her feet and sucks her thumb. If a teacher trys to do one to one work with her she willl not look at them and says she doesn,t know the answer. The teacher says she has a close friendship with 1 little boy but tonight they ran out of school together and he touched her she pushed him to the floor and said she didn,t like the way his breath smelled and not to touch her and she is now not his friend. i feel so sorry for the little boy. We have noticed that if children talk to her she acts as if they are not there and blanks them completely but will talk if the mood takes her. She is just the same at home, she is a bit of a stroppy madame at times. The most worrying thing for me is that she has begun to soil herself after being fully toilet trained and has been prescribed laxatives just like her big brother. Also tonight she asked for a DVd on and was insisting i let the credits run until her favourite character had been on as she always does but when i started it I had done it wrong apparently and she tantrumed for ages, didn,t like me, i never listen. She is also totally obsessed with Take That (the band) can,t fault her as so am I but isn,t this odd for a four year old, she knows there names, all their songs watches the DVD every day and shows an interest in there childrens names and where they live. I think she is just extremely shy and stressed at starting school but she also says she likes school. I am also beginning to think i am a little paranoid and am sure my GP will diagnose Munchausens by proxy any day soon. Am i worrying unnecessarily. Feel free to call me anything that appears to fit.

I remeber them too as do my kids as my dad who is in his late 50s used to put it on for us all. He has even bought a DVD for my 3. In fact he calls Piers and Lydia Willy and Jenny the twins and asks them where spotty dog is.

Fingers toes and everything crossed hope it is good news.

I think this would be a good idea someone who understands who isn,t an adult.

I remember them all and was singing the theme tunes to some despite our speaker not working on the PC. Seems like yesterday as well.

Hi Bailey and welcome.

Hi theresa you won,t be able to miss me as i have bright red hair extensions at the front hope to meet you.

M 13 in january is exactly the same will get in the bath when told but has tantrum about bubble baths and needs encouragement to use shower gel some of them he can,t stand the feel of. He is also using the excuse of not wanting chemicals near his skin this is left over from when he was gluten casein free as alot of things are wheat derived and also from me using cloth nappies and only natural products on the littlies. Left an obsession regarding being an eco warrior when it suits him. I bought him reallly nice deodarant and aftershave for christmas it is still in the packaging. Nagging appears to work but drives me mad as i hate to be a nag. He changes his clothes but only because i tell him to but he is never coordinated and looks like a scruffy urchin all the time.

Hope you eventually get the support you all need. <'>

My son was OK at this age but only because he had a teacher he really liked and his LSa,s had been the same throughout school. Our problem arose in year 5 when he changed class and had a different teacher, he had the same teacher 2 years running as the teacher moved year groups, Mr k was also the SENCO so very understanding and he and M got on well. It took me a long while to realise it was the change in teacher as he still had the same LSA,s and was still in the same class group but this was a major issue for him. This was also shortly after the time my twins had arrived so put most of the problems down to that. He settled down again in year 6 as Mr K again moved year groups so he was in his class again, i think this was done deliberatley and now the twins are at the same school I often get asked by this teacher how M is doing. There are some fantastic teachers out there it is unfortunately down to luck. I don,t take mine shopping either too much hassle I either get DH to do it or do it online (i am supposed to be doing that now but got sidetracked).

Thought i would just update. I finally got hold of the SENCO yesterday after she telephoned to ask my permission for M to stay to buddy club. So i grabbed the bull by the horns and discussed the above. She said she had recieved a phonecall from the SPED team saying that m was having problems and she had assured them he was coping. All this was said in a very flippant manner. Tried patiently to explain that he may appear to be coping because he is holding it all in until he gets home from school then telling us all his worries, also explained that he cried most nights, self harmed and was threatening to jump of a bridge. She then suggested that he was attention seeking as he didn,t get enough because of his younger siblings. I told her that they all had equal attention and love, the little ones might have more direct contact than M because he chose to hide in his room away from the other 2 but i could tell she wasn,t listening. I was absolutely furious and very upset. When i picked m up from school I told him what had been said (obviously in a subtle way) and he said that everytime he goes to them with a problem they say we need to sort out your stress management issues, i agree with this but they are not sorting out anything and just appear to be fobbing us off. I then spoke to my wonderful supportive mother (not) who agreed with the SENCO and said i just need to spend more time with him what does she suggest I forget i have 2 other children, a husband, a job, a life. Today i went to family therapy alone as there were things i needed to discuss without M present and she said she couldn,t believe school and my mum were refusing to acknowledge there was a problem and said that she was seriously concerned about Ms mental state and suggested he may be better in an ASD unit. I suggested i felt the school were trying to meet targets and she in an indirect way agreed with me. She gave a leaflet about self harm and how to deal with it as parents, which hopefully will help as i feel well out of my depth. She has asked to see us agin in 2 weeks as she wants to see M herself. I then spoke to the local ASD unit who suggested i telephone the SEN team and get his review brought forward which i hadn,t realised i could do. I can,t believe this is happening as i had doubts about his abilty to cope in the mainstream comp anyway and the SENCO seemed so confident they could meet his needs told me about how well the other ASD boy they had was doing, it makes me wonder if he reallly is doing that well. So still stressed but preparing for the fight as i will not give up till I have my happy boy back. Thanks again for your help.

That great i too will try to make the launch. We have been to Magna before and M copes Ok but just gets really hyper and then can,t sleep.

Well done OJ hope you get through.

Poor you my Mum had Neuralgia once and it looked agony from where i was sitting and she said it was worse than that. hope you are feeling better.

You are not being a fraud and i too was advised to fill it in thinking of the worst possible day. He may be Ok now but you might hit a bad patch (I hope not) soon. I justify it to myself that the money goes on M anyway as he needs his clothes replacing so often as he just eats them when he is stressed so needs a new jumper every month. He is also very destructive so i also use it to replace anything of the other 2s that he had destroyed.

Is melatonin available from your GP as i thought it wasn,t available in the UK. M is stilll late to get to sleep and often wakes in the night but rarely disturbs us now he just tends to go on the computer. He rarely seems tired either surprisingly.

Thats great news it gives me a little hope