Mishmash

Big hugs <'> I know it's hard. Take care xx

Hi, for my son (9) he recently had a school trip to the New Forest (it's where we live and he's terrified of the forest unless it's the bits he knows). What I did was get the school to show him pics of last year's trip. I then found out exactly where they were going and we went there on our own a few times - that did seem to help as he knew his way around. In the end I also went with them. Hope this helps. Mish

Yes it seemed to help me when I was pregnant - also bio-oil is fantastic!

Is unbelievably angry! How is it possible to get referred by your lovely helpful doctor in one town to go and see a specialist about your child(in another town), then tor that specialist to send the forms/info etc to the WRONG ###### doctor in a completely different town and surgery that you haven't used in 2 poxy years? ARGH!!! It's taken so long to get referral and then they ###### it up anyway!! Ooooooh! ...and the form they've sent to school/me etc is the ###### conners ADHD one - purely on family history not on his actual problems! Argh! Ah well at least with that one it'll show - very few of the questions are applicable to him! sorry for the rant - just so very frustrated! Thanks for letting me rant! Now must remember the ...breathe!! Mishmash

Argh... should be luckily he.... not if! typing too fast

Hi, just to let you know you're not alone! I have the same thing with my 9 yo son, about the same thing at the mo. there has been a lot on TV (ads etc) about 2012 and he was freaking out about it, as well as the horrible history book Other kids winding him up telling him ti's true etc. what I've done is just constandly reasurre him it's not going to happen ... one of the things that seemed help (because he thinks it's logical) is that fact that they wouldn't have spent all that money on the Olympics if the world was going to end any time soon! I've told him as well that everyone has different ideas and beliefs and if some people at school want to think that, it is their perogative to do so - just to take no notice. Luckily if does think that Mama knows best as well as the olympics thing. The teachers just don't have the time or the patience to deal with this sort of thing. I do agree though that the head didn't handle the situation as well as they could have. Hope you manage to reassure him, and hope this has helped some. Love and light, Mish

Ack winding him up was not necessary! The paed checked his reflexes, asked him what he did in the hols and proceeded to ask me about him for over and hour! she will send form to school to fill in and one for me for home, referring him to CAHMS and got another appointment after half-term. she tells me it could take up to 2 years before we get any answers! Argh! Well at least it's a start I suppose! Mish

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Hi, not been on for a while ... for some reason i couldn't access the site. Ah well. After a long hard slog, we have my son's (9) first assessment tomorrow with the County Paediatrician. Not sure what to expect or what will happen. My son is getting himself in a bit of a state and has decided he is NOT going to talk to her - we'll see. I'm sure he'll be fine. The main problem will be the fact that he probably will talk to her, and give eye-contact and be sociable and so on, because that is what he has "learned" to do, and he knows that's how people act, even if he doesn't understand why. Maybe I should "wind" him up before hand? anyhow, wish us luck:) Mish

Hope it all goes well! it is possible I know! Imoved schools for the same reason my NT son was being horribly bullied. After we moved to the new school I spent the first term crying - it was such a relief to have a happy child, whyo was believed in school and to have found a school that actually meant what they said! He's gone from hating school, people and wanting to kill himslef to being a wonderful 10year old child ago! So I hope it wll goes well for you <'>

Big hugs - know where you're coming from! <'> On a different note I learnt something - I speak Engolish and Arabic - today, from your post I have learnt that I also, speak hebrew! Well it made me chuckle!

Have just ordered it! Thanks:)

Argh really need to use the spell check thingy! - Sorry Trekster!

Trekstyer - thank you - as always full you point me in the right direction! <'> Thanks Mishmash

Hi all, need help on this one. Little one had a total meltdown last night (his first one) and it scared him. He was yelling, throwing things, sobbing uncontrollably, etc. This went on till 11 o'clock (he's only 8). It got worse as he got worse (if that makes sense) he ended up so agree at himself for being horrible, etfc he was calling himslef names, saying he was stupid, what use does he have. He wants to run away but who wouldn't coz he loves me, but do I love him really, etc,etc. The he started saying, what's wrong with me, what's wrong with me, why am I doing this, it's horrible and so on. Does anyone have any ideas how I can introduce AS to him without him feeling even more freaked out than he is. I need to find a way to make it more of a positive thing (which in so many ways it is), and then he can know that we can work through the rough patches. Oh I went to my first support group yesterday, what a relief!! Thanks Mishmash xx

I do know exactly how you feel - am pretty much doing the same thing today is worse than yesterday and tomorrow will be better. You just have to take it a day at a time and deal with whatever is happening in the moment. Good luck! I join a supporet group yesterday, and like you found it such a relief! Bug hugs, good luck and know you're not on your own. <'> Mishmash

I does this as well (combination of journal of happiness and things I'm grateful for) and I find it really helpful to read back especially if things are going pear-shaped - puts me back on track! <'>

><Thank you all for your wonderful ideas, suggesetions and just making me feel I'm not alone in this, I have some wonderful ideas to try and help him. Really appreciate it <'> Mishmash xx

Trekster - Thank you!! Social Stories - why didn't I think of that! I've been using them recently for other things - never thought of using them in that context, I'm still very new to all this - Thank you! I really, really think the move etc was the thing that set him off. You have been so helpful - really appreciate it. This site is a life-saver for someone learning it all and trying to make things OK Take care Mishmash

He's only had them like this since we moved house and school in September. Up until then he had funny little habits if you like, but nothing like this. To the extent his 10 year old brother keeps saying to me, I want the old Roo back:( I hadn't even been aware of or thinkg AS as the Dr all said he was fine and I was just imagining it all. However, it's the first thing they noticed at his new school and they are already in the process of implementing things to help him. I wish I'd known though (or believed in myself) I would have made the move etc so very differetn, prepared him more etc.

Smiley Hi, it's definnitely high anxiety - wasn't sure whether to take him to Dr or wait until the school assessment thing kicks in, he's already seen S&L and she has said he is one of those who can "slip through the net" because he appears fine if a bit strange at school., etc, he doesn't act out or let people at school know what's in his head, it's only when hee gets home that all hell breaks lose. His breathing thing is that he suddenly will only breath in through his nose, then does really loud sort of huffing noises through his mouth when he gets distressed - like really hard expelling of air. he says this is the only way the things woun't happen and he really hates doing it and breathing through his nose as his nose gets blocked and then he thinks he can't breathe. Actually, writing it down like that does sound (at least the end bit) like panic attackl. The huffing though I have no idea. Thank you Smiley, for taking the time I really appreciate it. Mishmash

My little one is 8 , he is so distressed at the moment. he was in his room sobbing and calling for me. I went up and he said he was so frightened and stupid and a wuss. when I asked him what was wrong he said he didn't want to say the words, so I asked him if he could write it down. he wrote "drains" on one piece of paper and "reflection" on another. I asked him about the drains one first, and as I started to say "what are you scared of? that'll you'll" he started screaming at tme not to say it. He's terrified of the drains in the street and that he'll fall down them. I noticed today that in town he's holding on to me more and walking around with his eyes closed and doing his "funny" breathing. the reflections one is that he is afraid to look at himself in the mirror as he's scared he might go to the other side of the world! I did eventually manage to calm him down by double pinky swearing that it wasn't going to happen. But before he went to sleep he told me he doesn't want to leave the house, he wants to stay in the house and "be calm". I hope to all the Gods he's forgotten about that one by tomorrow - or tomorrow is going to be a fun day! : I just feel so sad for him, he hates having these thoughts and being like this - and I think because all of this fear thing has really started to come out in the last few months it's freaked him out as well. I just wish I could do more to help him, or to just take it all away for him. I know I can't. Has anyone else had experience with similar things? Any help/ideas appreciated. I'm going to my first support meeting on Wednesday - looking forward to it - hoping to get soem help/advice and just be with people who are on the same page as me, my family are not very supportive at the moment so it's scary for me too. Thanks as always for "listening", somehow it feels less scary when you've "talked" about it Mishmash

Oh well done!! It is a very big step fro you - it will be great! Just take things one day at a time and work it from there, don't try and predict what will happen (sometimes doing that can become a self-fulfilling prophecy!). If after a while Jay does find it hard, try and pre-plan stuff for him to do while you are out? anyway, well done and good luck! Mishmash x

Justine1 - thanks for that I was coming to the realisation that I cannot let him control everything, was unsure if I would be doing it wrong by consequences/giving in etc. figured I can't make it any worse/ Thanks for that. the stuff in his room that he#s scared of are not things as such, they are books and anything with a picture on that is scaring him. Thanks you all for your help/comments. Can't work out how to answer each one individually! Ah well, the fun starts tomorrow - back to school, that might help him get into a routine again. Thanks Mishmash

Thanks both of you - Ithink you are both right, the move has aggravated everything. We moved to England 65 years ago, so he was still only little, and although because I rent we've moved house a few times, this is the first time he's been out of his comfort zone really, and because everyone said I was just imagining things with him, I didn't really understand the AS. The huge changes he's been through since September have really kicked the AS off big time. it's taking me ages to get him to sleep and tonight he's deceided that he wants everything moved out of his room except his soft toys and crystals. He wants to keep everything to play with in the day, but it all scares him at night!? ah well, that'll be fun tomorrow. I just wish I'd known properly about all this before we moved, and I just wish I could help him more now. I'm going to try and find a support group here to see if that will help me understand more, I'm finding it frustrating trying to get information etc. anyway, thanks so much for taking the time to reply, it's really helped. Mishmash xx