Jadensmum

Jaden has "severe" ASD and mild cerebral palsy. He was born at 40 weeks, quick labour but he got into distress and came out with the cord around his neck. This is just before the midwives dropped him I think his birth has a lot to do with the way he is.

I've had a nightmare with my SW...we were referred to SS in January 2008 to see if were eligible for Direct payments. After a few months of chasing my SW we finally had an assessment. After, a few months of her coming to the house and asking me the same questions week after week, she told me our request would go to panel in September. It finally went to panel in November, we then couldn't be paid until January as she had not completed the forms properly. I've been lied to on several occasions and after complaining about her I've been told that if I don't continue working with her, I will only have duty social workers visiting us. Apart from the Direct Payments, she did nothing else in those 9 months. I feel like telling them to bog off as I could do with one less person coming to the house to waste my time If I didn't think I'd need them in the future I would, but then it seems I don't have a SW at the moment anyway.....

No advice - just wanted to say Good Luck <'>

Well done <'>

You are not being stupid at all <'> <'> <'>

You have been given some great advice. Just wanted to say Good Luck <'>

Jaden is not my husbands son and although he knew that J had Autism before we got together, things are still difficult especially when talking about the future. Joybed - do we have the same husband? Seriously though, online shopping is the way to go. A lot of kids, ASD or not hate supermarkets and although I agree with you...why should you not go to the supermarket because of a few small minded twonks?...I can understand how stressful it is.

I don't have time to respond properly at the moment but will come back to this later. I can definitely relate to this. Hurrah for online shopping

Hope you have a better week next week <'>

I agree with Chris. My experience is that if a target is not reached it is carried forward, altered or dropped altogether depending on J's progress and how achievable the target actually is. Must admit I've never heard of percentages being used but then like Chris said everywhere is different.

I think you're being really unfair to be honest and making many sweeping generalisations Emum. By starting this new thread you are bound to cause the kind of discussion you apparently don't want to see on here. I also joined the forum a few years ago and yes it was different then. But that's life. People come and go, people's circumstances change...it's just the way it goes with this forum and the same with other forums I am a member of. People come to this forum for support and advice and from what I can see they get excellent support and advice from may people who are in similar positions to them. Obviously, people are going to get stressed out and upset from time to time and discussions are going to get heated. Life wouldn't be very interesting if everyone were the same and agreed on everything. I'm going to leave this now as I can't seem to word my post correctly without stating the obvious.

I agree with everything Kathryn has said. I wouldn't feel comfortable discussing it over the phone as I like to be prepared and i think it's much safer to write everything down. I would even go so far as emailing them to re iterate what you said on the phone but make sure you get across exactly what you want to say. I always rant and repeat myself when I get emotional on the phone

You have already received some really good advice from Stardust so just wanted to say Good Luck and to the SENCO.

Well done

No advice really just wanted to offer a <'>