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Thats's great. It really does help when you have an understanding gp! <'> <'>

It's wonderful!!! <'>

Flora..... Hope it's a good one!!

His school or rather teacher sounds really unskilled and seems to lack understanding in his needs. Does your school have a special needs co-ordinator that you can arrange a meeting with?? I had this problem with his teacher in yr1.......words come to mind, but had better not say what i think of her on here!! Put it this way if dd gets her nx year i will be complaining to head. She was an NQT with no obvious skills on how to deal with a child that isn't the 'norm' I spent that year and in lots of the time. Keep your chin up, hope app with ed phys goes well. Does he get 1-2-1? ds 1-2-1 makes sure h/w is in bag and writes to tell me what it was. I then check his book before leaving. Now he knows we 'talk' to each other his h/w has been present (2 wks now). As long as you know he is trying his best....keep it up, sure ur doing a grand job! <'>

Hi I have not been on for sometime.....had a very busy year! Thanks for replying, basically i would like to know what it is....i gather it is to help with handwriting but how? My 4 yr old nt dd writing is better that 8yr old ds and both are becoming very aware that this is the case, which is not good! basically anything you can tel me would be a help.... thank you xx

Hi, I have been reading in some posts about a system used in some schools called alpha smart. What is this, do you have to have certain requirements to qualify having one? Please could somebody advise on how/where i look into these. I have never heard of it before, but the little bits i have put together seems as though it could benefit ds. Thank you.....

J has always struggled with writing, he hates doing it and is very concious that it;s not as tidy as his peers He's really been struggling with 'diary writing' at school, and all forms of expressive writing and comprehension and has over the last couple of months either refused to do it at school or home, or done very little under duress. He gets really cross and frustrated about it. We've had several meetings with the school and senco and they have sortof tried to help...but we're kinda getting stuck now on the 'defination' of 'trying'. We're waiting for an Ed Psch to go into the school and assess J's needs, and in the meantime we have said to him he needs to at least 'try' and so some english work. However....J's dad is worried that j will not really try...and will just say'but i have tried and only done 2 lines' when if he had 'really' tried he might have managed 5. I don't especially agree with J's dad although I do agree it's difficult to tell what to do for the best whilst we wait for all these reviews etc. Removing tv and xbox etc doesn't make him do the work, and he just gets really angry and cross. This sounds like my ds you are describing. We are currently having the same problems. His english (apart from reading) is his poorest subject. He hates writing because he cannot see the point. We have tried explaining y it is important we write, so he will write cards as he can see the purpose with them. I too have tried banning the tv/psp but that does not work either. Luckily though his school are understanding to his needs. Yes the other children write paragraphs, but they understand ds inability/refusal to write so they set him tasks of 2-3 paragraphs and this seems to work well. I also purchased a special pen designed for right handed (they also do left handed) ithas 3 grips where they know to put there fingers, thus putting it in the tripod grip like they should be doing. Unfortunately he is not aloud to use this at school because he is in yr 3, u can only use pen when u get to yr4???? On the positive side it has helped him withhis grip. "Tonights homework as usual was a joke...teacher had written in his home/school diary 'Spellings, reading and 7x tables' But....no spelling list in bag and no reading book in bag!...Don;t know how many times I've asked if he has homework they need to make sure it's in the bag otherwise it never makes it home - let alone refuse to do it!" We have this issue 2, they say they put it in there, but at some point ds takes it out and 'loses' it. We now have system set up with the teacher to ensure evrything comes home and so far so good. 1 good thing about his school they are very good at parent-teacher communication. Just today and IEP is in place for strategies around his english lessons to get the best from him. If it helps, please tell your dh that 2-3 lines is 'trying' hard in their head. i know it feels like you are my dh is the same, luckily he is hardly here as it is clash of the titans sometimes when they are in the same room!! Anyway think i have rambled on enough, hope it reassures you 2 know u are not alone....it certainly does me!

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I know exactely how you feel, except i was away for 10 nights.....My Honeymoon of all things in sunny maldives..... within a wk of returning, ds started and hasn't stopped, am at my wits end. It is now a case of, wot honeymoon and it was only 4 wks ago

That's fab news!!

Hi My son was diagnosed at 5 1/2 years. He developed a stammer at the age of 3, hv referred him to speech and language and the same time the language and development dept of the local hospital.... His stammer stopped as quickly as it started (just as they predicted) however the hospital appointments cont every 6 months. At each appointment i was asked what kind of pregnancy i had, what he was like as a baby, when he reached certain milestones ect. By 4 1/2 the area senco went into his pre-school to observe and really kicked some a**!! However i was let down by the system because his notes were not handed over to his new primary school and everything went back to square 1....arggghh. Finally 8 months after starting school the docotr finally mentioned a possibility of As, told me to go away and read up on it and come back 4 wks later. I mentioned to sons teacher we had a prognosis and her reply was ' its what i thought but could not say anything as i am not a dr, however i have been teaching him as though he did have it and the results in his work was of a better standard'. Finally the app came and i had to admit that i thought he had it and she said he had.....well i broke down, but that took 2 years from a 1st innitial appointment with regular meetings to finally dx. Personally i think that is bad, coz once i read up on it i realsied y the behaviour was there at nursery and had i known....well no point going on what ifs, but thats my story of how we 'finally' came to a dx. Hope this helps with your reaserch/poll?? tmf x

Hi, I really don't know what to say that will help. The only advice is don't brush it under the carpet and hope it will get better....it never does. I did exactely that, nearly at the cost of my dh (fiance then). sending you lots of these as it sounds like you need them..... <'> <'> <'> <'>

Very addictive indeed!!

Hi, It has been a long time since being on this forum. It has been one hell of a hectic year!! Anyway i am looking forward to talking to people again, and hoping for some advice along the way.... tmf

Imelda Marcus (something like that anyway!) had better watch out lol!!

Sick

I'm in the middle of claiming mine, they keep trying to fob me of with 'we are currently looking into it' Court proceedings will be starting tomorrow! Hope i get somewhere they owe me �1300

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time with your sisters.....sending you some of these <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> There behaviour towards both you and your son is disrespectful and they should be ashamed. They should put themselves in our situation who have to cope with it 24/7!! It is your sisters who are gonna make your mum end up ill, not you telling her things, they should grow up and be supportive. It makes me sooooo cross i appreciate they might not fully understand, but if they really wanted to they could. My partners family have been fab. They all looked it up on the web and sent me links, in fact they find it hard to belive he has ASD as his behaviour is spot on when we are out....little do they know its the hard task before hand about rules ect om how to behave!! My family on the ther hand well they try and deal with him as if he were NT and then wonder y......lost count how many times i have tried explaining to them You hit it on the head b4......they may be your sisters, but if thats there attitude you don't need them, its your son that matters the most! As for your mum, sounds like you got one in a million, lucky you! Hope things look up soon.... <'>

Good luck....you sound as if you have very good parents. My son was dx at 5, he's 7 now and they won't except dx let alone read anything i give them, they just aren't interested. You are very lucky to have understanding parents

Agree with both you....C is exactely the same! He say he lied because he didn't want to get into trouble...

Well done........Glad to see all employers are not a~~wipes like mine were.....bitter, yes i am! <'>