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b*ll**kS!!! Sorry its l8 and i bin drinking....

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viper that is so sad. It certainly does put things into perspective. Those poor children must be devastated. are with them. xx

Hi Lisa Hope your little girl is ok now?? I can see where the teacher is coming from, but when you have a child with an ASD they should know that any sudden change to her routine is going to effect her. I can't beleive the attitude of the teacher in all honesty she sounds like a dragin with a heart of stone! If it were me i would complain to the head about this teachers attitude towards both you and your dd. I would then readdress the issue with HM direct and see if yu can come to some logicall agreement. As for ds school, i don't know what they do there, but after reading your post i am certainly going to find out what procedures happen there with a fire drill. Good luck in wotever you decide to do with this, and i do hope your little girl is ok from this distressing event! Take care tmf xx

Dito!

Hi, Just after a little bit of advice really, I beleive my df has AS and just wondered how you went about living with them, how you behave with them.....god that doesn't make sense! You see i have a son with AS and am beginning to know how to deal with him, but i don't want to deal with df in the same sort of way. I want to be a good wife (to be) not his mother. Sometimes when i speak to him i feel like i might sound patronising/sarcastic towards him. I really want this to work, but with a dx AS son and a potenially undx df i am finding things tough at the mo. Any words of wisdom from any of you??

.....if so can you help me pls?? What made you get dx?? How did you go about it?? The reason i ask is i am pretty sure df has it....he is showing some verystrong AS traits. Thing is he is really doing my head in lately and they way i am starting to respond to him is sarcastic. I know i shouldn't be he is really rubbing me up the wrong way, it's like i have a 3rd child in the house sometimes! Thing is if i knew for sure he had AS and didn't keep playing the guessing game thn i know i would probably handle the situation very differently indeed. I beleive there is a book for partners of AS sufferers? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated..... xx

Finally got round to picking up the hefty application form from dla. I couldn't beleive my eyes when i realised they had sent it for claiming for someone who is over 16!! I phoned them they thought i wanted it which is why it was sent for me........ The good news is they said they will send a new one out, but to keep the letter than came with the one i received because if i am sucessful i will have it back dated from when i very first enquired. fingers crossed i receive it soon and of course am sucessful as ds wants ice skating lessons

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<'> <'> well done....u must be chuffed!

<'> <'> I know exactely how you feel we have had one huge meltdown tonight, with everything in sight thrown. Also hitting df. And y......all because we said 'we would see' when asked to go on his ps2. I had to explain to him he had been on it for a while already today and that his time limit was up. He either needs a definate 'NO' or 'YES' we havenow discovered! He cannot compute anything in the middle. This ASD is soo hard to understand, just when you think you have it sussed it comes and hits you hard in the face. I really think the others have given some sound advice. I have just started a temporary parent class, so if pick up anything useful from there about this i will pm u. Take care xx

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easter

Glad u have decided to go.....have a dam good time!

cbeebies

u MUST BE OVER THE MOON. Nice to hear she is doing so well!.

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thanks to you all for you own experiences. Just by the few of you that have replied i get the impression they make better friends with those with an ASD. The other reason i ask is becasue there is another undx AS boy in his class and the teacher doesn't like it because they are both 'demanding'. Maybe i should try and get friendly with his mother and invite this boy round. I know i shouldn't push him to have friends, i just don't want him to be lonely. In fact i know it effects me more than it does him. If he has 1 friend he is as happy as larry. He is in yr 1 at mo and apparently there is a yr2 boy pushing and shoving him around. When i asked why this boy was doing it he replied 'because i am strange'. How can 7yr olds pick up on this at such a young age. Why the hell don't parents explain the differences in people and to treat them as equals...not lepers! Sorry for the rant, it just makes me so b****Y mad that people look on and make their own judgement to the child. Why can't people see out of the box??? I s'pose that's society today, just wish people would bring up children to have values and to respect one another, but that is just so far and few between these days.

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QUITE AGREE!!! I go out shopping most w/ends with my mother and leave df at home with both kids. Normally come home to WW3 but he doesn't begrudge me 'me' time he appreciates how hard ds can be at times and realises i need the break. Make sure you go and make sure you have a dam good time, put yourself 1st for a change! You deserve it, just keep telling yourself that. Take care tmf xx

I was gonna put this but DF laughed at me.....he thinks i have been watching too much CSI!! Anyway Death

Just a quick question. Do any of your ASD children interact/play with other ASD children? If so, does it work well? If it works well, do they 'play' better with them than with NT children?? The only reason i ask is because my ds doesn't really have any 'friends' as such, unless they are of the opposite sex. Over the last 2 mths he has got friendly with another boy of the same age. In fact he even got invited to his house (i could have cried as that just doesn't happen with ds). When i went to collect him i had a chat with the boys mother and asked how things had been etc. She said apart from boistrous they had been fine. I went on to explain ds has AS and she said she could tell having worked with these children in the past. She is this little boys foster mum and said she believes her little boy has AS too, although not diagnosed. Now these two appear to 'click' and just wondered if any1 else had any similar experiences??

very good stresshead! pre....as in prefect!

Justamom, just watch their faces when you do....it's gr8! DPF, Tesco still use the scheme, but unfortunately it is not promoted as much as when it first came out 6/7 yrs ago. I think they just work on the basis providing you have a child with you then it is ok to use. I have mine still in the windscreen, all nice and faded now for what it is worth!