LizC

Hi although Matthew hasn't done anything quiet like this he does seem to get a kick out of winding his little brother up (almost 3) he hurts him pushes him to the ground locks him outside, puts his hands around his troat then pushes him over, he seems to think it is great when Nathan starts to scream and cry! these past few days I have had enough! with all the fighting and winging!! I hope it all works out for you! <'>

<'> <'> oh no, so sorry! these things are sent to try us! I hope you son gets home safe and sound soon! My 2 boys caught CP on holiday a few years ago (just in this country) but that was awful cause we had to try and stay away from people! I know how it feels!

Yep Matthew is the same, no matter where we are he has to throw rubbish everywhere! I kept so tired of telling to pick it up!

Hi my son who is 6 is very interested in languages! he started at about 4 watching knight rider in german and spanish! he trys to speak the language too lol, so your son isn't the only one!!

Hi I have just watched it myself. why is they always portray AS with having a gift etc and being able to count stuff etc (yes I know some do but not all which makes it harder explaining to people) Matthew isn't totally like that, he actually struggles with maths and doesn't really have a 'gift' as such. he has his obessions and loves/likes etc and good a stuff. to me it made out that having AS you cannot cope with every day life. yes I know it caqn be hard but some do go on to have jobs/marry have a life (albeit hard!) look at bill gates! and my grandad he married, had a hard time though! I do think it is good that AS is coming out in programmes now but it is time they started covering more/different symptoms to show people in the real word what it can be like.

Hi can't believe the pyschologist said that!! he has many difficulties and if he doesn't get help how will he cope in school, keep pushing for it! we are working towards a statment for Matthew (we meet with school pyc in sept) he can't concentrate in class, wonders off (has got out of school a few times) throws chairs/can't cope when his routine is thrown out the window. he is also going into year 2 and can just about write his name although he gets the W at the end of his name muddled up with a M.

Hi it can take a while. My son got dx with AS in sept. we applied for dla in march and only got the letter back the other day to say that matthew is to get it. the school had to send a report and the pyschiatrist that dianosed Matthew had to send one too. we are so pleased, he is getting the higher for personal care and the lower for getting about. I am sure you will get it (he is entitled to it!) keep at it!

Hi I am glad you have got a diagnosis at last! how old is your son? I found it to be such a relief to finally know, even though I 'knew' anyway! hope you get help and support now!

Hi Aspergers is not a label, it is what they are!! I went to a conference recently and the speaker said that it is wrong not to get a diagnosis and he said it is actually discriminative to that person not to get the diagnosis, diagnosis means help/support. it is far easier to say autism that have that child been labeled 100 times over by other people (naughty being one of them!) he also said that autism is autism, you either aren't or you are and he didn't believe in a mild end! aspergers goes in phases, they can be as 'normal' as any other child one day then the next their aspergers comes out in them and can be the hardest day of you life!) it can also get harder along the way as well as easier lol. do get a diagnosis as not getting one could not be so good for that child, leading to low self esteem. Hi again forgot to say Matthew started his assessment at about 4yrs 10mths (4 1/2 when I took him to the gp for a referrel) and diagnosed at 5. he has had many difficulties at school and without that diagnosis probably would have been called very naughty and most likely on his way to being expelled!

Hi My son doesn't like dogs either. he isn't as bad as your son but he really can't stand them, he doesn't like to walk past them in the street and is very edgy with my mother in laws dog. he too doesn't like the licking!

wow that is great! I bet you couldn't believe it! it is nice that your nephew can be there for your son!

hi wow that was very interesting. certanly helps when it is discussed in the house of lords, hopefully more people will begin to realise how hard it is for all of us!

Hi sorry to hear about the bad day you have had! <'> I hope today has been better for you! I can so sympatise wih the mess! doesn't matter how many times I vacuum the place will send end up with bits all over again! I feel like I am going over the same things all the time!!

thanks everyone!!

hi do you mean we may be entitled to more tax credits, is that the same as child tax credits? my dh wondered if we may owe them money back?? have you any ideas on this? Yes will try to apply for carers again, i tried at the same time as claiming for dla and got turned down only because M didn't have dla at the time, they did say I could send it off at the same time! so will do it all again, at least the form was easy! thanks

Hi, yes to me that does not make sense!! surely if there were loads of special needs kids then you would expect the result of the statemented children to be the same!!

Hi all just received a letter from the dla and pleased to say we have been accepted!! Such good news for us and him, been waiting ages. he is getting the higher rate for personal care and the lower rate for getting around. so excited as I really thought we were in for a fight like alot of people and loads kept telling me to expect not to get it or at least not first time round, but Matthew has got it!! will be able to spoil him on holiday now (and the other 2 who get affected by him) will help to pay for petrol and get us about in the school holidays!

Awwww that is such good news!! bet you are relieved!!

<'> <'> <'> thanks for your replys, hugs to you 2! I just dread when they go back in september!

Hi for me I believe there are many factors that can contribute to AS. My aspergers son had a normal pregnancy but he was always restless even then, he seemed to cry alot on an evening as a baby, didn't want to go down in his cot from early on, he had relux and asthma as a baby too (still got asthma) my grandad had aspergers so I do believe it can be hereditary. he had many symptoms before his mmr so I really do not think this has anything to do with it, my other 2 kids are fine.

Hi well done on sticking up for your dd and all our kids!!! isn't life made harder by ignorant people! it is hard enough without things like that!! it is a silly comment she made too after all some special needs kids attend main stream too. my son does, he doesn't look any different just feels different!! in fact kids deal with things like this brilliantly and the younger they are the better they deal with children who are a bit different! my youngest is almost 3, he has always had to 'deal' with autism lol, he and my older dd will be coming to my sons autism group on friday night.

Hi My memory is terrible lol, I can remember things that happened years ago but things like when I am upstairs and remember somthing to tell my dh then come down I just can't remember what I was going to say no matter how important it was lol. Matthew can remember loads of things from years ago and will remember how a room/place looks and what has changed next time, no matter how small the change but he can't remember where he puts his toys etc!

hi well finally today with only 3 more days to go till they break up for the summer, which class matthew will be going into in september! I can't believe it, the times I have gone in and told them matthew needs time to get used to a new teacher! I have pushing this, if I hadn't asked again today I probably wouldn't have been told till friday! now Matthew is very worked up/anxious about it all, especially with the holidays coming up etc, it is a nightmare, his behaviour at school has been bad 9with the chair throwing ect) and yesterday I got called in as he wasn't doing as he was told gggrrr, then they say it isn't his problems, just been naughty, well what do they expect, he is feeling rather frustrated and confused at the moment. he came home crying /devestated as he won't be in the same class as his friend that he has been quite attached too. they want to try seperating them, they said matthew seems to have been making other friends lately and wnat to see how he copes. I know this is life, but it is hard, trying to explain all this to matthew he was really sad and upset about it all. anyway I have requested to see Matthew's new teacher before we break up (i do know her anyway as my dd hayley has had her before) but I just want to put her in the right picture! right got to go

Hi have you tryed going to your GP to get a referrel to a team of pyschologists? that is what we did and got refered to somewhere called the rosewood centre. Matthew was diagnosed within a few months. that was last september. he is 6 now and we applied for DLA, had to get the forms to them by May 4 and still waiting on a decision. they normally want a report from the school and the pyschologists so that can help in their desicion. can't believe we are still waiting. the pyschologist had alot to say as she has seen in him in action destroying the house! hopefully we will hear soon!

yes I can agree with that! My mother in law, don't know what she really thinks as she really seems interested in Matthews AS but then behind our back I am sure it is different. she told my sister that she should have Matthew for 4wks and then she would sort him out!