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t Any ideas - are non-autistic members of your families closer to NT or closer to autistic ways of behaviour? Gosh..what a hugely fascinating topic.....i have spent the last couple of yrs wondering about the asd range of disorders ever since charlie our youngest was diagnosed 3yrs ago with as....about a yr ago.....i found this asp test online and asked my hubby to do the test given the fact that the local asd dr...dr selby had hinted that it was passed from father to sons..mainly....well M took the test and scored very obviously high on the as rating...he admits...social niceties are not his thing and over the years since i have been with him..i have got used to losing quite a few friends because of his rudeness or apparent and obvious way he shows someone he doesnt like them.....he will cross the road rather than wave and say hello to someone..even family...yet...he his admirable in so many ways...a great hubby..good father and a Sir Allan of a business man..driven,focused and extremely successful.....he ,despite his traits has afforded us a good way of life with ,i must admit,my assistance as i am always here for him and his moods.Now then...our older boys do have odd moments.....the way they wash...their methods of order or lack of it.....indeed..i agree with the doc who says that we all have a degree of the complaint...i ,have always been sociable and up front...but from reading the huge range of syptoms on asd,i find that there are quite a few i can tick myself.....hey...who is to say that...asd is the next evolutionary stage of the human being....leading to that 3rd eye and mind texting....???? now..you'll know what i am on about if you ever watched the planet of the apes films...the one with the super humans from the future...lol..maria

Yes....i understand....totally...the tear thing just seems to flood your whole body..wells up inside then whoosh..uncontollable sobs......and yes...the release afterwards where you feel drained but in a wierd way..better.....but the feeling that crowds you leading up to the sobs and crying is horrible...try as much as you wish to snap out of it or think differently about the probs we have...it takes root and wont go until you cry...makes sense???...what do i do...strong cuppa withas many rich teas to dunk in....but go steady on the dunking 'cos if one falls in the tea..you have another reason to cry...aaaghh well her is a hug from moi... ><'> >< <'> >< < mariaterisa

thanks sg....always helpful as ever....i suppose i should have guessed!!...how is it going....hope things are calming a little for you....what about that posting on the flight...the funny one by...was it baddad or..cant remember now....such a laugh....anyway..you will be okay..i am sure....your inner strenght that has helped you face many hurdles will be with you at the airport!!!...and of course you will be seeing this mr j at the end of it...so go for it...maria

hi there all...am reading The magic Mind Power" by duncan mcCOLL...a really good read on the power of the subconscious and the potential of training one's brain to be more positive etc etc...through self hypnosis and relaxation teckniques....it also helps to eliminate negative feeling and hopelessness...which will explain why i am quite up beat in my postings. at the moment....just wait till i've finished the book and go back to me whining and wailing full of self doubt and criticism as a useless mum to 3 boys,one of whom has asp and there...is..i am sure a smidgen in the other 2,but never diagnosed...and my wonderful hubby who has defo got it....anway..jolly good read and helps you to feel quite good about yourself and the world!!! maria x

deliciously funny mumble....havent laughed so much in ages.....just a bit concerned though as sci geek has gone quiet...!!!!...you should publish this sort of thing....great sense of humour...thanks,maria x

by the way who is mr J ?????lol..maria x

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hi there sci geek...okay...dont know too much about bristol airport but should imagine it isnt as big as hthrow/lgw...so your best bet is to act like everone else....ie ants in a work chain or robots!!!...just follow the prompts..ie...check in with all your papers ...baggage etc...make sure any baggage is identifiable by you.....when that is done go through to departure lounge and listen out or look on the flight board for confirmation of ur flight and the gate that u have to go through to board the plane...give urself plenty of time....but whilst your at the airport...grab a book or mag...settle down somewhere with a drink and just relax.....when you are on the plane...you will have been given a window,middle or aisle seat when you checked in so state your preference at check in.....anyway..once on the plane...carry ion reading,have what ever the trolly saff offer you...especially if its included in your ticket price and just relax.....people dont tend to be that chatty on planes these days and i should imagine you will be in the company of business types/students etc being non peak holiday time...hope this helps..maria

hi there Sharon have just read your post with a mixture of laughter,pain,empathy for you and understanding.....for it must have been a living horror story for you when episodes like this happen.....yes..i think that tht is all u can do to preserve your mental state...WALK AWAY....hide.....have a brew.......charlie ,my aspi..is coming up for 6 and so am not witnessing ths yet from him...although when he gets angry he will hurt himself.....he is strong for his age....and so i am worried for the future if his strength continues from strength to strength so to speak......but the irony is sharon...i have 2 other boys..one 13, and one 19 yr old...he is at uni now and what i am saying is that both these 2 have not ever been diagnosed yet as teenagers do strange things and have baffled me with the things they have got up to in private!! and as for mess...well.....isnt that par for course....my middle sons room smells funny,despite my cleaning in there twice a week...a mish mash of wrappers,old food,discarded underwear...ps2 games not working..just nonchallantly tossed in various hidden corners......hair dyimg.......age apt.....the 13 yr old has just done this...schwarzcoph platinim blond....without even telling me...did it at a friends...ye Gods.....is there a parent island where just parents can escape to...maria xx

Hello witsend...just chilling on this great site and just read your post....wanted to say..how well you describe some of my days!!! know the feeling etc etc...you almost feel as if you have to go into hibernation or coccoon yourself cos it just gets too much and each morning you feel like one of those hamsters on a wheel just going through the motions....thing is....i have been honest enough to say this to a couple of people i know with nt kids and they say the same thing...and they go through the same sort of futile hoplessness with their kids and they havent got the probs our kids have and we have as parents...so i guess it is parenting with an extra challenging edge....so that makes us super parents non!!! anyway...keep your chin up and remember...summer and blue skies around the corner....maria xx new girl on the block!

good subject to bring up....i and mark my hubby are always analising charlies pics...they are incredible vibrant but scary...always monstrous types drawn with reliish......he will see a film then as if he is electrified..draw images from his view point from the film and draw them for days...his style is a picasso art with a roahl dahl sense of humour...once ..we asked him to draw WATERHORSE as he had just seen the film at the pictures....without a pic to copy..he drew a phenomenal image of the beast in motion....at the moment ben 10 is his thing and as he is drawing the figures...he makes them move and have actions...hard to explain...but there is something in these drawings in a very contemp abstract way...the motion of the characters is hard to draw but he seems to find it easy...his teachers acknowledge he is good at drwing but dont like the fact he draws scary things all the time.....any more aspy's like mycharlie out there...maria xx

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Hi there...have just read ur post and want to wish you the best of luck...i too had a hyst. last year..(total Hyst) on a/c of worrying tests and history of ovarian cancer in family...well have got to say...it was the best thing i had done.....life is so much better in many ways and apart from taking it easy for about 4 weeks....life in that respect was not inconvenienced at all......have u got someone to shop for upu or do home delv.....is there someone who can prepare some meals...ie home made veg soup/ casseroles etc.......you mention ss...well see if they can sort out the meals on wheels thing....well...best of luck...and write back when your able....oh yes...you need to lie down as much as poss in ist few days and it will hurt to even use the pc/lap top...so dont bother.....give urself time....bye for now,maria xx

Gosh..have loved reading these postings to do with food shop....a bone of contention for me to up until a month ago when i decided to do what my mum did..in the good ole days!!!...well...feeding 5 of us plus entertaining other peoples kids after school etc...teenage ones at that...i was spending about 150 a week....and also noticing how much i was throwing away....it is those bogof items that i am a magnet for...yet half of them are no good to man or beast....also the packed lunch is costly if ur having to put a big choice in co my youngest with as is extremely picky....ANYWAY...back to my mum...she didnt have a credit card but got her housekeeping on a friday....well i know it is different now and even if we are working...we can get the cash amot ..say no more than 80 a week for family of 4....and i dont use my card...i sit down witha cuppa and a couple of meal idea cook books and plan the wks menu...now for example...i have started buying quorn...excellent..simmered with onion,garlic..diced toms etc...half bag of mixed diced veg...jar of passata/dolmio sauce...a dash of tabasco...and hey one night have half as spag bol or sheps pie(add some baked beans if sheps pie)...and have the other half as chilli con carne (add some chille powder0...the 2 nts meal for all of us costs about a tenner.... since i have done this...am saving quite a bit ....i do agree with other comments about growing your own...but sometimes there are not enough hours in the day to be fully compus mentus....would love to hire an allotment cos our garden is boringly ornamental....and acc to my hubby that is how its staying..humph!!!As for supmarkets in london being pricier......cant say...i would have thought so though.....here in sittingbourne...am surrounded by endless tat and pound shops yet....i dont seem to have more money in m y purse!!!!.....gosh..have gone on a bit..sorry!!.maria xx

Hey the best of luck for tomorrow...i can empathise with you......fingers crossed...maria x

Hi there..just reading your post and see that ur kids are back at school tomorrow...well..confusing or what..our kids in kent have just started their easter 2 wk break...so joy,tears,endless hours to fill...beckon!! I notice you mention the 1q stuff...well i started buying that for charlie my soon to be 6 yr old aspy child...it did have some good effect on him...but i had to take him of it as he was ..after a few weeks having no controll over his bowell movements...sorry folks to lower the tone..but it is true...the poor lad didnt know if he was coming or going and i ended up having to ditch so many pants etc.....now i buy the little tins of sardines in tomato sauce..princes and mash into a jkt potato with grated cheese...not his fav meal but he eats it...no more probs....just keep a look out in a few mths time....maria xx

Hi there fellow citizen from sittingbourne...just logged on ...shouldnt be here ..should be in poland but flight was canx yesterday among many others...total waste of a day and very hard on chas....hey so sorry to read your post.....have you tried...anything like self hypnosis or meditation or a punch bag.....what about art...i know it sounds crazy but when chas is overloading...ie all the brainwaves get in a muddle he scribbles and dawbs paint with passion and he seems to let of steam this way....get some herbal tea......sounds like you have a lot on....can you trade with someone to tidy up for you in ur digs and u repay with something they havent got time to do....my eldest is at uni and they have got themselves into a bartering club where one of the resident chaps does the cooking for him and he downloads music onto cd or gives him any vouchers he has got...seems to work okay for him...if i think of anything else..will post...bye for now and take care of yourself..maria

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Hi and thank you all so much for a great welcome...have been chatting to sciencegeek...who hails from my neck of the woods.....such joy...chatting with such wonderful and inspiring people....i am away from sunday for a few days.....popping over to poland to see why theyre all coming over here??!!..so will write more upon return.....thanks so much..maria xx

hi there..am new to this but i can understand how ur feeling....life is really like that box of chocs...you dive in expecting to get your favs and hey..someone else has been at them and left the wrappers for you...humph...hey am not a religios zealot or anything but on occasion i do get comfort from reading this sort of thing...here goes..."I asked God for strength and he gave me difficulties in life to make me strong...i asked him for wisdom and he gave me problems to solve...i asked God for wealth and he gave me a brain and my hubbie brawn to work!!...i asked him for courage and he gave me dangers to overcome...i asked for love and he gave me troubled people to help...i asked for patience and somehow...i have always ended up on the longest of queues...i askedfor favours and he gave me opportunities......this prayer lark...well.....i got nothing i asked for and wanted BUT everything i needed......have a laugh luvvie...maria x