robertmannma Report post Posted August 5, 2012 Could anyone give me some advice on how to meet people? I really want to find a girlfriend and have often been told that I should try being friends first. The problem is there really don't seem to be many ways for me to meet new people, girls in particular, as I really don't like many of the normal methods of socialisation (drinking, partying, clubbing, nights out, etc) and the area where I live doesn't give me an awful lot of means to meet people. There doesn't seem to be a lot of interest groups/societies/clubs dealing with things i am interested in in my area and my experiences with internet dating have led to nothing but heartbreak thus far. Any advice that anyone can give me would be greatly appreciated. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A-S warrior Report post Posted August 5, 2012 in my experience, the being friends first thing is always ends up a huge misfire, and a waste of energy. the thing to do, when you see a gal you like, is be very friendly and see how she reacts to you. if she smiles alot and plays with her hair when your around her, then go in for the kill, beacuse thats her cue for you to come and get her. you dont even have to say anything, just on the sly, write your number on a small piece of paper and slip it into her coat pocket when shes not looking. make sure you write your name on the paper too, (obviously). worst that happens is she doesnt text you. in these situations you have nothing to lose, but everything to gain. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Special_talent123 Report post Posted August 5, 2012 have you tried going to youth clubs/social groups ASD related you may find someone there you can connect with, they can introduce you to there friends and then you will find a wide range of people Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A-S warrior Report post Posted August 5, 2012 oh and be patient too, dont rush these things or you,ll end up with a girl who has a face like a chewed up toffee. good things come to those who wait! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SidiousUK Report post Posted August 6, 2012 Take your time. I have ended up with a few free loaders at times just out of sheer desperation to be part of a "couple" After so many bad experiences I decided I was better of without people. But that was my choice Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A-S warrior Report post Posted August 6, 2012 Take your time. I have ended up with a few free loaders at times just out of sheer desperation to be part of a "couple" After so many bad experiences I decided I was better of without people. But that was my choice i second that, true love when you find it, and your patient, is one of the most awsome feelings you will ever feel, dont sell yourself short by rushing into it. at the end of the day, sex is over rated, having a girlfriend is not always wonderfull, and you wont be able to watch what you want to watch on tv anymore. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RYOUNG78 Report post Posted August 6, 2012 I agree you need to take your time and don't rush into it. I was lucky to be able to make a few friends at Secondary School. Some I have lost touch with and a few I have kept in contact with. I have a female friend I have kept in contact with since Seconday School but I quickly realised that it would only ever be a freindship and nothing further ( we still meet up from time to time). I am now happily married to somebody I met over the Internet over 7 years ago. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Isobel Report post Posted August 6, 2012 I'm happy being single, with a few friends I still keep in contact with on facebook and I feel I get enough companionship from work and my hobbies like dog agility. I've also started sharing a horse with an owner, and its nice using the horse to speak to her as I can share my interest with her, which is where I'm more confident talking about. Not interested in a boy friend and I'm certainly not interested in love or having children, but that's probably because I'm a bit immature in that area. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
robert7111a Report post Posted August 6, 2012 All good things come to those that wait.... For me, I waited 30 years before finding my wife. Two previous girlfriends drove me to severe depression. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A-S warrior Report post Posted August 6, 2012 Two previous girlfriends drove me to severe depression. lol lets not go there again, we dont want another topic removed Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SidiousUK Report post Posted August 7, 2012 lol lets not go there again, we dont want another topic removed lol True friendship, love etc will happen/develop when you least expect it. I think if you go looking for it, you will never find it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
robert7111a Report post Posted August 7, 2012 lol lets not go there again, we dont want another topic removed Sorry guys, I won't use the "D" word in this thread again. <upbeat mode on> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
darkshine Report post Posted August 8, 2012 lol lets not go there again, we dont want another topic removed This made me laugh - seeing as I was the one who "went there" in the first place so I guess I'll avoid the "S" word too along with certain "D" words Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
