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WKD Breezer Woman did not "fail" to come into the Batcave - she never flippin well left! Still looking for the cache of Alcohol she knows the Jester has secreted somewhere! Harrumph indeed!

note to self: when in drunken state remember to log out of forum - otherwise it looks like you were rooting round the batcave all day and acting like the spy from the LEA!

Thanks all! Much appreciated Lisa

Firstly I apologise if this is a bit too, erm, adult for here but here goes: looking-for-alkiselzter woman watched the euro song contest last night (she's a bit of a saddo!) and they weren't salvonic cafe singers - more like flippin pole dancers! I don't think it was our superheroes hiding there - they'd have had more taste. Keep some drinkies for me - I'm on the way! she says stagggering ALONG and making a rite mess of her typin

Hi everyone, Couple of Q's for you, If your child has a statement, and wants to stay on at school until they are 18, can the statement carry on until they leave? And if they want to go on to further education, college or uni, can they have a statement there, or are other provisions made? Lisa

It's Friday evening in the Batcave and all is quiet. Or is it? From a dark corner come sounds of muttering and sounds of things being disturbed. "Where is it? Where have they hidden it? There must be some here somewhere!" Cushions, anti massacres and pouffes are flung to one side. Red faced, stressed looking woman is searching for something. Onion Rings? Or bottles of Akli Selzter Pops in fruity flavours? Will she find them? Who knows where they are?

ianimate, yes but plant life, no! more like inanimate pond life

aside to bid naahhh, not me, thought it could be hubby, he's always thought he looked like TC! mind you, his belly ain't no good for lycra, he has got seventies style suits tho, ok for DDD!

Nooooooooooooooooooo! We need DYNAMIC DIRK DANFORTH! (flash of light off of blindingly bright teeth, Tom-Cruise style)

Hi Nikki I have had Chris on EyeQ, vitB6 and Magnesium for about three months, we just dropped down to two tabs a day. When we started he was having a terrible time at school, stressed, depressed. I've recently been told that this term has been better for him. Im afraid though I have no idea whether the supps are responsible. Couldbe, could be not. Think I will have to err on the side of "probably not" - it just seems a little too "miraculous" Lisa

Hi there, You've found the right place - people on this site have a wealth of experiences and information, so whatever your query is, there will probably be someone here who can help. Lots of love Lisa

I feel hellishly guilty about Chris, I always will, about why I didnt spot things sooner.If I had, then maybe things would be different now. He can't cope, I can't help him and when he says things like "you always used to be cross with me. you didn;t know I was autistic" it tears me in two. I think I'll always beat myself up about it, and we haven't even got to the stage of deciding on medication yet. "I'm sorry" doesnt express even a little of what I feel. I'm so pleased for you Nellie, I hope everything works out. "I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do" Affirmation - D Jones/D Hayes

Hi Jenn Thanks, would appreciate that sometime. the main problem I have is my husband, who is completely anti- anti-depressants. Probably a hangover from our mothers day - valium, mothers little helpers and all that (my mum got hooked on Ativan!). I was taking Prozac myself last year as everything had got on top of me. I did feel that it helped - but I had hubby nagging all the time to give it up, which I did, and then felt pretty down again quite soon. If it would help my son - who is also called Chris lol - then I would do it, and certainly the way he has been lately he needs help - but whether I could persuade hubby remains to be seen. I'm so pleased it has helped your boy - I hope he feels happier soon. Best wishes Lisa

Hi everyone, hope you're all ok. I've noticed in a few topics and replies recently that people have said that their children are on various antidepressants, SSRI's etc. I've recently had a letter from Chris's paediatrician saying that she feels he is borderline depressive and very anxious, and that medication is an option we should give consideration to. How have other members found using medication works for their child, has it helped, did you find it a hard decision to make? I'd be interested in any feedback anyone can give. Lots of love Lisa

We are trying it at the moment. Yes it does work out expensive both cos of the initial cost and the fact that for the first three months you have to take 6 tabs a day (this reduces then to two tabs). However, Boots currently have a promo on vits and supps, three for two which helps a bit. I've stocked up to take advantage of it. Sometimes Tesco and Superdrug have similar promos. Another thing you might want to look into is Magnesium and Vitamin B6 supplements. Lisa

Hi there Yes it is definitely a lottery. My son is not severely autistic, yet we got DLA at the first time of asking, yet another mum that I know of, with two possibly three autistic children was awarded it, then when she had to reapply it was denied her. There is no justice in this world. All I can advise is keep plugging away and hopefully you will get there in the end. Maybe the idea these people have is to wear you out with all this so you give up and they save the money Lisa

Hi all We didnt have a confirmed dx for Chris when we applied for (and got) DLA - I put something like "suspected Asperger syndrome/ASD" You give the name of doctors/consultants within the body of the form so they will hopefully back up what you say. Its not means tested and no-one comes round to check. The best advice I was given about filling in the forms - and I'll be perfectly honest, they are a nightmare - was "think of the worst day you ever had with your child for each criteria and write about that. The forms are very negative - use language that emphasises just how shocking/distressing/problematical/troubling/worrying the behaviour was to witness, and how difficult it is to find a solution. Don't hold back - it sometimes seems like a lottery whether you are awarded DLA or not, and dependent on who reads your form at the other end - make them sit up and think! Lisa

Note to self: be very alert if they suggest vallergan! Glad it worked for you trace, its important for us to remember that the effects of drugs aren't predictable, even more so in our children. Is vallergan related to phenergan, anyone know? Phenergan is the stuff thats mixed with pethidine for women in labour, its an anti sickness drug with sedative effects. We tried it on Chris for a flight to Malta once, we were told it would knock him out by the pharmacist ( he was tending to be very hyper at the time). It had the opposite effect to knocking him out, the same sort of effects as you noticed with your daughter Elefan, half of him desperately tired, and the other half not allowing the rest. The bottle went in the bin as soon as we arrived. I'm cautious about using drugs or antidepressants to relieve his current state, but it may come to that in the end Lisa

Ummm, no. Have just had to take my 14 yo to docs with similar thing, and rather assumed he would just dish out some prozac, but he has decided to refer him to psychologist. (not to say that psychologist won't do this tho) I have taken prozac myself this year, didnt feel that it was doing much, and hubby wasnt keen on the idea at all, but now Im without it I feel just as low as before, so maybe it did do something! I have found some bits and pieces on the web about the use of antidepressants for anxiety within ASD's but I didn't feel that what I found was particularly helpful to me. Sorry can't be of more help, but I do sympathise, being in a similar scenario myself. Lisa

Thanks hun - I appreciate it Sometimes it just gets you down so much. Lotsa love Lisa

I think I gave AS to my son. And in doing so I've condemmed him to this life. I'm just like him (or he's like me) I feel more and more hamstrung with people as the years go on. I feel now that I don't want to go to work, don't want to be with people, just want to stay home where I feel safe, which is probably how Chris feels right now. And if I'm responsible, if he's condemmed to a life of unhappiness and depression and stress because of me, I feel hellishly guilty that I did this. Its not his fault. Im sorry if this offends anyone, I'm just feeling really down at the mo, cos Chris is down too and I don't know how to help him. Once again my apologies Lisa

Thanks everyone who's replied so far. Heres an update for you. Well we went to gp this am, he says he will refer Chris today to a psychologist and refer him back to members of the team who dx'd him. This he will do today so I hope we don't have to wait too long. Chris says that when he tries to tell "people" ( I can only assume he means teachers) that he's upset they dismiss it and tell him to go and sit down. So it looks like a few phone calls to school need to be made. Originally when the idea of him having AS first came up, I was told that social skills, the thing that he struggles most with, could be taught, but was never told who by or where to go for this. At the time of his dx, I raised this again but the psychologist informed me that "there was no need, Chris was doing quite well on his own but they would be looking at his fine and gross motor skills" Did I miss something here? We see the paediatrician every six months or so but nothing ever seems to happen as a result. Yes at the time of his dx Chris was doing fine socially, but not any more. Now I need some help! Thanks again Lisa PS where can I get EyeQ from?

Hi I only just found this site. I am posting everywhere trying to find some help. I have a 14 yo son who was dx with As in June. He is statemented, in mainstream, very high functioning, school wonderfully supportive BUT he is at the mo extremely anxious, gets very stressed, if you talk to him he says that lifes is just all too much, school, friends, relationships, homework (we are 18 months from GCSE's) everything. I do no know what to do to help him, I don't know where to turn. We are off to see our gp this am, who whilst being a lovely chap, in common with most GP's his experience of Aspergers is limited. I suspect they will probably dish out some prozac. Does anyone have any info on prozac being used for individuals with AS - any good? Or does anyone have any other ideas - I am desperate and at my wits end. Thanks for listening Lisa