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wow what a lot of interesting debates there! Have always believed it is the luck of the draw for kids with disabilities unless they have been proven scientifically to be genetic and not even considered a mixed race thing as I believe the DNA pot was the same at the start! My brother was blond with dark eyes as a child, he is half turkish and half irish! He had a tourettes like condition during his teens and his second son has ADHD and is being assessed for ASD My sister is half English and half Canadian (was South African but Dad is now Canadian) and she is married to an african American and they have 3 mixed race kids, both the boys had developmental problems with swallowing and speech as youngsters and their dd is severely dyslexic. I am as far as I know 100% English, but as I was adopted as a baby (as my brother was also) I have no real genetic family history to follow

Have had another refusal for DLA and it's the same points which confuses me as it is the points he is claiming for... unable to plan a meal - I have told them umteen times he cannot plan a meal for himself does not have panic attacks or anxiety - this is a daily occurance and they have been told! not a risk of harming himself - sat on a roof contemplating jumping is not harming then? He tells me daily he may as well not be here, what else can I tell them? If they refused on points I have not brought up as in he can walk etc then I get it, but to be refused on the 3 points we have made in the claim makes no sense to me Please help, I am happy to drop the claim, but I don't understand this!

well done you xx

absolutely there will always be a need, however I was trying to explain the reason why children who live next to a school may use a bus service if a similar scheme is operated in other areas btw DD2 will have to catch 2 buses to / from school making a 2 mile journey a 5 mile journey as there is no direct service nor is there a school bus from where we live

well done Josh xx

we have freedom passes here supplied by the county cvouncil at £50 a year and means any child can get on public transport to and from school. DD1 has one but her school is 10 miles away as we opted to send her there we have to fund transport DD2 will go to a school 2 miles away in sept but will get a pass too as the journey is not safe by foot The school does not provide these buses they are general day to day services run by arriva

pretty much all the schools round me are already holding academy status so wouldn't make much difference I don't think and those that don't have it are the failing school nobody wants to attend, so they are striving to gain academy status DD1 attends an art academy DD2 will be attending a sports academy in September But then we still have the 11+ test here where the top 25% taught to take the test go to grammar schools which are single sex Have not heard of many exclusions from any of the schools and I do have a fair bit of involvement with the schools / parents and children due to my job

DD3 had an eye test last yr and she was 3yrs old, the optometrist just looked into her eyes with the machine thing and asked her to point to images on a bord she held whilst showing the same images on the screen in front DD2 had to do the same thing at the hossie when she was 2yrs old as she has dwaynes syndrome and an astigmatism and has worn glasses since then

thats lovely! My DD2 has the same sort of attributes with kids at school, she seems to make friends with the oddballs there and helps them bloom. Her mum must be very proud of her

Hi Justine, totally understand where you are at I was gonna start an OU course in Sept and realistically this was never going to happen, am hoping I will start like you in March 2011 big hugs but sounds like a good decision xx

thats a really interesting site thanks CMJ !

DP started off in yr 7 ok and by yr 8 was refusing to go, he got a dx of dyslexia 2 months before sitting his GCSE's and failed all of them as he hadn't been to the lessons! But that was 15 years ago he left so things have probably changed a lot since then

Well done Mumble!!

Thats my definition of rural too I was born and bred in London before moving to Kent as a child, I certainly would not call where I live rural, but the diference between here and London is immense. I live in a village on the outskirts of a town, there is a bus 3 times an hour from where we live and every 10 mins if you walk 5 mins up the road. We have village services such as a post office / chemist / primary school and even the main hospital is 10 mins walk away, I try to service these shops as much as possible on a limited budget not always possible. Town is 2.5 miles away and some poeple would call our village a suberb of the town. It is called a village here becasue it was once a village before the town grew and joined it up

same for me, if I say a week on tuesday I mean a week on tuesday, think my grandad used to say the odd version tho to shut us up!

That is ridiculous! HT Isn't looking out for your son, more hiding him from OFSTED!

I agree with Justine, had a friend who's son went through the same thing and it is a pshychological problem most of the time, if they have eradicated any problems then unfortunately you encouraging him is the only way forward. Remove the nappy and allow him to soil himself, it is not nice and will be a way forward to getting him on the toilet when he needs to go Sorry if that sounds harsh, but a bit of tough love is needed from what I am reading xx

oh dear what a dreadful day you have had!

Has he seen a poo specialist to help with psychological issues?

have similar comments about my DD3, dunno if she is on the spectrum mind!

we do another in October at our sister site, I love these days

Just googled it and it says around 6 or 7 usually, but sometimes as young as 3. there is a lot more info with the page I have looked at Good luck to both of you with the assessment results

sounds awful and very much like he has conceded the battle if he is sitting and behaving quietly in class they will ignore him, he will blur into being a number on a seat. Can you speak with the HT I assume you have already) again and possibly set up a meeting between the people who are meant to be helping him and yourself to discuss your concerns? Is there an alternative school he can attend? Best of luck

We held a 'discovery day' today at the leisure centre I work in, it is an annual sporting and crafting event run by the council and we supervise the trampolines (my colleague and I) We had 5 schools in today and although it was a difficult start due to the motorway having a serious accident and making all the roads round us gridlocked until 1pm. All the kids had a great time and especially loved the trampolining! Most kids were Autistic, but we had a few with downs and a few with more physical problems. To keep the kids safe on one of the trampolines we get out the 'Auto spotta' which is similar to a safety net for a garden trampoline, but this blows up like a bouncy castle! This is very popular! just wanted to share my fun

Good luck with it Justine, I am quite pleased to see a skin prick test has been offered as it took a huge fight to have my son skin pricked due to his allergies to food. They have done it twice now and messed them up both times, I have given up for now as I can't see him go through it for a third time (his veins hide like mine do when a needle is offered and they have to pump out the blood it is horrid to watch and they say they have enough when they don't) No idea on the flooring, we have none in our house lol