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Chin up JenRose I'll be for you tomorrow If you don't wish to agree to anything at the meeting I would make that clear at the start. Say that you and your husband need to discuss things with your advisors before making any decisions but that you are willing to listen to their reasons for their decisions and any proposals that they have to make. Then - as Helen suggests - conclude the meeting by saying thank you for your time. In light of the time that has passed since the start of the assessment process in [whenever it started], we feel that, for M?s sake, it is important now to have a finalised statement in order to arrange the appropriate support for him. We wish to see this draft statement finalised, naming xxxx school, so that a programme can be in place for M ASAP If in doubt write out a little speech for the beginning and end...! My own opinion - feel free to plagarise

All the best

http://www.which.co.uk/reports_and_campaig..._557_104512.jsp http://www.culture.gov.uk/Reference_librar.../DCMS144_06.htm http://www.digitaluk.co.uk/en/how/help-scheme.html http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/broadcasting/a...elp-scheme.html

Hear hear!

This bit is about DLA ... scroll up for the start of the debate http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/c...#07012366000086

Just came across this on the web from Cutting Edge documentary Bad Behaviour "expert" - Warwick Dyer in answer to the question ... http://www.behaviourchange.com/we-think-ou...rs-Syndrome.htm

Well done that GP! You may find these two articles useful to give your mum ... addressed to grandparents of children with Aspergers http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/grandparents.html http://www.autism.org.sg/public_html/html/...marnews2003.pdf

Sorry to hear about your loss <'> <'> <'> perhaps you and your mum could visit some of his favourite places while you are out there and say goodbye to him that way?

hope all goes well

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Cold here - I put the fire on as even my hot flushes weren't keeping me warm!

Thanks Deblegs - just what I needed - you are an answer to

Lots of glowy starry things at a well know online bookstore - just put 'glow star dark' in the search box ELC used to do them Or there is this online store that even does glow in the dark toilet stickers!!!!

NAS EP's - http://www.nas.org.uk/content/1/c6/01/07/8...ychologists.pdf .... if you don't feel happy with parent partnership then you could contact IPSEA ...

It makes life harder when the school doesn't see the problem - that's why it's a good idea to get an independent EP assessment - not cheap usually but then the school and LEA have to say why they disagree with them. Check - if you do go down this line - that they would be willing to go to tribunal to give evidence if necessary - some are willing to do the report but not to appear at Tribunal. The NAS did have a list of EPs on their website ... I agree with helen that this is probably your best move in requesting an assessment - the school is getting no-where fast and at the end of the day it is your child's future they are dealing with. the SATs results!!!

You could apply as a parent for a statutory assessment ....

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Still feeling tired and a bit - had a good night's sleep - think the painkillers and wine did that Got my friend to spend money and have just spent �30+ on photocopying and postage to send our docs to the solicitors - can't do any more this weekend so am going to put it to the back of my mind and watch TV ... Thanks for all your good wishes - just gets on top of us all at times doesn't it?

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Just spent half the night getting together all our documents to photocopy prior to sending them to a firm of solicitors specialising in SEN Law. I really don't want to do this any more but I know I have to for J's sake. <'> Problem is that this sort of situation just feeds straight into one of my depression cycles and brings me down ... Moan over and a friend has just rung to see if I want to meet for coffee. Thanks for listening

LOL - I lived in Ashford in Kent when that happened - I got up in the middle of the night to close the window as it was a bit windy! . Phone rang next morning at 7am - my boss to say don't try to make it into work today - she then had to explain there'd been a hurricane, loads of trees down and roads blocked and no power - I'd slept through the lot!!!! Wish I could sleep as well now - been up since 4:30am sorting out documents to photocopy and send to solicitors ( - there goes another tree or two ... )

- we're sure too - just about to enter into battle over statement for secondary ... got the solicitors involved now - glad i got DH to buy new car before this all cropped up SMILEY - hang on in there love - we're all rooting for you and yours <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

Hey Smiley <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Are you eligible for Legal Aid? check here Get a firm of solicitors on the case ... I can PM you a firm rec to me by IPSEA - you can also have a free telephone consultation Can you ask them to send you a report on their last two visits into school or just ask to see their file copies relating to their last visit - I know it's more work hun <'> <'> - just hang on in there ...