jannyk

hope everything goes well tomorrow for you and your son Paula he is very brave . will be thinking of you x <'> <'>

ive also read the book twice and thought it was brilliant it was first lent to me then i had to buy it to read again .

oh hev really feel for you i rang the fashu team last night begging for some help with james him and his dad nearly come to blows they rang me this moring and i said i cant wait for a trainee social worker i need one now. so they just put me through to our council and they put me through to the s.s said somebody will come next week but at the mo james has smashed up his wardrobes threatened both me and his dad and run off . getting txts off james sayin hes going to kill himself dad says he aint coming back in until he realises he cant keep swearing and threatning us i know hes right but its so hard .dont know what to do may have to call the police again .

cannot get james up this morning said he came downstairs last night about 12.30 went on wrong planet and was talking to 2 kids from the usa and another from manchester for about three hours hes written down load of abbreviations and stuff. and he seems happier in himself as he has always said he wants to talk to other kids who will understand him and know what he is going through bless him

hi i got my form this morning sent for forms before but missed the deadline . i think its going to be hard to put things into words when filling the form in also dont know if its worthwhile bothering as j is now 15 but still needs help with social stuff and being promted to do things at home . i will have a go at it later i think.

thanks for that just showed the site to james 15 asd as he has expressed a wish to talk to other kids like himself (his words) he has signed up but not had a good look at it but said he would tomorrow

things here are pretty strained at the moment james does put a lot of pressure on us as a family but his dad does wind him up and i always feel i am listening out for arguments when they get together dh just wont let things go and he still just doesnt get that j needs things explaining to him or that he just doesnt think in the same way as his older db and ds. i sometimes think it would be better if me and james just left but i dont think i could do this to dh but then he will say i cant wait for james to leave home which i have told he may never do . I just wish he was more understanding to him.

i feel so worn out with james hes just 15 over the last few years its been none stop arguing and shouting at each other but i feel like ive given up and dont have the energy to fight any more he swears at me all the time even calls me a ###### and for some reason im just taking it the last couple of months have been a nightmare.i know hes got asd but things are getting worse, im on edge all the time with a nervous stomach waiting for him to kick off all the time and if i dare speak up its" ok just leave it i said leave it."if we go any where he swears and spits all the time it is embaressing.he is at a friends now but when he comes home all hell will let loose and i will give in to him with the tv and computer etc just to keep him quiet. i was going to say keep him happy but he never is.

hi only just read all your posts things are a nightmare here at the moment j so violent and aggresive with us at the moment i feel i have lost control of everything at the moment j is just 15 and a coulple of weeks ago he ran off and i had to get the police they suggested the ss who have been to see us but never saw james so not too sure at the moment what help we are going to be getting they are from the family assesment and support unit. camhs have signed him off they said they couldnt do any more. doctors gave some diasapan but feel a bit reluctlant to use these i have got some melatonin for j but heis never relaxed enough for them to work j has also been offered counscilling and anger management just waiting for the appoitments .at the moment i feel j is rulling the house and can do what he wants all boundries have disappeared he swears all the time is threating and i feel i am trying to keep things calm because i dont want him running off again which i know he will do he has two nt friends who do frustrate him and j has said to me he wants to meet others with asd so he can talk to them as they will understand him he worries about relationships and hes always talking about killing himself i feel as a family we are in hell at the moment and i have nobody to talk to about it j doesnt understand what he is doing to us he just wants his own way all the time.

when j and i had a visit from a lady from the lea she was trying to poo poo that he even had asd because he was sat still for once and she did get eye contact she kept asking me where abouts on the spectrum he was and i dont know i was saying well i thought asd covers everything she said well he must be low down because he looks fine to me how can people say things like this when they dont know what he is like to live with .

j is very violent and aggresive and can be scary harms himself and talks about wishing he was dead all the time . h doesnt realise the affect his actions have on people.he is desperate for a girlfriend and does talk to girls on msn but cannot handle being rejected he will talk for hours on the phone to girls he has never met and thinks he will be marrying them he says he is worried about being on his own he is 15 we tell him this is something he shouldnt be thinking about at the moment some girl rejected him the other night and hes only met her once he was crying for ages and trying to get ouy the house saying he wanted to get run over. i dont know what to do. i dont know if everything is to do with asd he seems to be changing again earlier tonight he exploded smashed the wardrobe door and ran out the house screeming down the phone he wanted to die i ended up calling the police with help from my nt daugter they found him and know hes at her house she just moved into a student house with a friend. we just cant cope with him i did speak to him and he says he doesnt want to come home i think i will have to ring the social services tomorrow .sorry this is long and a bit off track but i really need to talk to someone. j said why did you ring the police he doesnt understand what he puts us throughevery time he goes out the door.

i too get no help at all all my mum says is hes doing it for attention or you take too much notice of him i tend not to tell her too much then every now and again i will let her know just what he has been doing but we dont see her much anyway mil is jus the same a flying visit every couple of months my two sisters dont want to know and hubbys sister lives too far away and hasnt got a clue about us . i dont have any friends but i really wish somebody would take him out for a few hours now and again.

hi polkadotty j was given a place in a referal unit and a place was offered for him there for six weeks altohough it was extended but he didnt get on with the other kids and wouldnt go in the end i was told he would be able to have a support plan or something there told to me by the ed physc bot the refferal unit wouldnt agree to it .and after xmas he never went back i told the lea what was going on and im all set to educate him at home but its taken so long to start as his first statement was turned down second one still gouing through and ive being trying to hang on for the special schhol i want him to attend but of course its full. lea support worker came to see me last week to talk about sending him to mainstream school near where we live but its the same scool we were offered a place at last october i he will not go and i wont let him . so i feel home ed is the only answer but i have so swap my hours at work to do this a lady coming from the lea home ed group on the 27 march .we were never offered any support from anybody along the way and have never been offerd any home tuition from the lea even though they know hes at home . i feel so bitter about everything whats happened. last night j and his older brother had a proper fight over the tv and a mobile phone i feel everythings going wrong and i cant cope any more . thanks for listening x

my son j asd was permanently excluded last june hed gone over the allowed 45 days exclusion still no statement and because he is very agressive the school didnt know how to handle him . things were put in place for him IEP and Pastoral support he also had a mentor! nothing ever worked most teachers just thought he was unruly or unteachable and his year head hadnt even heard of as or asd. sometimes when he was excluded i was told the teachers and other kids needed a break from him. and then when he would have been going into year 10 and was finally going to get some help and support he was permanently excluded .

Dare i say it but i live in the number one cr*p place yes its Hull.I was born here its not that bad really like anywhere else it has its good and bad points