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I realy hope things work out for you and im so sorry i cant offer advice I just hope that you prove your case, my boss is a health visitor so i may be able to get some info on what you can do next possibly? (sorry not to sure on this kind of thing) my thoughts are with you and if I can help at all please let me know x x

thanks both of you i feel though i am in the same boat he is in bed at the moment (my other half)as we had such a big row a while ago that i did not want him about, I cant do this all over again this it ruined one relationship after 12 years and I cant let it happen again the kids are off to their dad's tommorrow so am planning to do a meal and hand over book to read, and sort of make it clear that i cant go on like this, i was on my own before and I know I can damn well do it again without this hassel! wish me luck any ideas on books that may help??????? His problem seems to be understanding his strangness im sorry if I offend anyone its just the only way i can exlain Ryan, he does some wierd things sometimes makes me laugh sometmes makes me want to die but im used to it and he is my boy! We get on so well and he is fantastic with my daughter who has no problems at all. the really sad thing is my son worships mr poxy shortcake and he really can see it, fathers day he made him a card and a blue tack present (obsession at the time) and althouh mr shortcake thanked him he could of thanked him more I think if it was me i would have made such a fuss flipping men ..... Sorry just looked and i seem to have taken over this board with replys to everyone dont mean to be interfering just so happy to be able to talk to people going through the same things as me and not feel mad.....do i make sence I should have wine and go to bed lol

apparently when i make R steak it is sik !makes me feel very old as well you are not alone in not being able to understand this talk!! oh to be young again eh!

yes daily dont know why as it realy does get me nowhere and the old choices and calm talking work better but sometimes i just cant help it!!

Just wondering if anyone had any thoughts or advice?? To cut a long story short I was married to r's dad and we split 4 years ago. I have been with my boyfreind for 2 years and we have brought a house together and have been living together for 3 months. He has always been fantastic with the kids but lately i have noticed he does not understand R at all. Tonight he was moaning at him for leaving the taps on in the bathroom i have tried to explain that he cant remember to turn them off but he just doesnt get it have explained so often his problems but i really dont think he gets it, there are other little things that he does that he doesnt "get" either, it is starting to make us niggle at each other I hate it my husband didnt understand which is alot of the reason behind our split i thought i had finally found someone who could cope-maybe im wrong makes me so sad i love r with all my heart but i love my boyf also he supports me so much meetings at the school he is there if i need time out he takes the kids out or lets me have a bath and he deals with them-am i being picky or will he ever jst get him like I do? sorry to go on again guess im in one of them moods!!

just to update! i picked mr up from after school club he was wearing the following paper jacket, trousers and get this a bow tie!!! all coloured in (had his uniform underneath) makes me wonder though what the school have allowed him to do all day-as it is his transition period at the moment-moving to another year new class new teacher what they do with him all day get the feeling today they have let him do what he wants! Made me really sad seeing him like that though he thought he looked the biz but in reality he looked like a target to be bullied found myself wanting to shout at him to just be normal now im sitting here thinking and getting myself all worked up and upset just looked at him asleep and he looks so innocent and sweet and I love him so much like that that my heart aches but when he does all these strange things I just want to scream, sorry to go on just nice to have a anonomous rant!

nothing really bad but you can get the odd "homemade" video so I have been told. Apparently some of these "happy slappings" have also been posted on there you might want to check on your history after he has been on there just to see what he has been looking at?

congrats I am waiting on my re-assessment to be done feel like im waiting on the grim reeper did someone mention a brandy.....

Ohhhh i so know what you mean!!! I cant stand it when people (including my ex husband R' dad) tell me that he is normal and that he doesnt do that when he is with me NO OF COURSE NOT MORON YOU NEVER SEE HIM AHHH!! sorry had to get that off my chest People assume that as our children dont look different that they cant possibly have anything who with them the worse one are people who say "we never had things like that around when we were younger" urr yes you did it was just never diagnosed!

hi, My son also had toliet trouble and would wet the bed and wee in his room every day. The way I have sort of overcome this is to have a visual chart on his door with a picture of a reward of his choice (within reason!) for the end of the week if he has stayed dry and not wet around his room. He is allowed x1 day (but I started it at 3) for wet days, on these days I dont say anything to him just have no reaction to it - but the days that he is dry I really praise and make a big thing about being nearer to his prize. I had a porta loo (as suggested above!) and put it near the bed, each week I moved it further away until it was at his door it was then a case of well your at the door so you might as well cross the hall. I got him a torch which was a bit of a novilty to start but has saved me from doing x2 loads of stinky sheets and rugs or whatever else he used as a loo in the mornings! Also try waking him up in the night (know it is a pain but really is worth it!) eventually his body will train itself to wake up at a certain time to have a wee. Obviously each child is different and what works for one doesnt always for the next, hope I have given you some ideas! good luck

glad all is ok

nobody has commented on the large spot that seems to have consumed my entire face but i know that they know its there!!!!

smelly sorry was meant to come after sweating!

Shall be having a glass or 2 of wine tonight I think after a "exciting" evening and an even more hasseled morning R has a new obbsession which involves making clothes bedding and anything else he can think of out of paper - this went on for HOURS last night as he sat and made an entire wardrobe for himself and insisted that he was wearing the made clothing range to school today, neadless to say this morning he came out of his room dressed head to to toe in paper he compromised in the end (after a hour) that he could wear the hat and "jacket" over his real uniform just had a call from the school who said that as the morning has progressed he has added to the uniform cant wait to see what he looks like tonight!!! I must admit though his range is quite good and i may get him to make me an outfit to wear for a rare night out might start a new trend D&G eat ur heart out!!

Ello to you all!! Must admit am already a bit of an addict on this site! R was driving me a bit crazy this morning as was insisting that i had repalced the toothpase with blue tack (had changed it without telling him I forgot opps ) he only likes the plain white ones and was refusing to brush his teeth apparently i was trying to murder him and told me that i dont care what kids like and dont i understand anything!! wanted to cry at the time as he was really going for it I was late for work and my little girl was waiting for her breakfast but managed to calm it down got to laught though i mean trying to murder him with blue tack!!!!

just checked with a girl in my office who is like a walking vet! she said it should be ok make sure he has lots of water and keep an eye on him for a day or so! hope ok

Hello all im a 29 year old mum to R who is 8 and L who is 6. R has ASD ADHD OCD and ticks, he is a nightmare at times and causes me to drink more than my fair share of white wine but hey I wouldnt be without him (or the wine lol) Reading through all the posts on here is so helpful and I have found myself either nearly in tears or laughing at some of the things our kids get up to (im sitting at work doing this so im sure i look like a crazy lady!) funny that they can bring us so much happiness yet sometimes so much pain - or am I the only one who feels like that??

hi, my son who is 8 has been on rispodone for about 8months and it has changed his life, before he was on it he had no freinds was constantly excluded from school and i was on the verge of a breakdown! life with R now is still hard dont get me wrong we still have bad days and meltdowns and everything else that goes along with having a special needs child but nothing compared to what it was like before my daughter is happier as she doesnt get attacked the second i leave the room and home is that bit more settled and calmer!!! He did gain weight the first few months and went from wearing size 8-9 clothes to going up to 12-13 (he is very tall anyway) over the last x2 months he has "grown into it" and what with getting taller and getting more excercise it has evened out and looks better now than he did before. I honestly belive that had i not made the choice to medicate him his life would not be how it is now, this time last year not one child would play with him at school slowly he has developed the understanding of gentle touching and is not so rough resulting in being allowed to join in alot more which is fantastic for him he has now also joined a local cubs group something that i thought would never happen!! Hope things work out x

Hi, My son R who is 8 was on this drug 2 years ago, it did not help at all and caused him to react very badly at the beginning- he tried to run out in front of a car and constantly said he wanted to die it was a horrible time and I can quite honestly say the worse few months I have ever had with him. R has ASD ADHD OCD and torrettes (only ticks at the moment) I had him off medication for a year but 8 months ago relented and agreed to him trying Rispodone it has changed our lifes! I was very reluctant as at first he had very bad weight gain and was constantly eating-he would even steal food but over the last 2 months he has lost loads of weight and looks better than he ever has done. I cant obviously say what is best for your child but be very wary of amoxotine!!