Malika

Hi except that wifes are so bright that they have no need for such device they unfortunatly do pick up on husband inner thoughs (when there is any) very quickly even if they pretend not to for the sake of peace (their own peace I mean).

hmmmm vibrating hanheld I think most husband should use it to understand their wife .... (to be taken literaly no jokes intended of course.. )

Thinking of you right now GOOD LUCK>>> <'> <'> <'> Malika.

Hi Pingu, and all <'> <'> <'> <'> Another one to share the boat I hope it won't sink due to overcrowding, as H is quiet and very bright according to the tests (from the EP LEA) (and I am convince that they set up their test according to the result they want to find) and in spite of the medical team raccomendation and his DX (ASD) he receives very little support,waiting for him to fall further behind unfortunatly this is an ongoing story as if a child does not fall 4 years behind his peers it seems that he won't receive much as a support however while AS or HFA is not well recognised except when there is behaviour problem (disruptive ) dyslexia and dyspraxia are better recognised and it seems that with a proper DX LEA eventualy have to do something. Pingu I think you cannot rely on LEA test but you should try to get an assesment for dyslexia from may be the dyslectic society or some similar bodies. The ongoing trick from professionals GP teachers OT and the like is to write that parents are concern implying however that they are not... (why do those SEN children have parents ..? they are such a nuisance..!!! ) Hope things get better for you. <'> Take care. Malika.

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Hi Viper <'> your poem I just love it it is so beautiful thanks for sharing with us...with or without Brandy. Take care. Malika.

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Hi A bit late to this one but it seems very interesting I have nearly read all the book from Ian now and no doubt he is really an expert, I stilll hope H will accept to wear glasses soon as I am certain that his vision is creating so much difficulties in his life. Carole and Ian congratulations.... Malika.

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Hi Paula, <'> <'> <'> Please don't give up I doubt those B... ds will dare to take a court action and go in front of a judge with that kind of inaccurate file full of ignorance, face recognition difficulties can be foud in children with As or ASD but is not essential for a DX. Why don't you try to contact the National autistic society they may be able to help you. I hope something comes through and that this nightmare will be over.. do not give up your son and tell them that you want support not blame. The systeme is so unefiscient and all what they give as an answer is to find some way to degrade the parents to protect their little cosy job and their pension without having to question themself or anybody within the system. It makes me so angry keep posting you will find support here <'> Take care. Malika

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<'> <'> Hi Brook, <'> <'> Some times on your own this is quite a good news, you see what I remember with H when he did not want to stay at school (and sreeming his head off for 45 mns after i had left) and did not want to leave me was that he needed to know was where I was going (home or which shop or hospital) and how would I come back (bus or underground) if he was able to relate to the places I was telling him about, his anxiety would lessen sometimes I had to lie because he did not know the place I was going to. As well for very long time I had to tell him that I would always be back for him. Now it seems that he is reassured that I am always back home or back to school to collect him or if he goes I am at home waiting for him, sometimes he keeps asking will you be back to cook my dinner? ot is Daddy cooking and you will be back for my bed time. When he knows all this he is much more settled. Not to mention various treat to encourage him and many positive comments. This Saturday I joke with him telling him "I hope you will take good care of Daddy and say to my partner "be good with H I don't want any complain if not there won't be any treat" H was absolutly delighted with the joke and kept giggling until I was out... Take care I hope you had some time to relaxe. Malika.

Hi to all, <'> If I think only from my own point of view then my children do controle me quite a lot ASD or NT, but if I go on the other side of the fence I am the one who is in controle most of the time for so many things in life, in fact for me everything and everybody controle me to a certain point and I do the same I think the "problem" is not the controle it is the degree of it the recurence and the intention behind it. In some way as I get older I am becoming much more lay back as my Mum was quite controlling but never get me to comply except if I had decided that it was OK to do so what ever the reason for it, I mean by this that the only real controle is when the persone mind is controle the rest is just appearances, you may give people the impression that you listen and comply but your thought may be of the most rebellious and acting out in a way while you think the other way, is a form of controle as well. For people with AS it is different as they do not play that game but just express their thought openly. So their form of controle is at the first degree and more apparent which does not mean that they are more controlling probably less they can be easely manipulated and this can be use to controle them as well. With my children as far as they accept certain rules for their health and safety I am very lenient but if they push the boundaries too far then they know that I can be quite forceful, but they rarely see that side of me as I tend to absorb all the shock like a cushion letting them enough space to express themself. I know that my partner think that I am not strict enough especialy since they grow older but I see it as a difference of culture beside being a mother I like to see them happy and have no taste for useless conflict. Malika.

Hi, <'> I completely agree with this and see it every day H is unable to make friends at school but always start chating with adults teachers shop keepers adult friends.... very freely even over doing it.... How can somebody understand about imagination in a child if they don't know what he is watching or reading how can they know if he picked it up or not? You are right to ask for a second opinion and no professional should comment on this. All the best. Malika.

Well this is difficult to resist a cat and a good action <'> ,I would get the cat and try to keep her in door as much as I can. If she is a kind of in door type of cat and a bit older it should work. Take care. Malika.

Hi Brook and all, <'> I had the same thing with H he is going to be 9 in August and seems to get a bit better now every 2 weeks I go out for shopping on Saturday and he stay with his step Dad without so much fuss I think as welll because it has been included in the routine for going out it is more complexe but sometimes he will enjoye going out with a friend of mine who has known him since he was a baby. he recently refused to stay with his sister to go to the cinema while I was doing some shopping because it was not with me.... but I think things will improve as there are sign of him accepting more separation from me and less anxiety but it has to be plan and explain before hand. The best way forward seems to try to push the boundaries very slowly and always to explain what is going to happen in advance may be to promesse a treat or some more time on the computer (this worked for H) when he comes back could be an incentive. Take care. Malika.

What a lovely news. you must be over the moon. I hope we will be able to read it I love poetry.

Hi Paula and welcome to the forum. <'> <'> <'> I have just finish to read your post and feeling so sorry for you. When is the report coming through? do you know? do not sign anything before this, when have you seen the private doctor who made the DX? Is that Dr going to send the report directly to the SS ? Keep us posted and let us know what is happening try not to worry too much as when the repport comes through things will probably change for the better. Take care. Malika.