hev Report post Posted February 21, 2008 i know this applies to nt children as well but steven just loves being with the boys who get in trouble to be honest i spose their parents consider steve to be the wrong type cos he can be a little you know what!! i want him to have friends,its all ive ever wanted but these boys are awful,you know the types who swear on buses and throw things but he thinks they are great when hes at mine its fine cos they live near my mum but hes trying to get over with them all the time,its difficult cos he hasent actually done anything wrong yet if you know what i mean so if i stopped him seeing them he wouldnt understand the reason,i just know theres something waiting to happen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cariad Report post Posted February 21, 2008 I'd persuade your son to maybe invite other children home to tea and encourage different friendships. Also stress to your son that it's not nice to swear and throw things etc, and use a bit of reverse physcology and tell him how good he is not to copy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kinda Report post Posted February 21, 2008 hi Hev I know its not much help to you at present the way you feel but all you can do is to try and dissuade him from seeing them with your reasons why. My son was the same and he has turned out OK and saw in the end that they weren't achieving anything in their life and he sort of grew out of the friendships. Luckily he was too scared to be too naughty but he had his moments with a bus driver who stopped his bus and chased him across the field. The police interviewed my son and the driver and I think the bus company took no action because they are short of bus drivers!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kinda Report post Posted February 21, 2008 (edited) Posted by mistake, sorry Edited February 21, 2008 by Kinda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted February 21, 2008 *nods* know what you mean hev, I so wanted JP to have friends but the ONLY boy who ever knocked at our door had MAJOR probs of his own. I followed my gut instinct & discouraged it, I'd rather he had no friends than unsuitable friends, & time has proved me right, we ended up calling the police over something this boy did a few years later. Trouble is, our kids do seem to attract kids who have their own issues, its so difficult to know what to do. <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted February 21, 2008 Hev <'> No advice, not had to deal with this yet, other than some of eldest DD's friends can be abit manipulative.....be interested to read what everyone else has experienced though, and how they've dealt with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted February 21, 2008 well my gut feeling was proved right!! steve was with the said mates last night and they got hold of a bottle of spirits and drunk the lot he is now over with me till he goes back to school on monday Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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soraya Report post Posted February 21, 2008 Oh no how worrying for you, is he okay with you not letting him go to your mums? I know if l try to stop Nick going anywhere he would just get violent and have a huge meltdown!! Good luck honey <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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hev Report post Posted February 22, 2008 Oh no how worrying for you, is he okay with you not letting him go to your mums? I know if l try to stop Nick going anywhere he would just get violent and have a huge meltdown!! Good luck honey <'> <'> yeah hes fine with it,thing is,he knows when i mean business so hes got no choice today,he knows how i feel about him drinking alcohol,got a few stormy days ahead i reckon but im not giving in Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dooday24 Report post Posted February 22, 2008 wat a nitemare hev.. and good luck with the next few days <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> love donnaxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted February 22, 2008 yeah hes fine with it,thing is,he knows when i mean business so hes got no choice today,he knows how i feel about him drinking alcohol,got a few stormy days ahead i reckon but im not giving in Well done, hun Bidx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soraya Report post Posted February 22, 2008 good luck and keep strong Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
av16 Report post Posted February 22, 2008 Hope things go well. My boy wants to mix with boys that get up to no good too. At the moment it's not such a problem as he's 10. When he goes to secondary school in Sept I can see it all changing. Good luck <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted February 22, 2008 good luck vibes needed tonight!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
