llisa32 Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Well.....J's school weeks been going extremely well <'> and I just had a chat with LSU today to make sure they'd been given a copy of the Ed Psch report. She did have a copy which was great...and then we got into a discussion about what the Ed Psch believed diagnosis should be etc etc. I told her that the Ed Psch is quite positive that J has aspergers, but that we have to wait until Feb (after SALT assess) for 'official' diagnosis. She then said - 'hmmmm....well...I don't know about that...yes I can see a couple of 'traits'...but J has a sense of humour and thats not usual with aspergers'......so off i went and found the nearest brick wall in which to rest my head! Now....I know from you guys on here - both parents and grown up aspies that there is indeed a fair amount of humour to be found - anyone know why peeps believe if you're AS you don't have a sense of humour?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Hi.Maybe it is a misconception based on the fact that some people with ASD understand things literaly so do not get sarcasm and hence some jokes ????? but just because people have a diffferent sense of humour does not equal not having one. Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted January 10, 2008 anyone know why peeps believe if you're AS you don't have a sense of humour?? Because it's often not a 'jokes' sense of humour... Ben doesn't 'get' jokes all that often, and when he does he tends to go 'ahhh, yes, i see... it's because it sounds like... (something else)... that it's funny, isn't it?' But when he does get them straight off he enjoys them, he has a very GSOH for visual stuff/absurdities etc and as his vocabulary expands he'll get more an more of the other stuff too. I think the teacher should be looking to see if it's an age appropriate sense of humour and/or what elements of humour he 'gets' before making sweeping generalisations... L&P BD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mumble Report post Posted January 10, 2008 The Comprehension of Humour I think there's a conflation of 'humour' and 'understanding'. I struggle with some jokes etc (especially BD's . . . . ) that rely on language interpretation more than much else (peas/pees being a 'good' example), but just cause my comprehension of such humour may be weaker, does not in anyway equate with not having or having a weak sense of humour. Different sometimes, but still there . . . Now I suggest rather than you hitting the brick wall , you throw said wall (in neatly sized chunks) at LSU teacher. If her head happens to get in the way, that be her own fault - should have ducked!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mumble Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Ben doesn't 'get' jokes all that often, and when he does he tends to go 'ahhh, yes, i see... it's because it sounds like... (something else)... that it's funny, isn't it?' Did you see the last ever 'joke' at the end of the last Vicar of Dibly that was repeated last night?? It soo made me think of this - The vicar's new hubby ended up explaining the joke and play on words to Alice and it was just like the 'ah I see . . .' Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted January 10, 2008 (edited) I think there's a conflation of 'humour' and 'understanding'. I struggle with some jokes etc (especially BD's . . . . ) that rely on language interpretation more than much else (peas/pees being a 'good' example), but just cause my comprehension of such humour may be weaker, does not in anyway equate with not having or having a weak sense of humour. Different sometimes, but still there . . . Ah Mumble you appear to be working under the misconception that NT individuals don't struggle with BD SOH Edited January 10, 2008 by Karen A Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rach04 Report post Posted January 10, 2008 dont you just wish all our kids were all the same so professional didnt get confused lol. j gets things like youve been framed, but doesnt get jokes (might do eventually) and he doesnt get jokes within a tv program ie only fools etc Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Sorry, but ..... GAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!!!! How dare she make such a sweeping generalization? My aspie mate doesnt get jokes, but she is one of the funniest people I know & when out on walks together we sometimes have to stop & cross our legs we are laughing so hard. Sorry, TMI .... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KateBall Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Don't you just hate the way some peeps make authoritative statements as if they have authority on the subject. Especially those that have some "authority" in a different field. That's where they should stay. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
llisa32 Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Yep I agree with all of you! And I haven't yet told the LSU that actually no one else thinks J has 'Dyslexia' - only them....... I'm saving that for when we get full diagnosis in Feb - then do it all in one go! I confess I might enjoy it just an ickle bit Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justamum Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Don't you just hate the way some peeps make authoritative statements as if they have authority on the subject Particularly when they have had no medical training what-so-ever and they make medical diagnoses! But hey we are just 'dumb' parents must 'bow' to their infinitude wisdom..NOT Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flora Report post Posted January 10, 2008 She then said - 'hmmmm....well...I don't know about that...yes I can see a couple of 'traits'...but J has a sense of humour and thats not usual with aspergers'......so off i went and found the nearest brick wall in which to rest my head! lisa, not to put too fine a point in it, what the LSU said is utter bollox!!!!!!!!!!! Often people with AS don't 'get it', when there are jokes being bandied about in conversation, but I've never come accross anyone with AS who doesn't have a very sophisticated sense of humour (that's not to say they don't exist, I've just never met one!). The reason why she doesn't think they should have an SOH is because she's read something that says they don't! It's a popular myth, along with 'everyone who has AS is a genius'. Flora XXXXXXX Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nic m Report post Posted January 10, 2008 Well you will have to invite her to my house then to watch my daughter's reaction to mr bean! She laughs so hard when watching this, that it is infectious. Although she needs to understand jokes to get them, she loves slapstick humour and is also starting to understand sarcasm a wee bit. Nic Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MichelleW Report post Posted January 10, 2008 A bit like the generalisation that you can't get eye contact - which was why J wasn't diagnosed at 3 - and that came from a specialist paediatrician. 3 years later he was diagnosed with autism - and he has a sense of humour - again more of a visual one - like Tom and Jerry, Garfield the Movie, and cat in the Hat type humour. And he knows how to make his little brother laugh by talking in a funny way - which is a kind of humour! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted January 10, 2008 steve is very very funny and has a brilliant sense of humour,the silly womans talking rubbish Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stressedmumto2 Report post Posted January 10, 2008 My T has a wicked sense of humour too and does get jokes sometimes and will invent his own!! <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cattubb Report post Posted January 10, 2008 My son (5 at the end of the month) has aspergers AND a wicked sense of humour when he wants to. Put it this way he appeared down in the lounge 10 minutes ago 'wearing' Darth Vader Mr Potato Head hat, arms and mask and laughing uncontrolably. Anyone who says Aspies don't have a sense of humour are talking utter tosh. xxxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
darky Report post Posted January 10, 2008 One parent I know was told by a SENCO that her child could not possibly have an ASD as he has a beautiful smile I hate steriotypes. It's like saying every person with Autism is like Rain Man. People still do think that. A teacher or TA that comes out with that kind of thing needs training! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
