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Ellis never had a dummy, I didn't like the idea of using them at all, however when my (nt) daughter was teething she really suffered and we found a dummy did help soothe her through a four mouth period of awful teething and pain, then luckily one day she just lost interest and never wanted one again! I think it all depends on the child, and if you find using one useful and helpful, then fine.

Pipe and Slippers for J next, Pearl! Good Luck to him! Lisa xx

Lovely post, Pearl! <'>

That's a lovely ideal. And I totally except Ellis as he is, I am fiercely proud of him and I would never change him! But I am also very proud of my little girl being able to understand that he is special, beautiful, totally unique and completely perfect! Maybe her use of the word 'broken' is a little unsuitable, but as she gets older, I will explain this to her! The fact she has been able to pick up on his Autism on her own and form a word to describe what she sees is in my opinion very perceptive for one so young!

Thanks for all your replies in this thread! <'> Sounds like we've all got pretty amazing children!!

Awww, he is cute! Bless him! My son Ellis also loves this track!

Hello Suzie, Welcome! <'> I hope you find this place useful and supportive! I am fairly new myself, but have found the forum really helpful! Lisa xxx

Lynden, I will also be honest with my daughter about her brother, once she old enough to understand the meaning of Autism a little better! Thank You, Lisa xxx

MadMe, I think you have reacted in the way any of us would, still a shock even though you're expecting the DX! <'> You're going through an emotional rollercoaster....again. But I''m sure that you will find the strength to get through this, you're obviously a really strong lady and I wish you and your very special family all the best! Remember don't neglect yourself, us Mums are important too! Lisa xxx

Thank You, Sandra! Your little girl sounds lovely, and like a little big sister too! It's so nice to see them just accept, no questions asked. Children are so tuned in to things sometimes, when you are least expecting them to be. Again this morning my Daughter came into my room and said, "Mummy, Daddy and Romy have to kiss baby Ellis, he broke...no talking!", at this my eyes filled up and she climbed into bed with me and just hugged me really tight.....She is so loving. I love watching the interaction between them, she is so bossy with Ellis, but he seems to like being dominated!!! DD makes him sit down and brushes his hair and tries to feed him!! He just sits there smiling, quite content to be mothered! .....when he's had enough, he gives the JERRY SPRINGER "talk to the hand" gesture! Lisa xxx

My Husband is an Aspie, very high functioning, more traits I suppose! Only just dx'd a month ago. He is extremely clever and a 'big thinker'. Obsessed with Music and History(Has a degree in History, so I never noticed the obsession). Fanatical about straight lines, curtains have to be almost measured to be equal on both sides when opening/shutting!!! He is also happy to be alone in a room without any stimulus, tv, radio, books for a length of time! He has a difficult relationship with his Mum and Dad, They haven't spoken for two years and he says he always felt different as a child....He was reading books about THE THIRD REICH at age six and nobody picked up on it!! On the plus side, we never pay bills late, and our life is really organised and he is a dedicated employee at work and he likes to hoover and mop, causes he does it better (not complaining about that!)!!!

Thanks Elun and Pearl <'> <'>

To Opheila and JsMum, Gosh, you have both experienced bad holidays, so sorry to hear that. I would expected a lot more understanding in this day and age. I would report the holiday resorts to something like Watchdog or similar, they may find this very interesting...........

This last few days my two and three quarter year old NT Daughter has been observing Ellis a lot, I keep catching her watching him, so I asked her was there something the matter and she replied, "Mummy, Ellis is broke!", and she then went onto to say," He won't talk to me, he is broke...Oh poor baby Ellis (she thinks she is older!). I have never told her about Ellis because I believe it would have been too much for her to understand at such a young age, she has proved me wrong! It has just surprised me just how much she can grasp and understand about her big brother. Like at bathtime he will play with bath toys but will not try to wash himself, he wouldn't now how to....so my Daughter will take a bath scrunchie help me to clean him. I find it really strange, it's like my kids are in reverse. I suppose all lot of parents think this. When did you notice your NT Child/Children become aware of their siblings difficulties?

Hi, In answer to the question regarding Carer's Allowance, it is paid out on a basis that you look after the person on DLA for at least 35 hours per week. So I think even if you are working you can claim this. Sleeping time is counted as are weekends. I think it is middle rate that entitles you to a claim on this..... Good Luck Lisa

We also had a 2yr process of diagnosis, and we didn't get it back paid, only paid from diagnosis date.

Hi MTM, Welcome to the forum! Lisa xxx

Welcome Kate. I am NOT from Hertfordshire! I hope you find a cool way of telling your girl why she is so special! <'> Lisa xx

Excellent News!! Well Done! <'>

I love it when Pearl does this!!!!!! She is doing spelling mistakes in our other Hidey Hole also!!!

Pearl, Hope you don't mind I have posted a CONGRATS thread in BBGF!! No details in though! Lisa xxxx

Pearl, What will JP's Official Title be?

WoooooooooooooHoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! GO JP GO JP! <'> Pearl, This is fab!!!! I am chuffed for JP and you and mrpearl! OMG! I am in tears here! Happy Ones!! Well Done to you all, you have been amazingly supportive to JP, You are a fab Mum!!! Lots of Love Lisa xxxxx

Hev, I feel for you, so much. I will thinking of you and really hope that you get the help and support you need. There is always somebody here you can vent to, please remember that. <'> Lisa xxxxxxxxxx

Hello Pearl, Any news yet? Lisa xxx P.S. I couldn't find the other thread in the other place!! Hope Stratford was fab, Chester was lovely!