Guest flutter Report post Posted January 7, 2006 about this life?? am i just having a bad time just now cos of xmas and the bashing i got or is this it, or am i still coming to terms with all of it am i expecting too much of myself to be ok 4 months after diagnosis? sorry feelin sorry for self C x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adamsmum Report post Posted January 7, 2006 <'> <'> <'> ther you go. Hope you feel better. Dont know wot to saye realy but give it time. Things do pick up Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viper Report post Posted January 7, 2006 Flutter <'> I find it's up and down all the time. I spend a lot of time happy now but I do go down at times. When Ben is in a bad cycle of meltdowns it brings me down, makes you realise how bad things can be. But I do think it gets better. Saying that I haven't had a dx for Ben yet. Viper. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nellie Report post Posted January 7, 2006 Flutter <'> <'> I liken our lives to a roller coaster ride but not as much fun!!! Maybe you are expecting too much, 4 months isn't long. I hope your roller coaster ride starts having a few ups soon. Nellie <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted January 7, 2006 I liken our lives to a roller coaster ride but not as much fun!!! So true. When things are going well for a while and we get a little set-back, it seems to hit us harder too. Hope the ups start coming very soon. Annie <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
asereht Report post Posted January 7, 2006 So true. When things are going well for a while and we get a little set-back, it seems to hit us harder too. Hope the ups start coming very soon. Annie <'> Well said. Theresa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shintyboy Report post Posted January 7, 2006 I can relate to where you are coming from flutter.I personally got a diagnosis of AS a few months back at age of 40.My 11yr old son is currently going through diagnosis.I can honestly say that I have mixed emotions about the whole thing.In one sense I am relieved about having discovered reasons as to certain aspects of my personality,and in another sense I feel sorry I "discovered" AS and sought a diagnosis for me and my son.Deep down I know that it was the right thing to do,but sometimes in the darker moments,I just wish that I had never even heard of AS.To say that it has totally taken over my life is an understatement.I know that it is my own fault because from the moment I first found out about AS,I endeavoured to find out as much about this thing as I could but now it is totally overwhelming.I know my wife and family have probably "suffered" this last few months,but it is like I am on a mission,and can't let up pace! I feel that from the day I got diagnosed,I seem to have "regressed" (I think that is the right word!) and my personality has changed ever so slightly.I have reverted back to the way I was when I was younger(if that makes sense).I seem more quieter and far more emotional than before after dredging up certain things from my past,which came to light during diagnosis.I seemed to have hidden things that happened in my past,away in the back of my mind and recently a lot of it has come flooding back.I know that this sounds pretty bad but I just hope that soon it will all just settle down and go back to the way it was before. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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loulou Report post Posted January 7, 2006 Hi, Sending you some of these <'> <'> <'> <'> I definately get lots of ups and downs. Meltdowns always make me feel down. Somedays i don't know if i'm feeling sorry for myself, or for Kai, or both. Kai was diagnosed 8 months ago, and it's only just sinking in now. Loulou x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted January 7, 2006 Shintyboy I can so relate to how you are feeling.My husband says that since I have realised i have in all likelehood got A.s. i have got worst.I don't feel i have but he says instead of fighting certain aspects of the way i am i go with it a bit now because I know it is A.S. My realisation has explained so much of the past to me with my father and other things and it is like opening the floodgates.Sometimes I feel totally overwhelmed by it all and wish i never knew but I like yourself i realise its the best thing to do and it has given me so much peace of mind in explaining why my father was like he was with me(Isuspect he has A.s. too) but in other ways it weighs me down. Have some of these. <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
forbsay Report post Posted January 7, 2006 Hi flutter Like someone else said - I feel as though it is like a roller coaster with it's highs and lows. Take care Forbsay xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Report post Posted January 7, 2006 It must be difficult trying to come to terms with something you may have suspected, but have only recently had confirmed. Please remember that the diagnosis does not change who you are, it just gives you a reason for the way you might think or behave on occassions Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brook Report post Posted January 8, 2006 Flutter & Shintyboy, just sending over some of these. <'> <'> <'> <'> Brook Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kirstie Report post Posted January 8, 2006 <'> <'> Flutter, I hope you are feeling a little better today. <'> <'> <'> <'> Take your time in coming to terms with everything. We are all here for you hon. <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 9, 2006 Flutter and Shintyboy Consider yourselves hugged <'> <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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