Bullet Report post Posted January 24, 2006 I hate feeling like this . When I was a child there were so many things about me that nowadays would have got me assessed. But mum in particular didn't want me placed in a special school and labelled and singled out. Which I can understand (she told me recently she learnt to not compare me to other children but just to accept I was different). But now I'm left feeling totally confused. It's like hurting your leg and you don't know whether it's broken or sprained or just bruised until someone checks it over for you. But you do know it hurts. I can't see myself from somebody else's perspective, just my own. I know everybody displays traits but the number of traits I have is very high. How would I go about getting myself diagnosed? Because at least then I'd know if it was just me or if I did have a defined condition - whether it was Aspergers or something else. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Report post Posted January 24, 2006 Couldn't reply to SD's instant message, but thank you . It's just for my own piece of mind, because I've been hiding stuff for so long to the outside world. DH knows what I'm like and relatives know what I'm like and to the rest of the world (bar those on the internet) I'm probably seen as this quiet, weird woman . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tylers-mum Report post Posted January 25, 2006 Hi Bullet. If your mother suspected then I think your concerns now are well founded. I just knew something was different about T, he was finally dx HFA in Nov. There is a post here about adult dx, will see if I can find it and bump it to the top of this page for you ok. It is a recent post. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tylers-mum Report post Posted January 25, 2006 (edited) Bumped it for you. The topic is called 'DX' and it's by 'Tanya Glass'. HTH's. Edited January 25, 2006 by Tylers-mum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Report post Posted January 25, 2006 Doh! I should have gone to that thread first. I had posted on it . My mum knew I was different but didn't want me assessed. She said she knew I'd be fine. Well, yes, I'm married and have two children. I can talk to people and even initiate the conversation if I know them well. But it's taken me thirty years to find a proper friend other than just someone I got on quite well with and that was only because I posted to her on the internet. She doesn't know what a struggle it is for me to talk to her face to face. Won't go into the other stuff because I don't feel ready to and I'd bore you all My dad wanted me assessed. A couple of paediatricians wanted me assessed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rachelp2 Report post Posted January 25, 2006 Hi Bullet, I would say..... Go with what you think is right for you, only you know what you want. Life has no doubt been a struggle for you but hey you made it this far in life, you must be a strong person. I wasn't dx'd as ADD till the age of 33, (i'm 37 thisyear) and wish i'd known when younger, i feel i've been robbed of help and felt a cheat in life as I put on a big act to fit in my whole life. Very Best Wishes, whatever you decide Bullet, Rach x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zemanski Report post Posted January 25, 2006 the best advice I can give is go to your GP and ask for referal - ask to see someone who specialises in ASDs. If you can, take someone who knows you well, perhaps your mum, to back up your information and give you some moral support it takes time, there are very long waiting lists for adult services hope you find your answers <'> Zemanski Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pingu Report post Posted January 25, 2006 Sorry, I had wrote a massive reply and pressed the wrong button and deleted it all I was saying that i cant give you any advice because the advice you have already got is what i would have suggested, But I can completly understand how you feel, Its like been carried away on the sea of normaility just to fit in, your not sure why you have the feelings of bewilderment when talking to others but you know its the normal thing to do, And as you get older you start to question if its your imagination, the 'person inside' I know somedays i cant see where my imagination ends and reality begins, but i still manage to keep the family rolling. I would trust your instincts, and i congratulate you on moving on and having a family of your own, Its not easy at the best of times, but for those who have difficulties themselves its sometimes harder, but you have done it, and you keep going, but i do agree with you that for your own sake you have to know, its part of who you are, your identity, and lets be honest, if something is hurting it helps to find a remedy, in your case, your rememdy would be the truth. Take care, shaz Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted January 25, 2006 Bullet <'> <'> <'> Just sending some of these.Be proud of who you are and how much you have achieved in life getting married having kids etc.If you feel you need a diagnosis then go with how you feel. We are all here for you on this site and many of us can identify with how you are feeling.Good luck Kepp us all informed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steve_colour-se7en Report post Posted January 25, 2006 Hello Bullet, I wish to inform you of this firstly, you are never to old to get a Diagnosis for instance read this following link http://society.guardian.co.uk/societyguard...1398210,00.html it truley is no laughing matter there are indeed more people coming through with DX's latter on in life. As Zemanski wrote the best course of action is to firstly speak to your GP, however not all GP's are familiar with ASD's I have also placed a link for you to peruse and print , take it with you incase your GP is unfamiliar it is Important facts about autism and Asperger syndrome for GPs http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=128&a=2225 Hope these are of help. Steve.. I think the boy means well but he is distinctly inclined to be inattentive...... Tutor of Winston Churchill to Lord Randolph Churchill, Winston's father Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Strange girl Report post Posted January 25, 2006 If it's what you want then go ahead and do it-don't look back. I got my dx after my son's once I began to understand there might have been a reason behind my life's struggles. The first council of the Delphic Oracle is 'Know thyself' so I went ahead and I have no regrets. I did it for me. I came away with more than I had thought as well with co/m ADD, but it made me look into it and I even managed to learn more about myself by it. Not to mention I felt like I belonged a bit more rather than just being the odd one out. I discovered there were more people than just myself who had made it to adulthood without a dx but who had survived. (although I wouldn't for a minute want my son dragged up within the same cruel, ignorant & ill informed way these days ) Even though I know about my ASD and everyone knows my son is HFA, I haven't told hardly anyone about me. I can pass for NT for short periods and I know how much I can handle so I generally manage and don't see that anyone else need confirmed what I know. Most people I know are aquaintances anyway so I don't think I need them to know. If that makes sense. I would have to come out about it if I went on big brother- if you observed me under those conditions it would become more apparent quite early on that I had a social communication difficulty.. but I would go on it for the right money! But really, it can help curb your constant wondering and help you to move on. For me it was a weight off my shoulders. It helped me to repair my self esteem and to accept myself for who I am. Good Luck with whatever you decide. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
microsoft_admin Report post Posted January 27, 2006 im always confused Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
