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About Goldenben

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    Salisbury Hill
  • Birthday 09/13/1986

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    Birmingham, UK
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    My main interests are music and sport - infact i'm PASSIONATE about my music... for me it's my therapy everyday.. i'm an up & coming lyric writer and poet who had some success in the uk songwriting contest. I try to write as often as possible, i guess somewhat obsessively at times, but it gets me through the days when i feel isolated and alone. I also love animals with a passion too, and also interested in spirituality too. I keep fit most days by running also.
  1. Hi thanks for the post. Well i have a few good friends but unfortunately most of them have families and full time jobs so i rarely see them! I don't even have problems making friends but i do have problems keeping them! I'm more motivated about finding work now myself so that's a plus. I'm actually passionate about animals and did start to volunteer working with dogs but it was quite far away and would have cost me alot of money just to get there and back. I've never heard of wargaming/warhammer what is it? I used to be obsessive about games but now frankly i'm pretty bored of them! And i didn't see goldie's band where did that take place? I write music myself which is like a therapy for me and had some success in international competitions too. Without music for me life wouldn't be worth living Another thing i've wanted to do for a while is to make a site for people to meet others with autism in their local area and make new friends! Every autism charity i've seen don't do anything like that as far as i know! To get out and do activities with other people would benefit everyone
  2. Well i'm 24 now and i relate to everything you said. I've had times when i've been out and socialised but lately that hasn't been the case. Like him i used to sit day in, day out playing video games and basically nothing else, but lately i've realised that i'm wasting time and have allready wasted so much time and i'm trying to really turn my life around. Depression for me is what really made things more difficult, because before my bout of depression i was practically a different person. I was only diagnosed with mild aspergers but my life has been far from mild. I lost alot of friends with my despression too who i don't think understood what i was going through. I'd love to meet other people who i can personally relate to, as you can probably imagine i'm not the judging type and will befriend anyone willing to do the same. Contrary to popular belief most people with aspergers are desperate to make friends but are tired of being judged i think. It is VERY hard to break out of a routine like the one your son is is now, and i used to think that this was it and there was nothing else that mattered, plus when your sick and tired of people judging you it's gonna make you less inclined to try and make new friends, which is sort of how i've been lately. I really feel like life is starting to make more sense again, like before my bad depression hit, almost the same but not quite. It's difficult because without a job you can't really go out and if you can't go out you can't socialise. I've had some interviews lately and am hopeful about getting back into work soon, but if your son is into computers why not look into a computer course? Most people with aspergers can become highly skilled with computers. All i'd say is keep trying to push your son, and also i've started a gluten free diet and i am feeling an improvement (Mainly less mental clutter) and more focus. I'd also suggest he trys hypnotherapy as i remember after i tried it i felt more focused and all of a sudden stopped playing video games all day. There is hope, i mean today has been a bad day for me and i've felt quite low but tomorrow i'll MAKE sure i feel better. I think last time i let the depression hit me hard and got into an almighty rut, but now i'll exercise or write to improve my mood. Hope this may help
  3. I hope so too, everyday my routine is the same ###### you know. I've been feeling alot happier lately but today i feel really low. I've had friends in the past so it's not like i can;t make them it's just things have changed and i trust people so little now. ALL i want is more of a social life and a job, i know i'm capable but starting to think of a point in all of this fighting, seems i've been doing it all my life. I feel at breaking point right now
  4. Everytime i start to get more confident there's always someone who thinks they can put me down or treat me like an imbecile, i hate people i really do. Not to mention i'm one of the most loyal people going but it seems no one is prepared to offer me any in return!
  5. Hello there! I too have gone gluten free and actually found it alot easier than i expected. I've been doing my own shopping for the first time in my life and my local supermarket had a small but varied enough selection for the main things like bread,pasta,cereal,cakes I must admit i'm feeling quite a bit better, i also had my first job interview in quite a while the other day, and i'm feeling more motivated lately. I've been thinking lately about how much time i've allready wasted in life and that i really have to get out there and do something. I've also been to an agency to help touch up my C.V and stuff, and like i say i'm just feeling generally more motivated, and almost like i have things in check a little more and can priorotise better Also can i suggest you look into vitamin b6/magnesium as i've also started doing that. I use a magnesium chloride spray and take a high strength vitamin tablet daily.
  6. Yeh school wasn't the most fun time for me, i think we struggle more no doubt, but i also think we are very kind and very sensitive people, as i am. I got bullied in primary school and secondary school but towards the end of secondary school started to interact more with others. I just think being sensitive opens you up more to being bullied, but it made me a hell of alot stronger now, at like 16-18 i was living my life without any real negativity, i was going out regularly and socialising. It's taken me about 6 years to start making some real progress again with my life, and there's still a long way to go yet. When you're exposed to negativity it's certain you'll become negative, and i've been trying to change my way of thinking which is finally starting to work!
  7. Hello and welcome, i'm interested in music therapy myself. I've recently gone gluten free and also combining vitamin b6/magnesium and am starting to listen to music for brain waves specifically. Is there any type of music you would suggest in particular?
  8. Just keep encouraging him and pushing him. I know all about the isolated part though, and it sucks. I was only diagnosed with mild aspergers but i'm only really sorting my life out for the first time in several years after being in a rut. I was thinking of setting up meet ups for people with autism in general in the future because me personally i'm desperate to get out more and enjoy myself, i'm not even that bad socialising, but after losing most of my 'good' friends for various reasons i'm finding it hard to make good new ones. On a good day you wouldn't think i had a problem but on a bad day you would, and that's the key thing i think. Anyway good luck and encouragement goes a long way! I could have REALLY done with a bit more myself in some of my earlier years!
  9. Me personally i feel like i can recgonise my emotions alot more than a few years ago, maybe just as i've got older.. I feel emotion because i'm frustrated but determined to try to turn my life around and get a new job/life basically and i know i have to try real hard now.
  10. Yeh i totally agree that it's hard ATM and i'm just gonna try and be as patient as i can be. I'm sure ONCE i find a good role i'll probably excel quite well,as i've always had praise doing the jobs i feel comfortable in, but i've had probs working out of my comfort zone in the past. @ Sesley : I'm looking for any sort of call centre/customer service job as i've always done well in them but incoming call centres get 100's of applicants every time. And i'm passionate about sport and music, i write poems/lyrics in my spare time. And regarding voluntary work i'd deffinitely be interested in doing it, infact i went to start at a kennels looking after and walkings dogs but it would cost me a fair bit of money to get there and was quite a distance away. Will keep looking though, ain't giving up yet!
  11. Yes and i know exactly how you feel as i didn't see any point trying (When my depression was bad) I have an attittude basically screw the world now, if someone can't take me for me then screw em. There is hope but we just have to fight hard for it
  12. Well after i lost most of my friends for various reasons things have just been like the same old cycle over and over again day after day. The thing is most of the time i actually enjoy going out but very rarely do so anymore. I remember a time before being in this rut when i was enjoying life much more than now and going out fairly regularly and pursuing interests. Never before this last 5 years did i ever consciously think i had problems, even though i was diagnosed when i was 13, but i had some traumatic experiences and i'm guessing that just made the aspergers worse maybe. It just seems once you've fallen into a hole it's insanely hard to get out of it. Frustration eats away at me as i'm desperate to make something with my life but for instance job hunting is ridiculous as i just apply apply and apply and don't hear anything. I have pride and determination but it just breaks me when i can't put it all into practice.
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