hev

i have been thinking along the lines of medication again as he cannot seem to calm down,we got an appt at cahms on friday so im going to have a word,i havent found cahms very helpful to be honest but its all worth a try

zemanski you are so right when you say the behaviour feels threatening and i dont like feeling like this,thankyou for all your advice,always sounds corny but im so glad im not alone and have got people to talk to who know what im going through

first few days not good at all but steves been up mums for 3 days so ive had chance to charge my batteries ready for round 2 when he gets back!!

forgot new letters!! BDWRA

Kris stop joking right now!!

i think the michael winner one is brilliant,i actually laughed out loud for the first time today!!

health visitor came out to due katies check and i told her about how i have trouble coping with steven,she said she would get in touch with ss for me to see if i could get respite for next school holidays,at the time i said yes but i keep thinking about it,im a bit wary of them i dont know why,i think are they going to go over my life and in the end not do anything to help anyway,i told the health visitor i pushed steven the other day and im now thinking they might think i mistreat him and i really dont,thats why i got health visitor involved cos i felt so bad about it all,i spose really i am worrying ss want to take kids away from their parents all the time,ive got to sign a form to be referred and i know it does help with a lot of things to have a social worker,what do you think?

i hope this doesnt sound silly but i feel like steven is bullying me and i dont know how to stop the behaviour,well in theory i know how to but i find it very hard to carry it through. if he asks for something and i say no he screams at the top of his voice and throws things and i find it very difficult to ignore,he is a very big boy for 12 and my worry is when he gets older its going to get worse unless i change the way i deal with him now,to be honest i have spoilt him,his dad left when he was young,he got picked on at school,hes got aspergers and i know ive tried to overcompensate over the years as i do feel for him and what he goes through. how do you all deal with things when they are bigger than you and are throwing things about,its not as if i can send him to his room as he would come straight down,all i seem to be doing is rowing with him,i feel like ive lost control of the situation,any advice how you cope please

you make more sense than me simon!!well done,heres to the next 1000

thanks everyone,today has been lot better,health visitor cam out and she going to work on my behalf to get some respite for steven in holidays,i gave him big cuddle today and it was nice,hes my little man really even though hes taller than me,going to take one day at a time in future

i feel emotionally drained tonight,from the minute steve got up i knew it was going to be bad,he always gets up and is very rude but hes been insulting me all day,in the end he was being so bad to my 2 year old i told him to get out the front as he kept coming up to my face and screaming,everytime i walked away he would come and shout more insults,i find it so hard to be paitent,my 2 year old is sobbing all through this,i tell steven i hate him,he kicks me in the back about 6 times,i push him over,none of its right,its terrible fighting with your son when hes got a condition he cant help,why did i get to the point of telling him i hate him and pushing him,i should have put katie in her buggy and walked round the block but i had lost control myself,i know the correct way to deal with stevens outbursts is to stay calm but i couldnt today,i love steven more than anything but i find it all so hard,some advice please as i feel not well tonight about it all

im late as usual but well done logan

ive been thinking for months that DS meant diagnosis,thanks for clearing that up,i wont get confused now!

thanks for replies,it made me feel lot better,since i posted hes been going over shop and on bus on his own and he seems very happy,i know its me who has to come to terms with it all,hes ok

im completely lost here but youve all made me laugh tonight,thanks i needed it!!

steven loves uk gold for the old eastenders reruns,he is so excited the mitchells are coming back to the new one,he thinks he should be their brother!!

�5 off when you spend �50 at argos and �10 off when you spend �100,till about 2nd november i think

well done with the form from hell,it gives me nightmares!!

suze if you are buying i will have a large diet coke without the vodka of course,im on the wagon!

hello lynn,i used to have a noisy neighbour like yours,about 10.30 every night my walls used to shake with the song sexual healing by marvin gaye!!(i dread to think what was going on!!)it must have deafened them though cos i could hear every word,they might have been doing it to get back at me though cos steven had a habit of throwing a ball against the wall for hours on end,lol!

i think one of the hardest things i find with stevens aspergers is his lack of friends,i see kids playing in the street and i could cry then i go home and hes on his computer on his own,i have tried for years to come to terms with this but its always there,i dont think hes bothered but i would love to see him and some boys playing football or for him to have a best friend,i think i feel it more today cos half term is coming up,i do take him out a lot to stop the boredom,im sure its more of my problem than it is his to be honest as he never mentions it,does anyone else feel like this?

i hope you have a lovely time,its lovely to hear some nice news love hev

i know exactly how you feel,steven never got invited to parties as well as having no one to invite to his,it is heartbreaking isent it,its better now as hes 12 now and it doesnt notice as much,go to the playcentre,he will enjoy himself,sometimes i think we get upset and they dont even notice if that makes sense

hello mel,i often have days like that,you are def not alone!! we all understand on here,its so hard i think,sometimes i feel like im not coping at all, other days im supermum,hopefully tomorrow will be better for you,i say that to myself every night,keep posting love hev

hello suze,no i dont mind you saying it,i was thinking it myself,i have been feeling like i needed it also,that was a wake up call for me the other day,i was out of control,feel a lot better now. it was very hard for me to post that on here about my drinking but once i done it i felt so much better like i had admitted it out loud if that makes sense,thankyou for your replies,it sounds corny but this forum really helps me