hev

you have nothing to be sorry for,you have been supportive to me when i needed it,hope your little girl bit better now love hev x

i never touched alcohol till i was about 25 and then it was in moderation,just lately ive liked drinking vodka,its about once a week but if im aware of it,i think it means theres a problem i think,yesterday i went out and i got so drunk i feel humiliated today,i dont think im stable enough to dring so i am not going to touch it any more,its just when i have a drink i feel more like myself with no worries if that makes sense,any advice please as its something which is worrying me

if i dont jump the minute steven asks me to do something he is terrible to me,insulting me,swearing at me,i feel like i am walking on eggshells,i just bought him some new things as i thought he would like them,i dont expect him to be forever thankful to me but its like he takes everything for granted,he is 12 and i know they all go through this but i dont know whats aspergers/hormones or hes just a spoilt boy who doesnt appreciate anything. he gets up for school and if his breakfast isent ready right away he starts shouting,if he cant find his keys he shouts,it sounds pathetic but i feel like he is bullying me,when i look at what ive written it sounds stupid,i feel sorry for him as he doesnt have any friends,i know he gets frustrated but i dont know what to do. just needed to get it off my chest,i need to be the parent and get some respect from steven but i dont know how to

i cant give any tips cos i dont cope very well myself,ive been on prozac and i know steven cant help having aspergers and obviously i love him loads but i find his behaviour so hard to cope with,i havent tried lavender oil as i would need a constant bathfull to keep me calm,i just go day by day and see what joy that day brings then hope 2mra will be better,you are not being negative,we all have our bad days,i post on here and it helps me to read about other peoples ways of dealing with their children,you are not on your own by any means

hello,it might be a routine op but we worry dont we,this time 2mra it will all be over,let us know how he gets on,dont worry love hev

hello bev,im sure these people do these things to annoy us,it sounds ridiculous to me,steven has taxi to and from school,i assumed if you had a diagnosis they automatically got transport,let me know how you get on

im amazed she wasent hurt,shes a little monkey though i caught her trying to pull my hoover upstairs today,to help me she said!!

hello bid i dont think you are being oversensitive,its a very difficult time for you,take care love hev

i admire people who go on tele like this as they are braver than me!my katie loves supernanny and copies the things the kids do,i just wonder if supernanny has any kids as she can go home when filming is done,i would deal with my kids different if i had a break at the end of each day,i do love the programme though!

what lovely words,exactly how i feel

katie is 2 years old and fell from top to bottom of stairs today,she is ok thankgod but dont things happen quickly,it could have been so much worse,iv been saying to people lately i cant wait till shes at school,things like this make me appreciate her good health

having real trouble trying to introduce healthy eating without calling it a diet,it causes so many rows,he is so used to eating what he wants,i dont buy the junk food but hes desperate for it,or he thinks he is,it dont help ive got a weight problem and i turn to food when im fed up which is often!!

hello viper,i know what you mean about this forum,its got me through some really tough times

thanks,yeah that does make sense,i forgot that punishments have to be close to the incident,i just said to him he should have told teacher what was wrong before lashing out,thanks for replies sometimes i cant see what to do as im in the situation if that makes sense

steve had a very good first 2 weeks but his contact book every day is bad now,today he hit a teacher with a ruler,if your child misbehaves at school do you reprimand them at home?i know that sounds silly but i dont know what to do,its been so long since hes been to school,also am i punishing behaviour he cant help?oh steves been diagnosed for 3 years now and im still like im at the start not knowing how to deal with things,any advice please

i think thats the end for me and sister now,found out there was a drunk woman in pub who warned steven not to mess with her when she drunk,my sister calmed it down but i cant get over it,i know they say life too short and dont fall out with people but she hasent phoned me to talk about it,i have no intention of phoning her,i think if she had phoned to apologise or give some explaination we might have worked through it but she sees nothing wrong in it,i cant forgive and forget

thankyou very much!

im still looking,i look under calories on google and it says to calculate for each year of their life,plus a thousand,then 200 a year but i make that 3200,that sounds a lot to me!

this really is the end of line now for me and my sister,she very rarely has steven for me,says hes too hard to handle then says to other people theres nothig wrong with him,i mean as if i would make it up,anyway she offered to have him for the night yesterday,i met her in town with him,he is 12 and i went home,today i find out when i left them they went round all the pubs in our town,not nice pubs either,she got paraletic and then she left him waiting outside a pub for my nephew,her son,he is responsible but i dont think thats the point,then my nephew took him home and my sister didnt get in till 12.30 at night,i must say that steven really enjoyed himself but im so upset,if you say you are going to look after a child then look after them,i know he was ok in the end but anything could have happened,i feel i want no contact with her again and i know if i talk to her about it there will be a massive row,i would be happy if i never saw her again,just had to get it off my chest,i been upset all day

steve JUST showed me his homework and it needs to be in by morning,how many calories does a 12 year old need to eat to maintain a healthy diet?we been looking on net and bear in mind he not been to school for 2 years so im not used to homework!!i cant find the information,can you help me please?

went to CAHMS and they weighed him and hes 12 years old and hes 13 and half stone,thats awful isent it,i cant believe i let him get so big,i mean im the one buying the food,its made me realise trying to compensate by giving him food when he had no friends or was fed up or to be honest if he was playing me up and kept on and on about food i would give in,he is never ever full up,i have to change our lifestyle completely otherwise hes going to end up really ill,being big makes children a target with other kids let alone having aspergers,me and him are eating healthily together,i dont keep on about diets to him i am just not buying the sugary foods anymore and buying more of the fruit he likes,i had to write this post as i feel so awful

steve started full time school on monday and he loves it,im so happy i could cry,hes like a different boy at home as well,as you know ive found the last few years horrendous while trying to find him a special school but we have turned a corner now,i just dont understand why the LEA messed me about for so long when it was so obvious he couldnt cope with mainstream,i was near a nervous breakdown quite a few times and dont know what i would have done if it wasent for my mum and dad,anyway keep fighting if you are struggling,i never thought i would get to this stage,we know whats right for our children better than anyone

i would love to meet up with people,i live in gravesend,kent and can easily travel to london,i dont mind whether we bring kids or not,today i would bring him but tommorrow might be different!!

steves going on london eye today,he said he wanted to go but seemed nervous today but still said he wanted to go,how long does it last for and is it scarey,hes always said he wanted to do it,his dads gone with him and im worrying now but i reckon he be ok,its just me worrying!!

ive just found the answer to my prayers,i got steve a basketball net,put it on my outside wall and he loves it,he plays with other kids without confrontation,unlike football as he ends up fighting,they take turns and hes getting fresh air,michael jordan here we come!!