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we too prefer the home ed route - yes it is tough no breaks etc but they are learning more being out of school than they ever did in. which is what i always believed education to be about. when they are older they will have a certain degree of choice over work situations - would you work in a place that you did not feel happy or comfortable or where you were bullied, so why should school be forced just because it is the done thing. i work in school it is artificial and 75% of what they learn would only be useful to teach you how to win the pub quiz. why have kids then send them to boarding school that will not help them adjust to normal life - being part of normal life however wil and as for medication my youngest has gone worse since being on meds to relieve his anxiety and i intend to have him taken off them asap. in my opinion and it is my opinion we all spend so much time fighting the system to get our entitlement we forget to ask the kids what they want - and if they dare say they want to stay home where it is safe we announce they dont know what is good for them. each to his own my kids are happy at home and i am happy to have them and i am fed up of people telling me i have made the wrong choice, i am fed up of coming on these forums and having to keep quite about home ed because it is frowned upon so i will say it load and clear I HOME ED AND IT IS THE BEST DECISION I EVER MADE FOR MY BOYS. right rant over x

i would just like to say i know scotland is different but here in england you can get statemented after you have de-registered if you are hoping to return to school at some point. we were offered this option which we declined as we have no intention of returning our ASD kids to school.

had first DR chat when my DS was 8. i too was concerned at him hearing what i had to say. I told him beforhand why we were going and said very clearly that it was to get help for him. Dr was really good did talk to him briefly but Ds was more concerned with exploring the room and Dr got a bit anxious when Ds got too inquisative with his medical equipment.lol. I think at 31/2 your child will probably not fully understand what is going on anyway, and lets face it it needs doing and beleive me the first Dr chat was no way as hard as some of the meetings we had with camhs with ds present. good luck x

yes it may be considered necessary but it may not help prove or disprove your case. sorry i agree with Bid residency should be your battle, Dx for asd will only bring you help not harm. good luck with your battle xxx

my son had aspergers and his bedroom carries a health warning. my son has aspergers and his school don't see anything because he tries very hard to be normal there. my son has aspergers and he can behave/say/do what people expect him to but he can't do that at home. my son had speech assessment and it showed nothing because he can act 'normal' for short periods of time,he learnt that he can get into trouble if he did't say/do certain things (bad school teacher a few years ago). you may be right about your stepson but do you see enough of him so that he is relaxed enough to be himself when with you. sorry don't want to offend and if you are right then time will tell xxx

my son works brilliant 1-1 in a quiet room, but the good professionals can still see the difficulties. x

when pregnant with my youngest i told dr this time i was having a nice calm child, she asked me what makes a calm child. my reply: probably not having me for a mother - even the pets are not NT lol x

my son was DX aspergers in feb this year. school keep telling me he is only mild aspergers - but they dont live with him lol x

i asked my sons swimming teacher. she has a lot of experience with as kids and dla forms> we will see.

hi my ds 9yrs decided last year he wanted to be a catholic. he discovered he was the only one in his class who was not a catholic. local priest was great about everything and arranged his baptism for dec 5 and his first communion for boxing day. All done quick so he was at the same point as his classmates and in recognition of his problems. he had 1-1 lessons once a week from a month before the baptism till his first communion, with a nun who had experience working with asd. not sure how much of it he really understandsbut he had great fun and he only goes to church for communion and spends most of the time sat on the floor so no one can see him, but as he insists we sit in the front row that dont really work.he really enjoyed the whole process though and we had a party after baptism but kept it simple for communion as it was on boxing day. i know a couple of special needs kids doing first communion this month and one of them has no idea what it all about, but everyone else doing it. think my son got better option because he felt really special because it was all done just for him. I should point out i was brought up a cathlic but i would prefer never to have to set foot in a church. just somthing else i have to do for my child!!!!

no i dont have a permanent contract but job is fairly secure for now as i work 1-1 with a VI child who has a statement so should have another 3 years yet. Only one qualified to do this job in school and i also do a lot of clubs and cover work for them. head has been really supportive and like i said are bending over backward for me time off for appointments no trouble. oh well going to have to be strong and wait patiently whilst they sort the mess out and he moving class in a couple of months anyway and at least m accepts that i am miss at school and not mum. just unfortunate that bad days at school mean mega bad nights at home. thanks fo help. .

I suppose my main dilema is the fact that if i didnt work in the same class or the same school i would not be aware of the things that i feel are not right. for example because i work in his class i know for a fact that not only him but all the yr4 children have not done a single guided read since sept. i know for a fact that m and another child has not done any IEP work i know for a fact that class teacher does not think there is anything different with my child she hasnt even noticed that he hardly ever uses a normal voice when talking in class, i know for a fact teacher thinks my child is a brilliant little reader evven though the test the senco did gave my 9yr old a reading age of 5. all of this and more i have been talking to the head about for a while but they have to tread carefully. as a member of staff i understand their constraints etc but as a parent it worries me.

no you did not understand me, my son has no support, i did not and do not intervene with my son only watch from the by lines as others deal with him and if as in this case i nwas the member of staff who was there were a situation occured i dealt with it as a member of staff would. i did not give him the hug i knew he needed because i was working and at the first possible instance i got another ta to deal with him. it is just hard as the school seem quite happy to change things to make my life easier but dont seem to want to change things to make his a litlle easier, the whole incident was brought about because the teacher did not tell him why.....and yes i know they dont always have time, i have worked in school for many years i understand there constraints. i just wondered if anyone else out there had ever had to push issues relating to there kids whilst as the same time as working for that school. \it is a good school and nice and small which suits him, but unfortunatly in his pe sessions the staff are not fit enough to run after him which was why i mentioned my concerns to the head about the possibility of him running .

hi all, does anyone out there work in school in the same class as there aspergers child. my 9 yr old has just been diagnosed this year i have been in the same class as him because i work 1-1 with another child a year younger and the school is small and has doubled up year groups. i have been finding this hard. although m is very controlled at school i have been noticing the cracks more and more and also am trying to get school to assess his needs as he is falling further and further behind. how far can i push without this affecting my job, because i got a feeling i gonna have to push hard. they blankly refusing ed psyc due to lack of these hours so his aspergersw isn't even really being taken in to consideration, his IEP is a joke not that he gets any work on this anyway ( not school fault really just ###### teacher, she of sick at moment and head is going mad at the mess she has discovered) m had a melt down during pe last week and because i mentioned my concerns to the head she now says i cant do pe and will have to swap our timetable, she gonna do pe and i'm gonna teach science for her. but worried now because if m was to run of the field i the only member of staff out there fit enough to catch him..... will be in differnt class next year but joined up again for his yr6 year. he hates school and just getting him there is a minor miracle if they not gonna take account of his stress levels i dont know how he gonna make it to yr6. anyone in same position who can give me some advice would be much appreciated. thanks.