hev Report post Posted March 16, 2006 ive planned my day out tomorrow for ages now,its st patricks day and im going out with my mate,im not irish but its a day out!! anyway my partner has been huffy about it for a few days now,i look after kids all the time,when he does it,its classed as BABYSITTING,even his family call it that,its one thing what really bugs me,hes putting a dampner on my day and i can feel a big row coming on but i dont want to row,god i feel so annoyed,need to take some deep breaths i think Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paula Report post Posted March 16, 2006 <'> ###### to him hev. Why shouldnt you have a day out.I could understand it if say you were of to a nightclub while all houres but hell fire a day out no doubt shopping,lunch girly natter why not. Men make yer sick at times.As women you feel obliged to thank them if they do owt round the house or its seen as there doing you a great big favour coz there looking after the kids.When we do it all the bloomeing time. He'll be thinking if he kicks up and makes you feel uncomfortable then youll say oh ok ill not go out and he'll have won. Try not to get into a row with him hev though it aint easy take it from someone who regulary kicks her hubby up the backside. You go out enjoy yourself and ###### him. For the record i go out shopping with my Nt daughter every single saturday and leave my hubby and As son in the house.I call it my escape.I need it. When i get home though the first thing i hear is oh thankgod were starving were hungry whats for tea.I could ###### shoot them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jen Report post Posted March 16, 2006 just play it down. You have made the arrangement, he knows about it. Do not upset yourself as you need a break. Jen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tmf Report post Posted March 16, 2006 <'> ###### to him hev. Why shouldnt you have a day out.I could understand it if say you were of to a nightclub while all houres but hell fire a day out no doubt shopping,lunch girly natter why not. Men make yer sick at times.As women you feel obliged to thank them if they do owt round the house or its seen as there doing you a great big favour coz there looking after the kids.When we do it all the bloomeing time. He'll be thinking if he kicks up and makes you feel uncomfortable then youll say oh ok ill not go out and he'll have won. Try not to get into a row with him hev though it aint easy take it from someone who regulary kicks her hubby up the backside. You go out enjoy yourself and ###### him. QUITE AGREE!!! I go out shopping most w/ends with my mother and leave df at home with both kids. Normally come home to WW3 but he doesn't begrudge me 'me' time he appreciates how hard ds can be at times and realises i need the break. Make sure you go and make sure you have a dam good time, put yourself 1st for a change! You deserve it, just keep telling yourself that. Take care tmf xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jill Report post Posted March 16, 2006 Babysitting Well, if that's what he thinks (that it's a service he is providing) then why not present him with a bill for the washing, cleaning, ironing, cooking, chauffeur services, butler, waitressing, childminding......... I could go on and on and on and on. AND that's excluding certain "specialist" services!!! The money you make would certainly pay for you to have a few days out with the girls!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paula Report post Posted March 16, 2006 I always say to my husband if youd to ###### pay for someone to wash,cook,clean,childmind,shop,and put out in the bedroom department you wouldnt be able to ###### afford me on the wages you earn.So sod of man !!!!!!!!!!!!!! That shuts him up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justamom Report post Posted March 16, 2006 Hev, he can't begrudge you a day out, my hubby does the same its because he cant cope alone with the kids they run rings round him... Go and enjoy yourselve you deserve a break from the kids and a chill out. justamom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted March 16, 2006 paula,every post you do makes me laugh!!thanks for that im def going out tomorrow 10am start,god knows what state i will be in when i get back,i cant wait Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justamom Report post Posted March 16, 2006 enjoy tomorrow hev (paula cracks me up too,laughter is the best medicine) justamom Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tmf Report post Posted March 16, 2006 Glad u have decided to go.....have a dam good time! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paula Report post Posted March 17, 2006 Have a great day Hev. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jomica Report post Posted March 17, 2006 This is the fairy tale that should have been read to all little girls! Once upon a time, in a land far away, a beautiful, independent, self-assured princess happened upon a frog as she sat, contemplating ecological issues on the shores of an unpolluted pond in a verdant meadow near her castle. The frog hopped into the princess' lap and said: "Elegant Lady, I was once a handsome prince until an evil witch cast a spell upon me. One kiss from you, however, and I will turn back into the dapper, young prince that I am and then, my sweet, we can marry and set up housekeeping in your castle with my mother, where you can prepare my meals, clean my clothes, bear my children, and forever feel grateful and happy doing so." That night, as the princess dined sumptuously on lightly sauteed frog legs seasoned in a white wine and onion cream sauce,she chuckled and thought to herself: "...... I don't (expletive deleted by Jomica) think so." Enjoy your day and don't give it another thought! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mel Report post Posted March 17, 2006 Now, if id been told that fairy tale things would definately have been different in my house. me and the kids live without a fella and its great. i love my man but i love my independance from him more. Hope you had a wonderful day Hev. <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kirstie Report post Posted March 17, 2006 Babysitting Well, if that's what he thinks (that it's a service he is providing) then why not present him with a bill for the washing, cleaning, ironing, cooking, chauffeur services, butler, waitressing, childminding......... I could go on and on and on and on. AND that's excluding certain "specialist" services!!! The money you make would certainly pay for you to have a few days out with the girls!!!! Yes Jill i couldn't agree more! Jomica loved the story if i had a daughter i'd read it to her every night! Paula, you're a star!!! you make me laugh out loud every time!! I hate it so much when my partner says things like, "I've done the dishes for YOU" or"I'll have the kids for YOU!" to whichi reply, "Are they ALL MY dishes???" and i believe that it takes two to make a little bouncing bundle of joy!!! GGGRRRRRRRRRR. but i make sure i get that time out i need too, it's so important. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paula Report post Posted March 20, 2006 Hev Can we have an update on youre day out.What you bought shops you visited how much drink if any you had.Were all dead nosey. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
