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Lorry of course you have'nt let him down . exactly the opposite . thank god he's got you . Can you imagine where he'd be if he didnt ? You've fought for this day service, its not your fault they are ###### ( but trying). I really dont think many people realise that there are barely any services for adults with severe autism and challenging behaviour , x

Any way.. it is America's fault for having no protection, they should be thankful he was not a terrorist and do the decent thing and offer him a job

'GM has admitted he knew what he was doing was not just wrong but ILLEGAL and he did it anyway' But , some people with as /asd will say things to their own determent . Some will say they've understood things and done things which they have'nt ! He may have admitted to something that he has little idea about. How do you know ?

i know its off topic , but im sure some of you can do flexible thinking and not crucify me. mandapanda my son is 22 . I have been waiting for him to 'grow up' for years. With some autistics pictures/social stories make no difference. Not everyone with autism is as able as your child, yet some people cant grasp this and think there is an answer. Not all problems have solutions. None of you know GM yet you sit there and judge! What do you think is going to happen to all of your children once they are adults? Autism doesnt dissapear unfortunately. GM has AS, cut him some slack, you harsh lot.,as you never know, one day, your adult may do something without knowing the consequences and i bet you wont want them to be judged by others who dont know him

id take it . Youd regret it for ever more if you didnt. it sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity and the benefits outweigh the bad, from what youve posted . Your daughter may not find this move as unsettling as the last one and how do you know that the neighbours kids wont turn nasty at some point and will always come round any way ? Also, Texas will always be there , id grab the opportunity with both hands , good luck and keep us posted, x

Lol. None of you have any proof that he didnt know the consequences of his actions. Where is the innocent until proven guilty? If it was an NT man, English people would probably find his 'cheek' quite amusing , yet you all seem to be trying to make an example of him , how dare he have AS and show us all up!!! NT people do worse things every day ! Show a bit of solidarity why dont you, go on , i dare you . Also, so what if his mum sees the dx as a bit of a lifeline for him. Wouldnt you? He hasnt murdered anyone !

jesus christ , listen to you all ! who made you all judge and jury ? Lets hope none of your aspergers/autisitc children once adults ever have a run in with the authorities . If my low functioning autistic son, with no social awareness, pulls down his trousers and underpants in public, ( because of an itch, too tight/ too loose clothes/ or any sensory reason we can not identify), should be held accountable ?

MelowMeldrew, i could have written this myself . It is an imposible situation and you have highlighted it very well .I completely identify with what you say and yet, after doing this for 22 years i have no answers, x

Thanks for your replies. I appreciate it. Im really looking for somewhere/something with people in a similar situation. Maybe like groups of carers / disabled adults all going away/meeting up together. Does anything like this even exist? I dont want to go mainstream as the patronizing/sympathetic looks/people moving out the way, is just too much! especially when my son decides to hop on one foot, shout out 'hello michael' and sing gloria gaynor top of his voice. I do have a very good sense of humour but we should'nt be there for everyone else's entertainment.

Hi, myself and my 22 yr old autistic son would like to go on holiday somewhere. The thing is, when I have done this before, I've found it incredibly lonely taking him on my own. I dont know anyone else who is free to come with us, and would appreciate some adult company. Any one have any idea's of a solution? because I cant think of one. Thanks .

szxmum, it sounds as if you are doing exactly the right thing at the moment. By taking all the pressure and stresses off, allowing him just to be, he will become more relaxed and happier. Sometimes 'safety' has to be enough. Ive learnt not to expect too much, take on day at a time, and just go at his pace, x

I understand all this. Once my son left school ( he is now 22) lots of things became clearer . I understand him better now, as all the 'triggers' have been taken away . It is extremely hard if your children are sensitive . I could never have home tutored though, as at the time I had no money and really needed the break, so my poor son, had to go to school, the best i could do was to persuade the school ( spa asd school ) to try and teach him seperately in a quiet room, they didnt even know how to manage him. I feel guilty about it, but you do the best you can at the time. I really do believe that for some autistics, school can cause more harm than good.. I know with my son, plenty of space and time to heal and get over it all was the only thing that worked . He is now as happy as he can be, so things can improve , x

Sally i am so sorry to hear you are so upset. What you need to do is get out there and pull yourself a toy boy , x

How about compulsory counselling, compulsory damage pay outs, compulsory adequate specialist autism education, compulsory on-going care for an autistic persons life, throughout the country, for those made autistic once they've had the MMR?

i dont think it will ever happen

Lorry, it is absolutely dire, what a bunch of w*****s, doesnt give you any faith at all, head up girl, x

martyn , i love your daily therapy, same sort of thing i do each day but it involves two fingers as well ! hehehee, x

Diane, sweetheart, if you hav'nt already, have a good alcoholic drink, i hope your ok, x

Skye, try and ignore it all as best as you can. Just focus on doing positive things with your daughter and f*** the rest of them. They probably arent the kinds of people you'd want anything to do with anyway, so see it as a blessing, who'd want to be amongst that anyway! , x

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MelowMeldrew, just to say i have no idea and if you manage to get him to change his behaviour id be interested to know. In my experience when they get to teenagers some can become '###### minded' . The behaviour sounds very much like my sons at times, and nothing at all made any difference, all i could do was sit it out and ignore it as best i could ( even placing a piece of parcel tape over my mouth at meal times to stop myself being tempted to say anything negative). Can you get meal replacement drinks from your GP? This helped me stop worrying he'd starve to death. Best of luck with it, x

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alanm, ive found the same, northern soul nights are great fun, and you are right, the crowd are much friendlier and welcoming than on an average night out. Northern Soul music eh, allegedly the best music there is ,x

i know what you mean, hindsight, , x

alexmum, that is fabulous ! what a weight off your mind ! , x