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It normally is as bad as I imagine and if he's in the house he's either in your face or breaking your computer (or shower or kettle). There is no inbetween. I have told my mum he is not staying in my house after I nearly killed him the last 3 times in a row, but he's staying at my parents' house and I'll have to spend a lot of time there over Christmas. And if he's not staying in my house driving me up the wall, he'll be driving my mum and dad up the wall. He just doesn't get subtle hints like, "I'd really like some time to myself today, so I'm going out but here's a door key and I'll see you later." He'll end up asking to come with you and you have to say no multiple times until you end up losing your temper, and then he gets really upset and wants a conversation about why people are always so mean to him.

I've managed to sort it by creating a list, adding just the one person to that list, and then making myself appear offline to that list.

Please help, my uncle is driving me mad! I think he has Asperger's. This evening I was whingeing on facebook about my backache. I joked that it only hurts when I move. This led to panic stricken messages from my uncle telling me to call out the emergency doctor or go to A&E RIGHT NOW and telling me I must tell them that moving makes it worse - moving does not make it worse, that is the symptom, it hurts when I move! And I just kept saying, nah, it's OK, it's been like this since Sunday and all they will do is tell me to go to bed. Well I was kind of snappy with him after a while because I got annoyed with him, so he phoned my mum all in a panic because I was in a foul mood because the pain was so bad and begging her to come round and take me to the hospital. She did ring me because she saw a missed call from me (I was going to ask her how to make him go away), but she was going to leave it until the morning. But she's in agreement with me that I should take some paracetamol and phone the doctor if it's not better by Monday. He has the nicest intentions and was probably terrified that I was dying of backache and literally COULD NOT MOVE AT ALL and wanted me to get help immediately. But it's REALLY ANNOYING and is probably why he falls out with everyone he knows and has no friends. He's coming over for TWO WEEKS at Christmas. How am I going to cope if I can't make a joke?

Perfect, thanks!

I need to block one person from starting chat conversations with me, but without blocking chat altogether, and without blocking him altogether. Is this possible?

It sounds very sensible for someone else to read your speech for you. I'm glad they've been so understanding about this difficulty. I hope the doctor will be able to help.

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It depends on your definition of literal. Languages can be literal because there are grammar rules and you either say something right or you say it wrong. Biology seems quite vague to me. By the way, this thread is over 3 years old.

Aoelienne has suggested making your own baked beans. It doesn't really matter who it is aimed at since it is a completely inoffensive suggestion.

Hello, and welcome I love your tiger avatar because I like cats of all kinds.

Well that sounds like VERY good progress!!! It's understandable you are nervous too, but it sounds like they know what they are doing.

It's certainly not unsuitable for adults, and does explain things nice and clearly, and also goes into some of the different ways Asperger's can present. But it is aimed at children and focusses on the kinds of difficulties asperger children may get into in a school environment. If you want someone to read it who wouldn't read a "normal-sized" book and can get past the slight childishness, then I'd still say it would be good for adults.

I've got a book called Can I Tell You About Asperger Syndrome? by Jude Welton. It is especially written to help explain Asperger's to children. It looks really good to me and it gets really good reviews.

I think it's fairly unusual for food issues to get worse like that. I've become a lot more flexible with food as I've got older. I think that part of the solution has been preparing my own food. If I'm in control of how and what ends up on my plate, I'm much more open to trying new foods. This is why I think that getting children involved in growing (if possible), buying and preparing food can help with broadening diet.

Hi Janice, I am an adult with Asperger's. I don't have any children of my own, but I've heard a lot of people say their children don't really understand friendship the same way other children do. They can think they have friends when other children don't really like them. At 4 years old, your son may be completely unaware that other children don't like him. If he doesn't seem unhappy, then he probably isn't - at 4 years old it's not easy to hide your feelings. I remember when I was at school, most people didn't like me. I couldn't work out why. It's only later that I can see it was my extreme shyness - people thought I didn't want to be their friend because I never spoke to them. People with Asperger's can be very mixed. Some are quite happy with their own company and don't want friends anyway. That can be a problem when they need to mix with others but would prefer to hide away and play computer games in their bedroom all day. Most do want to have friends, but find it hard to make and keep them. Even if your son doesn't notice any problems now, he is likely to in the future. I think it's something worth addressing now. You might be able to get him some support for break times. Someone to get him involved in an organised game could provide him with the structure he needs at breaks, supervise to prevent bullying, and also to guide your son's own behaviour toward others - to help him learn new social skills. Another thing that can help with learning social skills is social stories. If you have a look on the internet you can find template stories to deal with specific issues, but you will need to change them to fit your son's needs. It helps you look at particular issues and gives options of ways to overcome them.

Personally, I'd ask them for their second offer and settle for that. Then it would be over and you do not have to worry about it any more. You can just focus on recovering. A medical report can be difficult because it's very difficult to prove to someone else that you feel pain. If you need treatment, you should be able to get that on the NHS anyway. You should not need them to pay for it.

No, only if they pay for something like physiotherapy - that would be part of your compensation and you would get less money.

Yes, but they would probably deduct their costs from it.

Cool, a flying cat! Must drive you a bit nutty though.

Well done Maybe it would be OK to be "fashionably late" for the disco??

If you see their medical expert or accept their offer to pay for your physiotherapy, they cannot settle straight away as this will take time to sort out. You can still see a physiotherapist you've organised yourself.

Yes, this forum is for people with AS. However, all members, including those with AS, need to comply with the forum guidelines and rules, which you can look at here: http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?app=forums&module=extras&section=boardrules If you don't like them, you will have to find somewhere else. The only reason your second thread had to be locked was because it was a continuation of the first one that was closed.

That was a bit uncalled for. I take it you wouldn't use the state-funded NHS, education system, or roads then.

Gutcruncher clearly does not want any of the advice that people here can offer so I'm going to close this now.

Pointing is a way of communicating things you want or are interested in. It doesn't make any difference whether he's doing it "right" if he's getting his point across. It sounds like progress to me.