jan66 Report post Posted August 26, 2009 hello , my name is jan, i have a son with aspergers, think this place is great,i would like to exchange thoughts with other parents that have specia kids , luv him to bits but somedays arghhhhhhhh! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted August 26, 2009 Hi & welcome, my lad is 20 (must change sig ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Teresa Report post Posted August 26, 2009 Hi and welcome Teresa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted August 27, 2009 Hi jan and Welcome to the Forum. Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted August 28, 2009 Has your son only just been diagnosed at 18? JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fairies72 Report post Posted September 27, 2009 hello , my name is jan, i have a son with aspergers, think this place is great,i would like to exchange thoughts with other parents that have specia kids , luv him to bits but somedays arghhhhhhhh! Hi Jan, My son is almost 16 and has aspergers...and i can really relate to the arggghhhh bit lol. Especiallyat the moment. Lisa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trekster Report post Posted October 6, 2009 Hi i was diagnosed with aspergers at age 16. Now ive got a supported living flat and ive just turned 30. Alexis Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jan66 Report post Posted October 19, 2009 Has your son only just been diagnosed at 18? JsMum hi, and yes is the answer to your question when ,sonny was aged 10 they thought asd, when 13, it was depression,and now aspergers, at least we are here now ,sorry its taken so long to reply , but to be honest i struggle using pc!! am getting better i was overwhelmed by the replies i had would be so nice to chat with other parents Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
purplehaze Report post Posted October 19, 2009 Hello Jan, I'm glad you have finaly been given an answer and hopefully you both can get support for a positive future. My son is 15 and has autism and was diagnosed late compared to others with autism. I was also told various things such as he had delays with his emotional and social development, so I know how frustrating it can be. Good luck with the computer look forward to chatting xxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzie Report post Posted November 18, 2009 (edited) Hiya, Our son is also 18 and has AS. Diagnosed at 11, after initially being diagnosed as ADHD (wasnt a mistake, most definately both - VERY hyperactive and impulsive when he was younger, and though that is still there, is much better). Anyway, we have found that the older he gets the more apparent his AS is. His mates (of which there are becomming less), do the 18 year old thing (drink, socialise etc) and he hates alcohol (makes people change their behaviour etc) and cannot bear the typical 'youth' behaviour of others, so is indoors as much as he can be - avoiding most invitations out. He goes to college 4 days a week, studying performing arts and trains 3 times a week doing freerunning. Anyway, we have as many difficulties now as we did when he was behaviourally more challenging a few years ago, but the problems are different now. Loads I could say here, but really just wanted to say hi Edited November 18, 2009 by Jazzie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trekster Report post Posted November 19, 2009 Hiya, Our son is also 18 and has AS. Diagnosed at 11, after initially being diagnosed as ADHD (wasnt a mistake, most definately both - VERY hyperactive and impulsive when he was younger, and though that is still there, is much better). Anyway, we have found that the older he gets the more apparent his AS is. His mates (of which there are becomming less), do the 18 year old thing (drink, socialise etc) and he hates alcohol (makes people change their behaviour etc) and cannot bear the typical 'youth' behaviour of others, so is indoors as much as he can be - avoiding most invitations out. He goes to college 4 days a week, studying performing arts and trains 3 times a week doing freerunning. Anyway, we have as many difficulties now as we did when he was behaviourally more challenging a few years ago, but the problems are different now. Loads I could say here, but really just wanted to say hi Wondered if any of the asperger social groups would help your son? http://www.autismdirectory.org.uk/Pages/Br...tus=1&hi=-1 i got this on the NAS after clicking on SE england and social groups in the autism directory. Problem is the website still claims there are 3 social groups in the SE area for asperger folk, but the problem is there was some restructuring some time ago and the information could be out of date. There are also sites for autistic/asperger adults which you can PM me for more details. We discuss things that matter to us and arrange meet ups which a parent/carer/friend is permitted to attend with the individual if need be. Topics include our hobbies, friendships, relationships, work, education and a newly created dating forum. Another site has a place to let off steam but not the dating forum i moderate that site. One good book aimed at ADHDers is "what does everybody else know that i dont?" written by a parent of an ADHDer and contains AS friendly advice as well. Helps to make up after a disagreement for example also illustrates how our behaviour could be perceived by others. Alexis Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzie Report post Posted November 23, 2009 Wondered if any of the asperger social groups would help your son? http://www.autismdirectory.org.uk/Pages/Br...tus=1&hi=-1 i got this on the NAS after clicking on SE england and social groups in the autism directory. Problem is the website still claims there are 3 social groups in the SE area for asperger folk, but the problem is there was some restructuring some time ago and the information could be out of date. There are also sites for autistic/asperger adults which you can PM me for more details. We discuss things that matter to us and arrange meet ups which a parent/carer/friend is permitted to attend with the individual if need be. Topics include our hobbies, friendships, relationships, work, education and a newly created dating forum. Another site has a place to let off steam but not the dating forum i moderate that site. One good book aimed at ADHDers is "what does everybody else know that i dont?" written by a parent of an ADHDer and contains AS friendly advice as well. Helps to make up after a disagreement for example also illustrates how our behaviour could be perceived by others. Alexis Thanks Alexis. He, and we, are pretty 'up' on the ADHD aspect - used to chair the Sussex support groups and worked with many professionals. His impulsivity is pretty much under control now. It is the Aspergers we are struggling with. This has become more apparent as he has got older. He is fast becomming a recluse - outside of his college and other activities, which I have to say we badger him in to - lots of encouragement etc. He isnt your 'typical' Aspergers (whatever that is), in that he struggles somewhat academicly, compared to some (though he doesnt lack intelligence) and he is incredibly talented in another areas, that specifically being performance in freerunning and acrobatics. Struggles terribly with friendships, and hates being the way he is. Just wants to be 'normal' and not be called 'weird'. However, of course, he does himself few favours and will NOT socialise with those he knows, as he is so anti drinking etc which most 18 year olds do! Additionally, he is a good looking lad but worries that he has no girlfriend. He did have one, a year or two ago, but he is petrified of 'touching' as he finds it so uncomfortable. The minute she wanted to hold hands, he finished with her. Very difficult to get him out of his bedroom most times and though he speaks on MSN all the time (actually has a bit of a fan-base), he is often unsure of what to say and how to behave. The more he is called weird, the more he retreats into himself. I'll shut up now! Im sure he cant be the only one struggling with adolesence? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trekster Report post Posted November 24, 2009 Jazzie Was wondering if he could benefit from an e befriender? The book about "what does everybody else know that i dont?" has been beneficial for many asperger folk that i know. It was recommended on a university autism list sometime ago. "how to be yourself in a world thats different" is also a very good asperger book. Can he take supplements? ive found 5htp helps me sleep at night and also helps me depression. Meeting other asperger friends has been the best thing for my depression. Alexis Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzie Report post Posted November 24, 2009 Jazzie Was wondering if he could benefit from an e befriender? The book about "what does everybody else know that i dont?" has been beneficial for many asperger folk that i know. It was recommended on a university autism list sometime ago. "how to be yourself in a world thats different" is also a very good asperger book. Can he take supplements? ive found 5htp helps me sleep at night and also helps me depression. Meeting other asperger friends has been the best thing for my depression. Alexis Hi, It sounds so complicated I know, but he wont 'read' books. He CAN read but finds it a tremendously boring exercise so simply doesnt. Writes a bit (kids stories and fantasy), but will not read books - especially those outlining his, or similar, difficulties. Wants to separate himself from it (AS), as much as he can at the same time as needing to speak to people that understand. Yes I do think speaking to other Asperger folk would be of benefit but I am pretty certain that unless he finds people with similar interests he wont. Think I will post a separate thread appealing! Jaz x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trekster Report post Posted November 26, 2009 Jazzie if you ask your leader of the asperger social groups if anyone has xyz interests it could make the transition better into the group. Good idea about your separate thread asking for similar interests to his. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
