thank god i found you!

[spottydog]

Hi everyone. I am the parent of a 9 year old boy with aspergers. he is in mainstream school but finds life very stressful. as its school hols at present i too am finding life stressful! so its great to have found a forum where people understand what we are all going through. he is 'academically' gifted, but socially he struggles agreat deal. extremely literal and repeats many lines of conversation to try and work out what is meant. i love him to bits but his behaviour causes huge strain on family relationships, i rarely get a break in school hols as no one else (incl. my own family) will look after him. we're only on day 4 of holidays and i've started taking herbal stress relief tablets! no one else really seems to understand the pressure we are under, health services say we are coping well and their is really nothing else that they can offer to support us. My other child is 7 and has anxiety issues herself and school report states poor self-esteem - well what a surprise! He bickers/bullies her constantly and i really mean non-stop, won't touch/eat of/ anything that she has handled and basically wishes she did not exist/would die. i honestly don't think he would bat an eye-lid (sorry literal thinkers) if something serious happened to her - he would probably celebrate.

[bid]

Welcome to the forum

 

Bid

 

 

[something_different]

welcome to oor clan spottydog

[Kathryn]

Welcome, spottydog!

 

Sorry to hear life is tough. We'll do our best to help you get through the holidays - you can always come here to let off steam.

 

K x

[frogslegs]

Welcome!

[MOSEY]

Hullo and welcome!

 

My two boys have a very love/hate relationship. I get your drift!

 

Nice to meet ya!

[NickyB]

Hi spottydog and welcome

 

I have 2 boys - an 11 year old and a 6 year old with ASD - I completely understand where you're coming from!

 

Nicky <'>

[Teresa]

Hello and welcome to the forum

 

Teresa

Edited July 24, 2009 by Teresa

[Teresa]

Hello and welcome to the forum

 

Teresa sorry posted twice

Edited July 24, 2009 by Teresa

[mariag]

He bickers/bullies her constantly and i really mean non-stop, won't touch/eat of/ anything that she has handled and basically wishes she did not exist/would die. i honestly don't think he would bat an eye-lid (sorry literal thinkers) if something serious happened to her - he would probably celebrate.

 

 

Hi Spottydog

You sound like you are describing my oldest son who is 12, he is waiting for a diagnosis of Aspergers, he has 2 younger siblings boy and girl who have ASD so it is mad round here, they are always fighting, but reading this forum always helps, there is so much practical advice here! Keep reading and welcome to the forum.

Maria x

 

[spottydog]

thank you all for welcoming me to your forum. actually had a fairly calm day today so feeling pretty positive at the moment - I know it never lasts, but I can kid myself for a few hours!

[emma in wiltshire]

Hello, I have a son who is 7 with a diagnosis of ASD. He is just like your son having read your description. He shows the same disregard for his younger brother who is 4 as your son does for his sister. I am separated from my son's father so my boys spend some of the school holidays with him so I do get a break. I can totally understand that you do need some support and a break for your own sanity. It helps to have that time to reflect on how you are approaching your parenting and to recharge etc.

 

Let me know how you are getting on. I am hoping to make some future friends on this forum to hopefully meet up with in the future for my benefit and my son's.

[JsMum]

My son who is 12 is very demanding and challenging and believe me though there is massive improvements in all areas since going to residential specialist school and this year has been the best holiday ever I have struggled,

 

I am totally exhausted and I feel great resentment to our authorities for totally letting down our family yet again,

 

All the promises they made have not materialised and Ive been left to cope alone, like you I dont have family and doing it 24-7 really takes the stuffing out of you, so please know that I totally know were your coming from,

 

When J goes back to school I have more time to sort out the respite for when its the holidays, believe me when I say this, I just cant do it again, its totally done me in.

 

Contact a family have booklets on what kinds of provisions you can access, as a carer you are entitled to a break, and as your son has a disability he is entitled to activities and recreation that meet his needs,

 

http://www.cafamily.org.uk/families/index.html

 

My son has a sessional worker and he was suppose to do 3hrs a week but he is off sick, there was no replacement but do look into sessional workers and other spersific support for social and recreational needs.

 

National autistic society also have information on services for children with Autism and there may be one in your area do do check with NAS if there is anything near you.

 

I dont know how we have managed the holidays, we did have a week away with support so maybe that helped me but still its been really hard for me too.

 

Well done for getting throw it.

 

You can request a Carers assessments and also an assessment on your sons needs.

 

JsMumxxxx