Anorexia

[zaman]

My 12 year old daughter was diagnosed with this eating disorder last week. I have been really gutted in trying to come to terms with it. I know things haven't been right with her eating for a while, and I have tried, and failed, not to turn it into a battle.

 

So now we are waiting on a referral to CAHMS. I so hope that they know a bit more about that than they did about autism when they diagnosed my son.

 

I feel like such a screw up.

[baddad]

Really, really sorry to hear this

Not anything you should blame yourself for - I think there are all sorts of triggers in our society today, and girls of her age are often the most sensitive (and therefore vulnerable) to them.

Hope that CAMHS referral comes through real fast and offers some positive strategies and ideas to help.

 

L&P

 

BD

[oxgirl]

So sorry to hear this zaman, it must be heartbreaking for you to watch her struggling. <'>

Please try not to blame yourself. I really hope she gets the help she needs. My friend's daughter was suffering with anorexia but now, thank goodness, has come out the other end and is well. All the best to you all. <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[Tally]

Really sorry to hear this. I hope you and your daughter can get the right support.

[zaman]

Thanks for the support everyone. I know in my brain that it is to do with her getting control over one of the few situations that she has control over (she's gone up to senior school this year, etc). But I am a feminist who has - or who thought I had - brought my kids up to love themselves and their bodies as they are.

 

It is heartbreaking.

[Kathryn]

Don't blame yourself, zaman. Now the professionals are on to it, she should get some support ASAP - and you too, of course.

 

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K x

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[trekster]

My 12 year old daughter was diagnosed with this eating disorder last week. I have been really gutted in trying to come to terms with it. I know things haven't been right with her eating for a while, and I have tried, and failed, not to turn it into a battle.

 

So now we are waiting on a referral to CAHMS. I so hope that they know a bit more about that than they did about autism when they diagnosed my son.

 

I feel like such a screw up.

 

It is not your fault as your daughter is very unwell it happens to many families. Posting here proves you haven't screwed up and you care deeply for your daughter.

 

Has she always had feeding issues?She could have sensory issues contributing to this "oral defensiveness and Patricia Wilbarger". Another possibility is she doesn't feel hungry due to lack of zinc metabolism.

 

Have you asked her why she wont eat? it would be interesting to know her responses as she could have an undiagnosed sensory issue making her gag on certain food.

 

Good luck and keep us updated.

 

Alexis

[trekster]

Thanks for the support everyone. I know in my brain that it is to do with her getting control over one of the few situations that she has control over (she's gone up to senior school this year, etc). But I am a feminist who has - or who thought I had - brought my kids up to love themselves and their bodies as they are.

 

It is heartbreaking.

 

Sounds like you need to talk to her about worries about secondary school. Scary for any kid im sure PDD or NT.

 

Alexis

[Paula]

Zaman

 

When i was a teenager i developed an eating disorder myself............i would starve myself for days on end then id binge eat.......some days all id eat would be an apple.............as i got older andleft home at 18 and was working id still have major problems surrounding my eating i was that weak that id actually collapse at work through lack of food and still refused to eat.At the time i couldnt see how thin i was how terrible i looked i was blind to it.My parents were worried,my boyfreind who went on to be my husband would beg me to eat and stop being daft but i wouldnt listen to them.

 

 

Peple often wrongly think its about being thin and slim ect .............for me it wasnt it was all about controlling the one thing in my life i could when id no controll over anything else.I went on to be diagnosed much later on in life with bi polar disorder and i often think my eating problems were a way of controlling my bodies appearance when i had no controll over my mind.

 

 

There is a lady a dr who appears on tv called Dr Dea dawson who runs a specialist place dealing with teenage girls and much younger boys too because it effects them also and people forget that she runs some sort of clinic i dont know the details but shes realy realy brilliant.

 

The place is called Rhodes Farm............they have a web site ..........its worth a look and to see if you could be refered there.

 

 

 

[JsMum]

Hi Zaman, sorry to hear this, my son also has severe eating difficulties, his is down to anxieties and his ASD, sensory issues ect..... I think the key to her recovery is early interventions and acting on support as soon as possible.

 

I hope you have heard of this website if not its here.

 

http://www.b-eat.co.uk/HelpandSupport

 

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/...gdisorders.aspx

 

There is also some excellent litriture on Personal stories where families have gone throw the experience of Anxorexia, it may help you find spersific centres of treatments, ect....

 

I wish your daughter the very best and hope that she gets the help she needs.

 

JsMumxxxx

 

Edited December 15, 2009 by JsMum