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Reuby2 I too often feel I have missed something during conversations and I often have. I've learnt to smile and nod and pretend.Then I just ask hubbie afterwoods.What was that I didn't get it.I cant process loads of info at once.i kind of switch off. I get so frustrated with myself. Mossgrove i have many eureka moments too after reading bits on this site.I think I do that too I agree with you I haven't turned out too bad like you say that gives us loads of hope for the future.As is not the end of the world.

As a child I did a lot of dancing and acting.But tell me to go on stage and speak and i probably wouldn't be able to do it.I speak so fast that no one would be able to understand me anyway.

Dont be too hard on yourself rainbow queen.None of us are perfect parents regardless of what we have or dont have.The important thing is recognising our difficulties and making sure they don't have a negative impact on our children. There are many many parents I'm sure who have no idea of their impact on others and consequently should not of have children but you and i am sure all the other parents on this forum with or without AS etc are not one of them.Have some of these <'> <'> <'> <'>

I used to hide behind the sofa when the door bell went or run upstairs too.I just presumed I was very shy.Now after suspecting I have as I'm not sure. Zemanski Looked up comorbid conditions on the search.I notice there was no mention of ocd.Is that not classed as a comorbid condition though?Dont have any of the other conditions though Hurrah hurrah :

Suze thats interesting.I've recently realised I have as too.I've always known i had ocd well for years and I understand the two conditions can run along side one another though not always. My daughter suffered from autistic encephalitus after her mmr booster and i believe that in some cases these things can be quite hereditary. Its interesting you say that you first thought about your condition after your son was diagnosed it must have been a bit of a shock. I am not seeking a diagnosis either, some traits I dont actually have so for that reason i would consider mine is quite mild.

Minxygirl I too have ocd as well as as Both conditions come on more when i am tired or stressed like you said.I think this is fairly common in lots of conditions. Hectors House i can really relate to what you are saying I too have ocd and have recently realised I have as, like you have.I try not to let it get me down though.I dont take any anti depressants but then i dont have a child with special needs to cope with on top of. I suffered from depression when my daughter had autistic encephalitus for six months and also throughout the subsequent pregnancy of my son and up until he was about 18 months old. I have read though that people with as are more prone to depression.Not sure if this is the case though. All the parents on this website have mu upmost admiration just for keeping on going and battling on and not giving up. <'> <'> <'>

I believe this is very typical of chilgren with As>when my daughter was autistic she kept putting her hands over her ears.A specialist told me that apparently the filter wasnt working properly in her brain causing every little sound to go in.Which also explained when we were in a noisy palce why she struggled desperately to understand what I was saying to her.In a quiet place eg at home I found I got much more response as it was only my voice she nedded to focus on.Hope this helps.

What a lovely thoughtful thing to do.Just don't do it for me.I agree my ocd and as wouldnt be able to cope eith it either.Great job glad your mum loved it.

Thats really well explained in plain english.Thanks Phasmid.It seems much simpler to understand now.

When my daughter was autistic people would cross the street to avoid us.the same people that had chatted to me perfectly fine the week before.I guess you find out who your friends are I tried to ignore the stares but it really gets to you in the end.So much so i would hury everywhere at break neck speed trying to get back in doors again before she started doing something odd. There were a couple of occasions when I said something usually when horrible little old ladies passed comment. She used to pick rubbish up off the floor and it was really hard to stop her and this lady was tutting and moaning and i just let rip. Another time she was sitting in her buggy when another one of these lovely little old ladies said she should be walking a girl of her age. I just said through gritted teeth actually she is ill and keeps falling over. So I appreciate how difficult it is to say to people and what to say and how to say it without losing your temper. : <'> <'> <'>

I too agree with what Laine said.After a while people realise that as is part of the person and without it they wouldn't be them.Sure it can take a lot of getting your head round and getting used to.I know my husband sometimes is driven mad by me.He just walks away in frustration.Then other times he will laugh and other times he informes me he loves me because of it.i do feel though that sometimes if you have as particularly if it is mild and you recognise afterwoods something you have done is because of as you tend to get a bit upset and frustrated with yourself. I am sure that your parents will love you for you.People with As have many many good qualities as well.

Hi Neda Welcome to the forum This is the best forum there is and is used by all sorts of people.Parents of children on the spectrum, grandparents, Adults on the spectrum and parents who are themselves on the spectrum and have a child on the spectrum.You'll find it really supportive and there are some extremely knowledgable people on here. As far as your son goes push and push and dont give up.You know your son best as a parent and if something isn't right then you will in all probability be the first person to know.A parents instinct is second to none <'> <'> <'> Sending these to you and your son.

Wow my daughter would be jealous.One of her friends in her class danced on x factor with chicco.Haven't heard the last of it yet.He's her idol.Sad isn't it.She is only nine!If i hear one more time what time is it?It's chicco time!!!I'll go mad!!. : :

Me too!I was just about to get on the phone to hubby to explain.I thought it was just me being an idioit.Me and computers don't mix I'll hold fire then.Panic over.

This is fantastic.What an inspiration for others.You must be so proud of her.

Glad things are looking up for you.Great news

Iw ould second what Ealonor said.Parents dont have a right to know but we have a right to tell them if we so wish. I told my mum I thought I had suspect AS and she was a bit shocked and a little bit upset.then she kept saying to me well it is only mild though isn't it.to which i replied yes because i feel it is. Then she came to the conclusion that I was still me the daughter she had always had and now I dont think she seems me as any different just as me the same person she has always loved.But from my experience it takea a bit of time for them to get their head round.As someone else said there are occasions when it seem to open a whole can of worms. So I cant offer any advice one way or the other just have to do what you feel is best for you.Good Luck

I'll join you then trouble is i know very little about trains.Well I know about Thomas thanks to my son.

Hi I cant help you in that I dont have a child with As but I can tell you about me as a child.I would suspedt I have As.I was appalling at maths could not grasp it whatsoever.But my reading was excellent probably easy one of the best in the class.i read and read I loved it.I also wrote and wrote, which i loved.Not sure if I am any good at it but often had my essays read out to the class so couldn't have been too bad. Trouble is because I had an excellent memory I was good at anything I had to recall loads of factf for e.g. history, religious education etc etc.This then put me in the top set overall but left me no support for things like maths. Hope you get something sorted out for your son.

This is very interesting.Thanks Jaded.Is it saying we should grab all train spotters and whisk them off to be tested and eccentric professors. Seriously really interesting reading.thanks

Your stories show how amazing you all are as parents.I only had to fight for my daughter for six months but my husband says that I faught tooth and nail and to this day he always says to me.I am so proud of you for that.You did for her what I never could have done.You never gave upon her.You re-taught her so many things.You never let her see you cry.You held your head high and carried on taking her to playschool every day. But I tried to explain to him anyone would have done the same.But he wont have it.I think these stories here just prove my point. It makes you a stronger person determined not to be fobbed off.We as parents know our children best and there will be no one more determined than us.The parents on this forum have my upmost admiration and support for the daily struggle they ineviatably have.I was there once and it makes you a different but so much stronger person. <'> <'> <'> <'> To you all.

I didnt know this .Wow that's the nearest to a claim to fame I'm going to get.

Really hope you get somewhere.I think you need to really make a point about your nephews diagnosis and not back down until you get somewhere.Good Luck.

My daughter(N.T.) ate a total of about five things until she was seven. 1.Little sausages 2.Marmite sandwiches 3.Chocolate 4.smiley faces 5.Dry bread not all mixed together Every year for christmas dinner she would only eat yorkshire pudding! Now at nearly nine she will try anything. My son at three(N.T.)will eat 1.Jam sandwiches by the bucketful 2.Fishfingers 3.Smiley faces but providing they are not on the plate with anything he likes better. 4.Frosties 5.Jaffa cakes but not if they've got squashed. This time round I've taken no notice and I know he will grow out of it just like my daughter. Too many dinnertimes were spent with my husband yelling at her stop examining your dinner and eat it.It really drove us mad.But there is light at the end of the tunnel, honest.Dont worry about it more important things to worry about.

The only thing I can say is that people with As are often outstandingly good in certain areas for instance brilliant memory,excellent readers far ahead of their age but then this can masks the areas they are struggling ine.g. communication etc.It might be worth mentioning this to the school if you haven't all ready.i hope you can work out what triggered him off and avoid a repeat of this.Sorry to hear your having a rough time.