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I did blame myself at first, and then everyone was blaming me and dh but on our first meeting with CAMHS they said it was not our fault so felt heaps better, but I do still getthe odd person who says DD is spoilt etc........ thing is I have 3 children all as spoilt as eachother and the others are not like her I dont think spoiling them with clothes matters to a 5 yr old, she is not spoilt with toys and if anything she was spoilt with my attention because I was trying so hard to help her through her tantrums! I think the teachers think I am a bit crazy! They see the nice side of DD so as yet she is not a problem to them You dont need people like that around you hun <'> Caroline x

Ok Maisie has never been dry through the day (she is 5) but pooing was ok from the age of 3, only now she has started again she has pooed her pants at school about 4 times since September I can see the teachers are getting annoyed with it now (don't blame them one bit, I am getting annoyed too) i have warned her she will have to go to school in nappies, she stinks etc etc but nothing like that bothers her Just a bit concerned that it has started again, and even more worried that the other kids at school will start to say she smells. At our last meeting with the phycologist she just said Kids with AS quite often don't worry about things like that! Ok guys any ideas on how to get that it is dirty to sink in??? She is going to the incontance (sp) clinic on wednesday but was refered for the wetting so now got to say neither is right and I really am not sure that there is anything wrong down there, I think it is just maisie likes it. Don't ask me why though lol.

LOL Maisie is a licker too, she licks the TV and windows lol. She comments on toilets being smelly too but not really a sniffer lol.

My DD points in peoples faces and says things about them, not so much shouting out but will say things in their face in front of parents which can be tricky. She will point (nearly touching their face) and say they are a baby or that is the naughty one! She doesnt seem to get whispering or that it's rude.

I am new to AS so not as clued up as many of you, but working on it lol. My daughter has not had the MMR but reached milestones later than average, had bowel problems and was always ill with infections etc, but at the age of 5 it has become apparrent that she has learning difficulties and AS "traits" I just don't know I have mixed views about it all.

Pauline you sum up how I feel totally!! Maisie is 5, I get thouse looks too, and her latest thing is soiling her pants, so she stinks. I know the teachers are getting annnoyed with it now, I know how they feel I am at my wits end with it too. Not sure why this new one has started but hoping that it passes soon, the wetting has yet to pass she has not been dry ever. Chamhs say is maybe a sensory issue but not sure!

<'> back to you all, and thank you. Guess today is just one of those days. I know you all go through the same problems, just feel bad that I am finding it hard to deal with. Hoping that ds will calm down abit as she gets older. Thanks for your support, I hear other parents moan about their kids and feel like saying you haven't got a clue lol.

I love my DD to bits but day in day out is such a struggle with her. She plays up about going to school, then plays up about coming home She screams she is hungry but argues when it is dinner time. she wants to go to her friends party but then has a meltdown for an hour about going every normal day to day thing is like this. Everyday is like walking on glass the whole house is scared to upset her which I just find unhealthy!! I find myself struggling with the other children and being ratty because dd has zapped all my energy everyday. Over the weekend she went to her nans for the night so I could have a break but even that is not worth the hassle she comes back worse than before and I end up shouting with in 1/2 hour of her being home! I feel guilty for being a ###### mum, I am guilty of resenting her at times, I am always moaning at the other kids because I am stressed out Today I have taken her to school and just come home and cried!! How can I love a child so much and feel so much anger towards her too! Yesterday I bought her some new clothes thinking she would maybe be pleased after school, but no she had a huge meltdown over it then in the evening decided to try on jeans, didn't like them and peed in them!!!! I should never of had kids, i beat myself up knowuing this is not dds fault but still bite to her rages and find it soooo hard to switch off! You all seem to be so lovely with your kids sometimes I read your posts and just wish I could be like you all.

We have 3 girls too lol oh and 2 female cats! my husband is saying hee is out numbered lol. Only 1 teenager atm but we don't smell like hamsters we are chocking on bodyspray and perfume lol.

Hi all, just been reading through your posts and thought I would add that CAMHS have said my daughter has AS traits and is overly sociable so think it must depend on who sees your child to be honest. I also asked about PDD and was told that it is not used as dx in england????? Mainly in Australia and USA. Maisie had scored mild on an online PDD test so mentioned it at a meeting. Maisie has friends at school, but not certain friends of that makes sense? she floats around with everyone lol. This all confusses me to be honest, but her daddy came out of a meeting and said he thought he had AS lol and to be honest I think I would agree lol.

Great news about the job! If you paid by paypal for the camera you could try a claim back through them??

Awwww bless him. It is awful. Maisie seems not to realise that kids are being horrible yet, so just sort of tags along. I find myself doing the infectious rocking too lol. And her birthday party was very low key which was lucky because she decided 10 mins before she wasnt going tried to explain you usually go to your own party lol.....but in the end used the think of all your presents line lol. she did go in the end lol.

Maisie always gets "at" and "out" mixed up so when I give her the stare, the one that most kids realise they will be in trouble if they carry on , Maisie says wot you looking out! Also during a melt down oneday she said I will throw you out the door, under my breath I mumbled you wont have to I will walk! To which she replied I will throw you out then push you in again so you have to listen to me all your life!! I did have to hide my smile lol. She also says pins and noodles lol. So sweet when they are little.

wow that was quick! We have to wait 6 months gggrrr. But we are lucky and not having any problems at school so far, apart from not being dry. Glad you got your results and the statment you need.

Still waiting on dx but suspected AS she is my middle of 3 girls. Different Father to the eldest and same as my youngest who although only 7 months is concerned if I leave her and crawling already so hoping these are good signs as other dd was late meeting milestones.

Maisie does t hat sometimes but can also have a screachy kind of voice too, which tends to go right through me.

I am wondering this as well my daughter is 5 and they about to start assesments for the same.

Hi Darky, thankyou for sharing your storey with us, your daughter looks adorable, snow white??? lol Maisie would kill for that headband with the bow lol. Things must be tough for you and it is great how you all say your girls are your angels.......I spent about six months loving maisie and hating her at the same time I feel really awful about that because i was being told by everyone (family and friends mainly) that she was just plain naughty and needs to know who the boss is! Easier said than done with a child that thinks it is only her world lol. I only found this site a few days ago and it is such a relief! You have all been so lovely and made me realise so much more. Our daughters are a little different but that makes them so special too. Mind you I wasn't saying that earlier when I had to chase her out of school and 1/4 mile towards the highstreet with baby in buggy lol. How can a little girl who has a funny run get so far and so fast??? Maybe I am getting too unfit lol. Great hearing about all your daughters, I know I will be questioning you loads more so be prepared lol. Thank you all <'> Maisies_mummy xxx

this is all so interesting reading your posts, and that you are living the same lives as us lol. Maisie was always ill as a baby too and even now, her nursery attendance was around 80% she has also had lots of throat infections, scarlet fever and weird asthma (sp) attacks. She is for ever at the doctors with something or other, she eats all her veg and loads of fruit too unlike my eldest who is rarely ill. Maisie would never take medicine either and if I did manage to get it down her by brutal force she would make herself sick also impossible to disguise it in food or drink this ended up with her in A&E many times to have suppositories to bring her temperature down she was like that from a baby. Maisie sings and dances, show no embarrassment to anything even if she wets herself.....would be quite happy to still be in nappies. Only the last few months I have noticed anxiety about going out, even to her own birthday party on sunday was a struggle lol. She will usually kick up a fuss about something else to delay the process. If I put her in the bath (which is daily because she wets) she would play for hours not seeming to worry if the waters gone cold but will say she is cold afterwards and refuse to get dressed. Maisie has so far been an angel at school coping very well. I hope it stays like that. But I know she would go off with strangers, we lost her at lego land for 45 minutes and she was not the slightest bit worried even though I was crying she kept reassuring me she had queued up on a ride for her age and not pushed in! Not quite grasping why I would be worried. My problem is that I have a baby too so maisie tends to use this to her advantage and I have lost count of the amount of times I have left the baby in tesco or Next to chase maisie through a precincts. And no matter how many times I tell her of the dangers I am yet she knows never to cross a road!! Food is not a big problem as long is in order, it throws her in a spin of we have sunday dinner at 2 pm she wont eat it she has to have a sandwich then have the dinner later but she can eat breakfast at 10 am and want lunch by 10.30 and wont settle for a snack so not sure she is getting that she is hungry or knows that lunch comes after breakfast etc if she missed breakfast she would have to have cereal and a sandwich for her lunch. I don't think the food causes her tantrums as she can be like it even before breakfast. She is not hyperactive in any way only if she is over excited she doesn't get that it is time to calm down, but quite lazy really. Dinosaurs are becoming very popular in our house too lol.....wonder why they seem to go through the same things?? My friend said her little girl had problems recognizing where animals should live ie in the home, farm or zoo, Had never thought about it so asked maisie where does a rabbit live (we had one at the time so expected her to say in a hutch lol) in a warren she said, ok what about a giraffe? in Africa! (looking at me as if I am stupid) a lion in the jungle in Africa. she knew every one I asked lol. I cant say she is a perfectionist but gets frustrated about not being in total character if in dressing up. She so badly want the Cinderella apron so the birds can tie it up for her lol. I find it strange that she can keep it together at school and be so rigid at home, thats why I thought it was a control thing and just bad behavior for so long. Oh she cant do a quiet voice either, when I put her to bed she shares a room with the baby and cant manage to grasp being quiet so to not wake the baby. She can whisper though in your ear, but tends to whisper gibberish lol. and for someone who is an expert on ignoring me she will repeat herself 20 million times if I don't answer her lol. Parents tend to like maisie because she is a funny little thing but not had any invites from other children to go to their houses.

wow Nicola you sum life in our house up to a T lol. Maisie is one of the most honest little girls I know, she is loving too. And up until last year (before the tantrums got too bad) she was my little princess. She dressed like one, spoke like one and dreamed of castles and princes lol. All such fun and so cute. Maisie only knows a few swear words at the moment but if anyone else was to say them she will give them a telling off but they flow out of her mouth soooo easily in temper lol. She also threatens and tries to smash windows. I am really upset that 3 months ago I had no problem leaving her in the room with our baby but now when she gets into a rage she throws things and has had a few near misses and one hit! Maisie finds it so hard to understand that kids are being horrible too. She knows if they are spiteful but not if they run away from her or ignore her, it upsets me sooo much. maisie will insist they are her best friends still. Maisie is also holding it together at school, she has just started BIG school today lol and was star of the day I doubt the teachers will agree either with the diagnosis because they see a very different maisie to us. Maisie didn't have the MMR because she had bowel problems at the time, so know that has not done any damage in this case. Has the temper tantrums calmed down for you now?? How did you get things to change? Maisie is just turning 5 and still wetting most days....her bowels seem better but not great and not many of those accidents now. I told the phycologist that we hadn't had any collections of stuff but you saying stones reminds me that we did have snails lol. Her memory is brilliant but now after talks with her psychologist I am realizing that she does have many quirks that most other children don't. Bless her she has been doing gymnastic classes since she was 18 months and still cant do a star jump or hop she says its because she has stupid clown feet lol. I love maisie to bits, and am hoping that once we can get some sort of control over the tantrums we will be in a happier place. Sorry one more question can you go shopping?? That is the worse thing I can do. Maisie seems to really kick off and makes big scenes in the shops has thrown their displays and bitten, kicked and sworn at me in public so many times I cant take her any more.

I am new on here so Firstly Hi to everyone Is it ok if I bombard you with questions lol? Aspergers is new to us so we are learning and trying to cope lol. My daughter is going to have tests for Aspergers, I thought she had ODD but am being told she has more traits of aspergers which has come as a bit of a shock. Maisie is a lovely girl when she is nice, ever so funny has a great imagination and a little on the eccentric side lol. But the other side to maisie is horrible she has rages is very rigid with ideas swears and hits out in temper. She is rarely dry through the day, will talk to anyone and tends to be overly friendly to strangers. So going to start my questions now lol. Did your child have bowel problems? Did she walk late (maisie was 16 months) What is she into? Maisie seems to like fantasy and nature knows more about plants and animals than me! Cinderella last year. I wouldn't say she collects things but shows a bit more interest than other kids. Can she keep good eye contact?? Maisie can. Does she do random shrieks? How old when they toilet trained? Do they totally shut off when watching tv? and stand inches from it watching it? What made you ask for help? or be assessed? Mine was maisies temper tantrums that can last for hours! The reason I am asking about girls and not boys is because on the net it said girls seem to cope better than boys socially and do often have good imagination and "obsessions" in fantasy things.