Withdrawing from Tribunal.

[JsMum]

I am now very happy with part 2 and 3 in Js statement, his part 4 states the special school we wanted in the first place and the amendments in part 2 and 3 are all really good now, he has a whole new section for Communication/speech and Language, this has never been identified before even though he has Speech and Language development delay, significant language impairments and has severe difficulties with social interaction.

 

Now he is going to reciceve speech and Language therapy, social skills support and other therapies that address his language development.

 

I am sooo glad we were prepared to go to tribunal as J now has a lot more added to his statement, it just makes me soooo angry that we had to put Jay throw soo much trauma to get it, and the stress on me, it was unbearable at times, but we pulled throw.

 

we were due to go to tribunal at the end of October and now the LEA have agreed to 2,3 and 4 to Js statement and placed additional support.

 

J is now going to hopefully have a much better chance at a special school where his needs can be addressed, supported and understood, he is due to start specialist placement in November/December.

 

Anyone who is preparing the road of tribunal dont give up, I nearly did as its sooo stressful, but do go all the way.

 

A personal thankyou to Kathryn and Flora , but also everyone here as this forum is a life saver to our children as the support is fantastic.

 

 

Thankyou all.

 

 

JsMum

Edited October 24, 2008 by JsMum

[Flora]

Fantastic outcome Jsmum

 

Looking forward to hearing about J's progress over the next few months. Bill's just come broke up from school with a glowing report. It's hard to compare it to what he was like this time last year, and even just a few months ago struggling to settle into his new school and everything. Hopefully we'll be hearing lots of postive things about J in a few months too

 

Flora

[pearl]

well done!

[NickyB]

Excellent

[julie1]

well done i am so plesed for you and your son. Its a hard fact but nothing is given to our children you have to fight for everything, we live in a very sad world as far as the education side is conserned. I hope it makes all the differece for your son. We have just won the same as you but we had to go to tribunal, we are hoping that it will help our daughter, and us as a family.

[JsMum]

 

 

 

and us as a family.

 

This stood out to me, thats what should be taken into account too, that what effects our children, especially effects the whole family, wider community.

 

It has to be enphasised the mass wave effect on everyone when a childs needs are not met.

 

Siblings, grandparents, parents, it effects us all.

 

Next part is getting use to the changes of provisions.

 

Thanks all.

 

JsMum

 

[Stardust]

I am absolutely thrilled for you.

 

May I ask? Did the LEA just ring you up and send you a new Statement? I am curious as I go to Tribunal in November and we are after changes to Parts 2,3 and 4. They have now agreed that mainstream is not the way to go and we have been seeking a specialist placement all the way along too but what they have now offered as their alternative to our choice is not any good. I suppose I am clutching at any lifeline at the moment and your experience would be good to hear.

 

[Kathryn]

J's mum,

 

You're a tough lady and you've fought hard all the way - you so deserve a chance to sit back and savour what you've achieved.

 

Looking forward to the next installment.

 

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K x

[Clare63]

JsMum,

 

So very very pleased for you.

 

Like you say the effects on the family are enormous. Its just so sad and frustrating that we all have to fight so very hard.

 

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Clare x x x

[Cat]

BRILLIANT RESULT !

 

Cat

[soraya]

Well done, you have fought so hard, and been through such a lot, is it a residential school? <'> <'>

[JsMum]

Well done, you have fought so hard, and been through such a lot, is it a residential school? <'> <'>

 

 

 

Hi thanks, Yes it is a residential school, its only just starting to filter throw the enourmasy it will be to seperate from him, like you have said I have spent soo much time with Jay, its been full 24-7 with very little support and a mass amount of emotional energy to fight to get him in this school that Im now actually scared that the seperation will be too much to bear, but I know its the right thing for Js education and other needs that requires more support than I give him soley in the near future, its what he really needs, but now were nearly there it is going to be hundred times harder than i expected, we spend soo much time fighting and not moving very far, when it does come to the move we go oh Ships and were in a puddle of emotions.

 

Its going to be hard I know sending him to residential school, he is my only baby too, it sure is going to be an empty feeling at first, but I have to do this for J, not for my needs, it is for his future, his life.

 

JsMum.

 

Edited October 25, 2008 by JsMum

[Clare63]

Hi thanks, Yes it is a residential school, its only just starting to filter throw the enourmasy it will be to seperate from him, like you have said I have spent soo much time with Jay, its been full 24-7 with very little support and a mass amount of emotional energy to fight to get him in this school that Im now actually scared that the seperation will be too much to bear, but I know its the right thing for Js education and other needs that requires more support than I give him soley in the near future, its what he really needs, but now were nearly there it is going to be hundred times harder than i expected, we spend soo much time fighting and not moving very far, when it does come to the move we go oh Ships and were in a puddle of emotions.

 

Its going to be hard I know sending him to residential school, he is my only baby too, it sure is going to be an empty feeling at first, but I have to do this for J, not for my needs, it is for his future, his life.

 

JsMum.

 

JsMum,

 

I so understand and know where you are coming from, I am going to be the same way.

 

But will we will be ok we got all the wonderful people on the forum to help us through it.

 

<'> <'> <'>

 

Clare x x x

 

[lisa35]

acccccccccccccccccccccccccce Js mum, we should have a start date soon ,it sounds crazy to those who dont understand, but now we have the palcement at the school that can meet our sons needs, he seems to "be coming " bcak to us, this will change his life, I just know it, it means he now has a chance, and we can all be happy

well done to you, anyone going through same, fight and fight, they dont deserve second best, ever xxx

[Zosmum]

Well done on winning the battle JsMum. You should be sooooo very proud of yourself

And yes when J does go to resi school you prob will miss him like mad but then you just need to remind yourself that (all being well and it will be) that you did this for J and for as long as J is happy and gettting all the support you have worked so hard to get for him then you need to be happy for him.

Give yourself a huge pat on the back and look forward to seeing your boy happy and settled and smiling. All the things we want for our kids

 

Oh and if you do ever feel empty we're all here for you

 

Zosmum

[bikemad]

Thats fantastic ...it makes me so angry tho how much fighting is needed to get what our kids need and deserve.

[mandyque]

Well done, I am so happy for you Don't know if you have read my thread entitled 'Prudhoe Hospital' but I've just been through a tribunal to get my dd into a residential school and succeeded too

 

Letting go is the hardest thing, everyone reacts differently of course but I was fine until she had actually gone, then I fell apart and questioned everything I had done, the tribunal, the school, the lot. I suddenly thought I'd made the biggest mistake ever. It took me 6 months of fighting to get to where we are now, and suddenly I was awash with doubt.

 

But she has now been there for 2 weeks and she is doing really well. She's settled in and they are making progress where we got stuck with her so that is a good sign that she is happy and settled in her new environment I think about her a million times a day but I can call the residential care place any time I want to see how she is doing, nothing is too much trouble for them

[JsMum]

Well done, I am so happy for you Don't know if you have read my thread entitled 'Prudhoe Hospital' but I've just been through a tribunal to get my dd into a residential school and succeeded too

 

Letting go is the hardest thing, everyone reacts differently of course but I was fine until she had actually gone, then I fell apart and questioned everything I had done, the tribunal, the school, the lot. I suddenly thought I'd made the biggest mistake ever. It took me 6 months of fighting to get to where we are now, and suddenly I was awash with doubt.

 

But she has now been there for 2 weeks and she is doing really well. She's settled in and they are making progress where we got stuck with her so that is a good sign that she is happy and settled in her new environment I think about her a million times a day but I can call the residential care place any time I want to see how she is doing, nothing is too much trouble for them

 

 

 

Your post has given me the crisp golden glow of a nice big Hug, <'> that I needed,

 

you have given me so much inspiration,

 

I too have those daughts too, I guess its instinctive of the bond, a mothers deep bond, to want to hold close and keep our babies/children within you,

 

It's a six sence inside to protect our babies so we dont ever abandan them, I guess the unconsous mind is a very powerful tool, it keeps those who are closest to us very close, letting go, isnt what were suppose to do, its a cave day instinct.

 

Reading how it was for you to let go has really given me insight, im soo scared Im going fall apart too, its crazy when we faught soo hard, but when it comes its like a berlin wall crashing down on you.

 

Your last sentence where you share how well your daughter has settled and how things are working really fills me with hope that the same can happen for J, it really is going to be the hardest thing Ive ever ever ever had to do.

 

Your post has helped me know that there is other going throw the same pain that this journey takes a child and mother.

 

Thankyou so much for sharing your experiences and painful feelings with me, I will treasure it within me.

 

<'>

 

JsMum

 

[lisa35]

have you got a date yet>? We still havent, not long hopefully,

You must be nervous, we re "only"changing schools, thats 12 miles away and Im starting to fret!

xxx

[mandyque]

Your post has given me the crisp golden glow of a nice big Hug, <'> that I needed,

 

you have given me so much inspiration,

 

I too have those daughts too, I guess its instinctive of the bond, a mothers deep bond, to want to hold close and keep our babies/children within you,

 

It's a six sence inside to protect our babies so we dont ever abandan them, I guess the unconsous mind is a very powerful tool, it keeps those who are closest to us very close, letting go, isnt what were suppose to do, its a cave day instinct.

 

Reading how it was for you to let go has really given me insight, im soo scared Im going fall apart too, its crazy when we faught soo hard, but when it comes its like a berlin wall crashing down on you.

 

Your last sentence where you share how well your daughter has settled and how things are working really fills me with hope that the same can happen for J, it really is going to be the hardest thing Ive ever ever ever had to do.

 

Your post has helped me know that there is other going throw the same pain that this journey takes a child and mother.

 

Thankyou so much for sharing your experiences and painful feelings with me, I will treasure it within me.

 

<'>

 

JsMum

 

Awww Glad to be of help

 

Seriously though, you will go through a whole range of emotions and it is tough going, but just give it time and you will see what a good move you have made

 

btw, she has eaten quorn sausages and bacon chops since she went there, she's never eaten meat or quorn in her life before, so it just shows you what they can do

 

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