Just Jo

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My son walked in from school and said "whats the matter mum" they have no understanding of how you feel,its part of the condition... My son has gone from throwing things, smashing things, kicking my car and breaking anything in site, now he hits himself in the head so hard when he gets angry...... I got so desperate, calling the police was one of the hardest things i done, they had to strap him up and took him off in a police car.....It ripped me apart and must have been horrific for my son. He now hits himself really hard in the head, which is so so sad as i cant comfort him. They just need support on how to cope with how they are feeling. I just cant seem to find the help If you need to chat i will give ya my number X

My heart goes out to you, i have this with my son, i have had to call the police so many times, the first time they arrested and charged him with ABH, this broke my heart, he didnt understand why i rang them. This is now a weekly thing with my son. Last night the my little 10 year old daughter called the police because he was so so so angry, he ran towards me and went to hit me, i too lost it and grabbed his jumper, i know this was wrong of me,but i lost it. The police came and said what they always say, he needs help and support... can i get any No. Please someone tell me how to deal with this anger.. Does medication really help

Dont worry too much, my son is nearly 13 and joined and left every club there is...... Your certainly not alone in your thinking....... My son is happier doing things with those closest too him. I take him for a kick about, i brought a trampoline.... If he is happy then i am happy.... Thinking of you <'> <'> <'>

Dont feel stupid...... Its taken me 10 years to work things out.......

What was his last lesson that day..... maybe he associates the end of that school day with your partner being there....... they do have amazing memories..... Just a thought...

I thought it was only me until i joined this site the other week.........

My son is nearly 13 and he spends loads of time in his room. He feels safe up there with all his bits and bobs.. He doesnt spend much time with me either..... So i go up there with him and get him to teach me how to play on his playstation. or get him to put his best music on and dance. If he wants me to go, i say ok babe, you know im here if you change your mind. Talk about things he loves doing.... in time he will ask you to come to his room.... I really do know how you feel..... its does get easier..... <'>

The best thing i have learnt is that we can change things. I truly beleive the hardest thing is to learn to understand our child, except the way they think and listen, love and cuddle them every day.. We cant change them..... (and if we could... would we really have them any other way)

Dont feel guilty........... its not your fault..... my Aspergers son is a result of Rape....... but its not my fault.... It took my years to beleive this.... Keep positive babe.... <'> <'> <'> <'>

I always give my son plenty of time to get ready, i always say we are leaving earlier than we are, my son like yours spends ages in the shower, doing his hair, getting dressed. This usually means we are late, what i try to do is to stay calm and just give him the time he needs. If i try to hurry him up he wont do anything, he will get abusive and hurt himself or smash things up. My daughter does not come out of her room until he has left for school. I have moved all the clocks in the house 10mins forward..... ha ha naugthy i know. I find it very frustrating when he takes so long to do things.... I try to ignore the bad behaviour and really go over the top when he is being good..... although he looks at me strange, i know he loves being praised. From experience giving him the time always helps. He does say some terrible things to me, but i try not to take it personally. Its part of the condition, they cant help it. If my son swears or shouts i deduct 20p from his pocket money, if he says sorry within 10 seconds he gets it back..... It does work,but takes some time. Im here if you need me....Jo PUSH TO GET HELP IN SCHOOL...........

Thanks for your support and replies. I have today rang SNIP, and they have been very helpful, still trying to get through to IPSEA and will keep trying. I have sent a letter to the school today to see how far along they are with the Statement. I have a BIG meeting with the school soon and have asked the Educational Phy to attend along with Social Services, who will be taking notes. This site has been an amazing help to me thank you. Will let you know how i get on..... and will keep trying IPSEA.....xxxx

I would say no...... because she has eye contact and expresses her feelings. Let me know how you get on Jo

Ringing IPSEA tomorrow, feeling more positive now... thanks

Thank you soooooooo much Annie......Will get on to them Monday.... Jo xx